Am I Enough?
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Am I Enough?

There’s a quiet ache that many of us carry. You feel it just before sleep, when the noise of the day dies down. Or when you’re alone on a walk, and the world softens for a moment.

It’s not loud. Not dramatic. Just a soft, persistent sense that something inside feels… off. A little disconnected. A little tired. A little lost.

You may have a beautiful life. You may look successful to others, maybe even to yourself. But beneath it all, there's a feeling that constantly asks:

Am I Enough?


This Feeling

It can feel like you're always trying, trying to prove something, to earn something, and finally feel that you're doing okay.

You might think:

  • If I just achieve more, maybe I’ll feel worthy.

  • If I can stay strong and hold it together, I’ll be safe.

  • If people really knew the mess inside, maybe they wouldn’t stay.

And so you keep going. High-functioning. Focused. On it.

But deep down, there’s often this whisper: Something is missing!

Not because you’re broken. But because somewhere along the way, parts of you got quiet. Or were asked to leave the room.


This Fracture

It doesn’t happen all at once. It happens slowly. Over time. Quietly.

  • You were praised for being good, so you tried to be even better.

  • You learned to smile even when you were hurting.

  • You put away your softness, your wildness, your confusion, because there wasn’t space for them.

  • You built a life that looked right, even if something inside didn’t feel right.

We all do it. We shape-shift to fit in. We edit ourselves to feel accepted. We wear masks so well that eventually, we forget we are wearing one.

And one day, we wake up and wonder: Where did I go?


This Disconnection

Carrying this feeling, of not being enough, not being whole, is heavy. It can feel like:

  • You’re always performing.

  • You’re rarely fully at ease, even in safe places.

  • You struggle to rest, because rest feels like laziness.

  • You doubt yourself even when others believe in you.

  • You look like you're thriving, but inside… you're surviving.

It’s not about weakness. It’s not about failure. It’s about disconnection.

Not just from others. But from your own self.


No Room to be Whole

It’s not just you. The world we live in doesn’t always make room for wholeness.

  • We’re taught to be productive, not present.

  • We’re praised for our polish, not our realness.

  • We post the best parts, and hide the messy ones.

  • We get used to being seen, but not really known.

And so it becomes normal to keep parts of ourselves tucked away. But normal isn’t the same as natural. And normal doesn’t always mean right.


Memories of being Whole

If any of this stirs something in you, that’s not a mistake. That stirring is the part of you that remembers what it feels like to be whole. To be at home in your own skin. To breathe all the way down to your belly. To show up without the need to prove or perform.

That part of you hasn’t disappeared. It’s just been waiting.

There’s no advice here yet. No next steps. Just a quiet invitation:

- Pause. Notice what you feel. That is enough for now.

Suveer Puri

Cord Blood Banking & Cellular Therapy Advocacy

2mo

Love this 👌

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Jatin Kaji, CPIM, PMP

SAP Delivery Manager / Solution Architect

2mo

Insightful, thank you Shahrukh

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Shrayas Saranathan

Leadership & Transformation Consultant | Certified ICF Coach | Driving Noticeable Results in 3 Months | ex-Alstom, Wipro, Mojos Kitchen

2mo

That stirring within you when things are going great and that which hits you when you are down and out….both just need a pause….and that’s what I did after reading this. Great piece Shahrukh Patel

Radhika Unni

VP, NTT DATA | Former Accenture MD | Consulting Leader in Cloud and Digital Transformation | DEI & Women in Tech Advocate | Regional Business Builder

2mo

Enjoying your writing ….….keep it coming …. One of the things I have always questioned is how though everyone talks about being authentic … no one really wants the real authentic you ….they want the version of you that works for them..

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