Embracing the Empty Nest: A Fresh Perspective on Work-Life Balance

“The kids are off on their own and the house is suddenly quieter. It’s an odd mix of pride and melancholy, but amidst the emotional whirlwind, there’s a unique opportunity to reassess and recalibrate.” I wiped my face covered in snot and tears as read this in my WhAt To eXpEcT wHeN tHeY lEaVe book. 😭 Clearly, they got the emotional bit right! The "empty nest" phase is a transformative period that can offer a fresh perspective on work-life balance, especially if you are like me and have recently taken significant time away from work to focus on what matters most. Some might snicker at the length, but I take pride in my ability to walk away so easily for just shy of a month from all work – I did not bring my laptop and the phone did not ring once! Being able to fully focus on what matters most in my life was just what I needed to not only come up for air with a fresh perspective and outlook on daily life, but also enjoy the moments as a family before we became one fewer in size.

A Pause to Reflect

Taking time away from work was a necessary step. It allowed me to reconnect with myself, evaluate my priorities, and truly understand what I value most. This pause wasn't just a break from the daily grind; it was a journey inward, a chance to reflect on where I’ve been and where I want to go. If you are a people manager, consider this your reminder to check in on your people – there should be a limit on how long they can function without a clean / long break. This amount of time will vary by person, yes this is a person-based metric not something you can based on a team wide policy on.

Halfway Down the Mountain

My history with "work-life balance" feels like I have been able to climb about halfway down a mountain! It’s been a challenging path with moments of triumph and setbacks. While I’ve made significant progress, I recognize that there’s still a way to go before I am centered in all areas of my life. This new empty nest phase provides a unique vantage point, a chance to look back at the climb so far and the ability to plan the remaining descent with more wisdom and clarity.

Savoring the Present

One of the most liberating aspects of this stage is the freedom to savor the present moment. This period is an opportunity to recharge and relish the present, there is no urgency to make carpool or practice or this activity or that birthday party. Ok, mom jokes aside, I am able to focus on the areas of my life that didn’t get as much attention when my cup was overflowing (for me, that’s the work out equipment covered in drying laundry!).

Deciding What’s Next

With the newfound time and clarity, the question of what to focus on next looms large. It’s both exciting and daunting. There’s a sense of limitless potential, but also this pressure to make meaningful choices quickly. I constantly remind myself that this decision isn’t about rushing back into the same patterns but thoughtfully considering what brings joy, fulfillment, and balance.

Strategies I’m Using Moving Forward

• Prioritize Self-Care: Continue to make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Whether it's washing your hair, eating fresh produce, or simply taking long walks with the dogs, whatever your self-care is - it is crucial.

• Set New Goals: Reflect on what you’ve always wanted to achieve but never had the time for. Set small, manageable goals to start moving in that direction – your nest did not become empty overnight, so this change doesn’t need to move at any certain pace.

• Stay Connected: Maintain strong connections with friends and family. Social support is vital during transitions, especially ones that feel like a loss. Not only should you lean on your existing tribe but consider to search out those that relate to your new normal for a fresh perspective too.

• Flexible Work Arrangements: If returning to work, consider flexible hours, location or part-time arrangements that allow for the healthier balance you are making the space for.

• Explore New Interests: This is a perfect time to explore new hobbies or interests. Take a class in pottery since it's been 20 years, or learn a new skill you've marveled at from a far, or travel to new places and experience new cultures – the world is what you make of it!

It’s All Downhill from Here

The "empty nest" is not just an ending but a beginning too. It’s a chance to rewrite the narrative; for me it continues to be my work-life balance with a renewed, more mindful and intentional approach. By taking the time to enjoy this stage of life and thoughtfully deciding what comes next, I will continue the journey down the mountain with grace and fulfillment.