I am a bit of free advice, I love my existence.

It’s time you find a companion (for life). I think you’d look better if you lost weight. I feel you should wear more of this color. I think you should stop coffee. I think this bike-riding stint doesn’t suit you anymore. You should start eating granola with honey & yogurt for morning breakfast. I think you should control your aggression. You shouldn’t sing that track if you don’t know the lyrics. I think you’re meant for this job. I think you need to travel and seek more ‘me’ time.

Ok! Now,

Thank you, but I know when I would need a companion. Thank you, I would want to be fit than lean. Thank you, but I like a certain color palette that I’d stick to. Thank you, but I simply love the existence of coffee on this planet. Thank you, but a bike ride for me is not just a stint — it’s therapy. Thank you, but I prefer a paratha which has been essential since childhood. Thank you, but I very well know when to control my temper. Thank you, but I feel extremely positive when I sing that track. Thank you, but I’ll decide when I have to move on. Thank you, but I understand the requirement of my ‘Me’ time which need not necessarily come from travel.

All of the above is unnecessary. I think you should just read carefully what’s written below -

There are 3 types of advice:

Type 1: A universal act that somebody realized in their earthly existence

Type 2: A universal act that somebody instantly anointed as universal advice

Type 3: A universal act that somebody knows is fictitious & would never exist

Type 1 is educative and helps you seek the better of the world around you. I mean there are over 6 billion people on this planet and you couldn’t possibly reach out to all of them & their experiences. Type 1 can be productive.

Type 2 falls into a discrepancy. It might end up being the greatest advice of all times OR It might end up being that background music of a wedding reception hall. So, one cannot rule the leverage it could give you.

Type 3 is why is this article exists. I mean why? Like seriously, WHY? You might know the person or s/he is a stranger to you. But, just to build a conversation, prove your superiority, make your presence felt, crave for respect — you’d end up blabbering a universal truth that absolutely does not exist in any given spectrum of your advisee.

Eventually, you wouldn’t even know what this free piece of unwanted advice does to you. One might just let it go but your subconscious brain adheres to the world around you, store what it sees, hears, feels, eats, smells, and in some or the other way drives you to review this adherence. In this case, the advice that humans throw at humans.

I mean a piece of advice is a personal suggestion (most of the time), it’s directed towards a personality and the subtle need for change in that very personality. Hence, my friend, this advice demands a certain level of responsibility before it’s crafted and delivered. It should come from a frame of reference to what this person ‘X’ had/is/will face or is currently going through.

Let’s just keep friends, family aside from this clan. Your closest buddy will never ask you to do something that is unheard of your personality type. Your parents will always advise you on something that helps you lead a better life. The reason? They know you, they’ve pursued your interests, they know your positives, negatives, your weirdness, your skillset, and so on. It’s always a boon to be all ears to somebody who not only knows you well but also cares for you ‘unconditionally’.

Just focus on that last term — ‘Unconditional’. When you have people that feel for you adding the suffix ‘care’ & ‘love’ to this word, you’re one of the luckiest souls on this planet. Unconditional care or love can only & only make you stronger. And one should never ever miss out on advice from this soul. Because as much as they complete your existence, you equally complete their existence. They would never lead you to any disillusions. Why? Because doing so to you will also affect their lives. Why would one?

Now, just compare the above notion with the ones you hardly know off and they end up having a point of you in your life? Unfair? Right?

Well, nothing can stop them from doing so, but, everything can be stopped from reaching out to your cranium. And one of the best replies that I’ve learned to free advice is — a smile :) And if you’re talented enough to deliver a sarcastic smile, you’ve just dodged your brain from an unnecessary session of thinking and evaluation. Try it out! It helps…

After all, I am a bit of free advice and I do not wish to love my existence.