Leadership Forged Under Load

Leadership Forged Under Load

“What do you do for fun, Rich?”

It’s a question I get asked all the time — at introductory meetings, on podcasts, after talks. I always smile. Not because it’s a bad question, but because it’s the wrong one. And often I'll look down and see the calluses on my hands, a physical reminder that everything compounds. 

And then I answer, always the same way.

This is what I do for fun — though I realise that might sound strange to most. Building Oxygen Conservation. Scaling Conservation. Reimagining what’s possible with business, with nature, with people. That’s what gets me out of bed in the morning, and keeps me going long after most would call it a day. It’s not normal, but did anyone really expect me to be normal?

And I’ve been lucky — not in the entitled, it's been handed to me way, but in the way that all decisions and actions are part skills, part effort and part luck, and I've had my fair share of the latter.

People confuse passion for ease. Let me be clear: this work is hard. Not hard in a whiny LinkedIn-humblebrag kind of way. I mean, actually hard. Back-to-back 70-hour weeks hard. Migraine hard. Push past every sane limit hard. But I don’t say that for applause, or even sympathy. I say it because it’s true. And because if we’re going to have an honest conversation about performance, leadership, and scaling anything meaningful — from a conservation business to a life worth living — then we’ve got to start with the truth.

Everyone gets tired. Everyone gets annoyed. Everyone feels like giving up. The difference? The people who succeed keep walking. Through the stress. Through the failure. Through the storm.

And here’s the catch: they don’t just keep walking. They adapt.

You Can’t Have an Easy Life and a Strong Character

Jimmy Carr (the comedian) said that “you can’t have an easy life and a strong character”. Strangely enough, the best comedians are increasingly modern philosophers in disguise - perhaps it’s because they're still afforded a modicum of freedom to explore the margins of acceptable debate. It makes a lot of sense when you break down the skill set: a comedian's job is high-speed pattern recognition, emotional intelligence under pressure, and risk management with a punchline – all in front of an audience.

The line stuck with me because it’s true. You don’t develop calluses from reading about hard things. You get them from doing hard things. And I mean that quite literally.

I’ve been picking up barbells for 25 years - don't the years go by so incredibly fast? Every rep, every lift, every success and every mistake — it all leaves a mark. The skin tears. The pain sharpens. But over time, your hands adapt. They get stronger. Thicker. Tougher. That’s what experience is. Not time. Impact.

It’s the same in business. The same in conservation. You don’t grow through comfort. You grow through discomfort. You learn when it hurts. You adapt because you have to. And you heal not by waiting for the pain to go away, but by becoming the person who can carry it, who keeps turning up, who keeps working hard to inspire others, not to do the same but to do and be more. 

That’s what I mean when I talk about resilience — not the cheesy Instagram (live, laugh, love) version. The real kind. The kind that’s forged by pressure, repeated exposure, and the refusal to stop.

Eastern Bloc Training Plans and Business as Sport

I love strength sports because they’re honest. You either pick it up or you don’t. And in the Eastern European model of training, they didn’t just test for strength. They trained for capacity — not the ability to work a 16-hour day, but to do it again the next day, and the next, and the next.

That’s how I approach work. It’s not about heroic moments. It’s about consistency. Sustainability. Relentless repetition. Consistency compounds.

We’ve professionalised conservation because it had to be. Just like a football club aiming for multiple titles across multiple seasons, we’re not interested in one-off wins. As Alex Ferguson outlined in his book Leading, “greatness is sustained, not sporadic”. We’ve adopted that mindset wholesale. Conservation isn’t charity work anymore — it’s a high-performance sport played on the most complex pitch imaginable. The scoreboard has IRRs now. The natural capital economy is moving at the speed of private equity with the complexity of ecosystem restoration. The game got faster, so we had to train harder.

And just like elite sports teams, we’ve become obsessed with recruitment. Not just finding good people, but finding the right people — the ones who already operate at a high level, and more importantly, have the resilience to sustain that level over time. We’re not interested in those who peak early and burn out. We hire for trajectory. We seek out individuals with enough potential energy to keep accelerating, outpacing even the rapid growth of our business.

They need the strength to handle the load, the mindset to stay curious, and the humility to adapt. Our bar is high. Intentionally so. Because we don’t just want to win today — we want to build a team that’s still performing, still growing, and still redefining what’s possible five, ten, twenty years from now.

The Gift of a Difficult Childhood

This part’s personal. I didn’t have an easy start. I won’t go into detail here, repetition is boring, but I didn't enjoy my childhood. And for those of you who know what that feels like — you either already understand, or one day might — that it can be one of the greatest, hardest-earned gifts of all.

Not in the moment. In the moment, it’s painful. Horrible. Unfair. But over time? It’s a superpower. It gives you a chip on your shoulder, a fire in your belly, and a refusal to let anyone else write your story. That’s invaluable.

Would I trade it for love, security, and a great education? I don’t know. Probably. That’s what I want for my kids, so you'll have to ask them what they think in the next few years. But I wouldn’t be me without it.

Experience compounds. So does pain. But only if you let it. Only if you pay attention and choose to learn the lesson instead of playing the victim.

So What Does This Have to Do with Business or Conservation?

Everything.

You can’t Scale Conservation by playing it safe. You can’t restore ecosystems with fragile egos and part-time commitment. We’re building a new asset class — the natural capital economy — in real time. That requires character. Speed. Precision. And a hell of a lot of grit (that might be our wonderful Head of People's favourite characteristic in people). 

Character Is a Compounding Asset

Leadership isn’t something you’re awarded — it’s something you embody. Not with words, but with repeated acts of grit, clarity, and conviction, especially when it’s inconvenient, uncomfortable, and when the easy option is to hand the challenge to someone else.

So no, I don’t switch off. I don’t have a hobby that isn’t somehow connected to who I am or what I’m building. I’ve designed (and redesigned) my life that way. And that might not be for everyone, but it’s certainly for me. I've been lucky enough to have the opportunity to do something incredible and I'm willing to sacrifice almost everything to do it. 

Because what we’re doing at Oxygen Conservation isn’t just about nature. It’s about proving that performance and purpose can live in the same room. That capitalism and conservation can share a balance sheet. That character — real, earned, callused character — is the foundation of every meaningful success.

And when the fire comes, the rain lashes down, or the sharp halo of a migraine flickers in my periphery, I’ll still be there. Not because I must, but because I can. Because somewhere in the tension between pain and purpose, pressure and perseverance — that’s where a callused character is made and success (whatever that means to you) is found. 

Dr Alex Ryan

Learning Energy Sustainability Consultancy & Holistic Coaching

3w

Love the hard truth here Rich Stockdale PhD about GRIT! 💪 One of my classics: holding the internal pain of standing on stage at an awards dinner, doing a team presentation alongside my CEO, colleagues and team, on our distributed leadership impact, as finalists trying to win a trophy for it... Whilst that very morning, I had just had to submit a rapidly written paper to executive and that CEO, to try and save my team from being killed off in a round of severe internal cuts. It's THOSE moments... that teach you leadership in action My tai chi master would say to be great we must 'eat bitter' (referring to bitter melon) 😝

Alison Manning

Director of People | Chief People Officer | Executive Team

1mo

I love this piece, so refreshingly honest about ‘what it takes’. Last year I was lucky enough to be offered a role with this brilliant and unique organisation. Wasn’t quite the right role, at the right time for me, but I continue to have a real interest in this organisation and it’s incredible people. I’ve never met a company or team like that of Oxygen House. One day I really hope to join them. What in part makes it unique and so special is exactly what Rich outlines here. And no apology should ever be needed for speaking the truth of what so many successful and inspirational leaders I’m sure would likely agree upon, but few rarely speak off. It’s not after all, a popular reality. I applaud you Rich and all at Oxygen… your raw honesty and recognition of just how relentless the weeks, months and years can be when you are leading for change, progress and a more sustainable future for us all, is spot on.

Phil Staunton

Product Innovation Strategist | Founder | Commercial Viability Expert | Helping Purpose-Driven Start-ups Launch Viable, Market-Aligned Products

1mo

Having raised £750k to develop a new innovative product and built a team for a start-up over 18 months, we pitching at an international trade show. The brand flopped. 15 leading distributors from around the world, loved the product but said that the brand didn't make sense. 6 hours later my founder partner resigned. That was my moment of shaping grit. A massive flood of emotion in the middle of a cafe at the trade show with a simple choice. Let down the investors and call in a day, or redevelop the brand and find a new head of marketing and sales. Not a good day. But it certainly built grit. I chose the harder path and launched 12 months later with John Lewis PLC. The first new pushchair brand they had stocked in 20 years.

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Elizabeth O'Driscoll

Making things happen by using technology and human expertise to its fullest extent.

1mo

Love this. Having built a business in Oxygen - plus a range of other roles where everyone said “the thing” couldn’t be done. I get it. The passion, the fire, the relentless adaptation. Knowing people say you can’t is like a spark…. The phrase from your article that resonates most with me - and it’s under recognised and undervalued in a lot of places - “It’s not about heroic moments. It’s about consistency. Sustainability. Relentless repetition. Consistency compounds.” The world needs people who can get their heads down and make things happen.

Sandy Trust

Scaling systems interventions for a sustainable future

1mo

Survivor or victim - mindset is key!

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