Less Tolerance for Others? You're Not Alone

Have you noticed how people are getting tired of other people quicker these days? Even people they really like?

I've been trying to explain this concept of how our ego is growing in our time, and that's why we have less patience for other people. But maybe hearing this from a person actually experiencing this lack of tolerance for others will be more helpful. I'm not quoting the source because it was only shared with friends & family:

"Lately I find it extremely hard to be around people for more than maybe 2 hours no matter how much I like them. Keeping up conversations is like lifting heavy bricks. I just want to go home and be lying on my bed, playing on my phone or reading. I can’t stand loud music or loud noise of any kind really.

My phone bothers me all day with messages and texts. And I actually really like everyone who contacts me. But it makes my brain hurt. Most days I dream of disappearing to a remote place.

I didn’t use to be like this. But in the last year or so it’s become harder and harder to be around people."

The comments on the post put it down to the stressful times, aging and having less tolerance, menopause, possibly needing therapy, etc.

But most of the commenters could totally relate because many feel the same way:

• I feel very similarly, at 59. I really enjoy alone time, and I am pretty sure I used to be an extrovert.
• It’s called aging. You have less tolerance, less patience, and less capacity for tolerating bullshit. Some days you just don’t want to be around people and prefer to be alone, read a good book, or watch a movie.
• I relate. I watched my elderly parents distance themselves from stress. We are living in a world we are having difficulty grasping. Personally, I think it's a protection mechanism we are implementing in order to survive the craziness around us. Even not watching the news doesn't deter from the negative energy we cant help but feel.
• I could have written this. I feel so much the same way. And I am afraid if I mention it to my dr he will just write a RX. And I am not a medicine taker. Thank you for this.
• I hear you!!!!! I am similar. I love my wife. I love visiting my children. I love going to our beach house. I love sitting on the beach reading and listening by myself. I love early dinners out at the beach with just my wife. I love my job. I love working with my clients. I love my coworkers (Mostly.) Other than that I really mostly don’t want to see anyone, engage with anyone or be around anyone for more than a few minutes. I LOVE MY LIFE JUST AS IT IS !!!! PS I admire you for lasting two hours.
• I feel the same; I think it's just overload of life/media/information/people. I use to want to socialize a lot, and now I only like occasional low-key socializing. Maybe I'm just tired - who knows.
• It’s normal… as we get older we appreciate more peace and quiet…and just chillin'

Why Are We Yearning To Be Alone?

We yearn to be alone not out of a natural desire for solitude, but because our inherent egoism, the desire to receive for self-benefit alone, isolates us from the positive force of love, bestowal, and connection in nature.

This egoistic self-interest creates a feeling of separation, leading to a yearning for something more, a true connection that the ego itself prevents.

This egoistic self-interest creates a feeling of separation, leading to a yearning for something more, a true connection that the ego itself prevents.

The purpose of life, is to evolve from this egoistic state to one of connection and bestowal, transforming our solitude into a path toward spiritual unity and a deeper understanding of the world. 

So in a nutshell - this is our current state. And since the human ego is still growing, we can expect to see more of all this.

On the one hand our ego is pulling us to disconnect from others and find fulfillment on our own. On the other hand we're yearning for meaningful connection but are not finding it because all our egos are dividing and separating us from each other.