Release those Pesky Thoughts that Don’t Serve You!

As far as I can tell, for something to be different in our lives, a corresponding belief that keeps where we are in place must be released. Thoughts that we think and notice over and over and accept as true become beliefs. Once we notice the ones that aren’t supportive, we want to be free of the them because they don’t align with what it is we say we want and how we want to feel and live. 

Some beliefs we might want to be free of include:

·      those we have about what others might expect from us

·      unworthiness 

·      unlovability 

·      not being capable of being the leader, manager, entrepreneur, parent, _________ (fill in the blank) we want to be

·      limitations with regard to potential income

·      explanations we give ourselves for why things can’t or won’t happen

·      and so on.

As you can see, all of these are limiting, restrictive, confining.

Do you have thoughts you wish would go away? Have you tried to replace them? Has that worked? 

What is being described here is a new context, based on the reality of who we essentially are. 

That desire to be free of beliefs arises because we experience an inner knowing that we are inherently free. We want to be free because we know we can be. 

What we don't know is that we already are! 

Rather than focusing on trying to get rid of beliefs, we want to focus on the freedom we already are, i.e., our essential nature. 

As we do so the limiting beliefs naturally go away over time, or we naturally stop paying attention to them. There's nothing to change, no need to focus on new thoughts. Once we stop focusing on our thoughts – ignore them – and instead focus on who we are, we release them rather than energize them by trying to get rid of them by trying to get rid of them. 

We have been told to change our thoughts or get rid of them. We can't get rid of them! Thoughts are automatic and arise, like clouds in the sky. We begin to relate to them that way: they naturally arise and disappear. When we take our attention away from thoughts, we diminish them.

When we try to control our thoughts, resistance is created. 

As we let them go and stop focusing on them, we experience the freedom, peace, love, happiness, meaning we inherently are. Over time, new ones arise and come to us aligned with who we are. Without the focus on the ones we wish we didn’t have, we become open to new ones appearing and we notice those as our being shifts as we align with who we are naturally. 

Thoughts appear to us arising from the universe that align and help us express what the universe is trying to express through us. 

We experience the freedom of who we are. Yes, it does take trust. And a desire to experience the freedom, peace and love we are.

What do we feel when we try to control something? Tightness, constriction, force. Thoughts, actions, activities, and relationships informed by those feeling qualities reflect that. 

The experience of freedom is allowing, open, spacious, relaxed. Our relationships, actions, conversations will align with those qualities. Our work and ideas as well. If we want an expansive work environment and life, then we want openness and relaxation; otherwise, we find restriction and contraction.

(I am not implying that this leads to a free-for-all. I don’t know about you, but when I am in an environment where I feel freedom to speak, create and act, I am more “responsible” and productive. I am more resistant, more closed in my communication and might only do the minimum work I’m required to do when I feel I’m being controlled.)

 Which would you rather feel? Constriction or expansion?

Life is always moving and is not static. One energy is anorexic and another expansive. 

The universe is infinite. 

Our thinking mind is finite. 

We can allow the infinite to inform us aligned with the infinite – or with the finite. The universe is informing us either way. 

What determines that? Many things, but one of which is what thoughts we pay attention to. We can stop getting involved with those that aren’t supportive. In doing so, we open to those that are.

How do you do that?

1.     Put your attention on the space between thoughts. There is a space between them, just as there is a space on this screen between words. You can place your attention on that space. Stay there for a few minutes and notice (probably) a sense of calm, peace. That’s what happens when you put your attention on the space between thoughts.

It’s not easy at first as our thoughts have been getting and keeping our attention our whole lives. As you focus on the space between thoughts and release your attention from thoughts, you will find a stillness, a spaciousness, a peace and freedom that is who you truly are. 

Over time you will notice a difference in thoughts that come to you and find them to be supportive of living a more meaningful, loving, free and peaceful life that is your birthright. 

2.     The little book Being Aware of Being Aware, by Rupert Spira, brilliantly describes the context I’m referencing here. 

3.     Start with 5 minutes a day and add a few minutes each time to build up to 20 minutes. As you focus on this space (the vast, open, allowing, free sense of your essential nature), you are allowing deeper, non-linear intuitive knowing to arise in your awareness. It most likely won’t appear as thoughts, but a sense, or an understanding that you will probably immediately translate into thought. And that thought will be supportive; if it's not, then know it is your thinking mind. 

4.     Don’t look for anything to happen. Allow. 

If you would like guidance to free yourself of limiting beliefs and thoughts, we can explore working one-on-one together. You can email me at peggy@peggy-oneal.com and suggest some times to explore.

We are being invited 

·      to be the wise beings we inherently are and 

·      to live aligned with great wisdom teachings and current scientific discoveries and 

·      to create the world that in our hearts we know is possible. 

The paradigm shift we are in the midst of is fundamentally changing our knowing of and relationship with reality. We can honor who we truly are and express that knowing in our relationships, activities, conversations and being. It is time for millions of us to live aligned with our essential nature, beginning now. As we do so, others will feel the call to do the same.

With love,

Peggy