Start With You: An Empty Glass Has Nothing to Offer

As we begin this new year, I want to share a powerful message: start with yourself. It might sound counterintuitive in a world that often glorifies selflessness, but prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential.

An empty glass cannot nourish anyone, and if you neglect your own needs, you will struggle to show up fully for the people and goals that matter most.

Selfishness Redefined

The term "selfishness" carries a negative connotation, but what if we reframed it as self-prioritization? True selfishness isn’t about disregarding others; it’s about preserving your energy, time, and resources so you can operate from a place of abundance. When you prioritize your well-being, you empower yourself to contribute more meaningfully to your relationships, career, and community.

Think of it this way: when you focus on what fills your cup—be it rest, learning, exercise, or joy—you’re better equipped to pour into the lives of others. The journey to unlocking your full potential starts with recognizing that you are worthy of your own love, care, and attention.

The Power of Boundaries

A significant part of starting with yourself is learning to say “NO!.” Many of us take on too much, stretching ourselves thin to meet others' expectations.

This year, I challenge you to set clear boundaries. Protect your energy fiercely. Say YES to things that align with your values and NO to those that drain you without adding value.

Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s self-preservation.

It teaches others how to respect your time while allowing you to honor your needs. When you draw the line between what serves you and what doesn’t, you create space for the things that truly matter.

Align with Your True Desires

Another key to starting with yourself is clarity. Ask yourself: What do I truly want? Too often, we chase goals imposed by society, family, or peers, losing sight of our own passions.

This year, take the time to realign with what brings you joy and fulfillment. Whether it’s a new career path, a creative pursuit, or simply carving out time for self-care, choose goals that reflect your authentic desires.

Small Acts of Self-Love

Self-love isn’t about grand gestures—it’s about consistency in honoring yourself. Small acts like taking breaks, pursuing a hobby, or journaling can go a long way in building a foundation of self-compassion. Treat yourself as you would a loved one: acknowledge your efforts, forgive your mistakes, and celebrate your wins.

This isn’t indulgence; it’s maintenance. You cannot function at your best without attending to your mental, physical, and emotional needs.

Prioritize yourself unapologetically, knowing that doing so will make you more resilient, creative, and effective.

Serving from Abundance

The irony is that when you focus on yourself first, you actually have more to give. By starting the year with a commitment to self-prioritization, you ensure that your contributions to the world come from a place of strength, not depletion. A well-nurtured self is better equipped to support loved ones, achieve goals, and make a meaningful impact.

Let this be your mantra for the year:

You cannot pour from an empty glass. Fill yours first!

Take Action Today

• Reflect on your goals for the year: Are they truly yours, or are they based on others’ expectations?

• Establish at least one boundary to protect your time and energy.

• Identify a small act of self-love you can commit to daily or weekly.

Here’s to a year where we fill our glasses first so that we can pour generously into the world. Let’s make this our most abundant year yet.

Happy New Year!