When I Fall . . .

The primary story everyone seems to be talking about and is enamored with is the viral video of the CEO and CPO of Astronomer at a recent Coldplay concert. I was as intrigued about it as anyone. I couldn't believe what I just saw, and I made snide comments and shared/viewed memes and gifs that were made instantaneously. I had countless friends reach out to me to ask if I had seen the video and how it involved a person who is in HR. I'm not proud of how I responded and got caught up in the media storm. This is why . . .

I don't condone the choices these two adults made. It captured our attention because of how they responded when they got caught. Isn't it telling that this story of two people publicly failing garnered far more attention than the many, many challenges and atrocities happening across the planet right now ?? We yearn for salacious stories. The grittier and more gossipy, the better. This is true in situations that are in the public eye, in our workplaces, or among our families and friends.

Falling in some magnificent way grabs us far more than seeing, hearing or experiencing positive and encouraging stories. Isn't that concerning ??

I think it is. We've allowed ourselves to become a world that enjoys the downfall of others as a primary source of our entertainment and our own personal value. Don't believe me?

Attend an HR conference and just listen to the conversations happening around you. The majority of what is being shared is about difficult people who frustrate us and suck out our souls. We act as if they are so detrimental that we can't even adequately do our job. When those stories are shared, they're contagious. People willingly jump in and pile on. It's like we want to exist in an ongoing game of truth or dare to see who can share the biggest dirt pile they're facing.

I felt compelled to write this because I fail. Often. I fall down in my words, my actions, and my attitudes about others. Again, not proud about this. The story about the folks from Astronomer made me reflect. What would happen if the camera were focused on me when I have failed others? How would I react? What would the response be from my peers and friends? Would they be snarky, create memes, and smear me all over the place? Would it bring them joy to feel they had not made the same mistake(s) I have?

This eats at me. I believe we are in a field where we need to focus far more on behavior versus compliance. We are faced with far more behaviorally motivated interactions between people than any actual work occurring. We need to understand (as I shared on LinkedIn this past Friday) that:

" . . . we all need to remember that as humans, we are frail, prone to fail as well as succeed. When someone falls, let's pick them up - not tear them down."

The two people from Astronomer had their lives changed in an instant. It's going to affect them personally and professionally for years to come. They're most likely not going to recover from this for some time. This doesn't even account for those with whom they are close or related to.

There are consequences to every decision we make in life. You can't escape that. Even so, my hope is that someone is in their corner to lift them up after this horrific fall. I would want someone in my corner.

So, when I fall, which is inevitable, will others be there for me? I can tell you this. When others in my life fall, I will do my best to be there for them.