Why Do People Want Children? How Can They Say That Having Children Is the Greatest Joy in Life When So Many Parents Actually Regret Having Them?
There was a time when having a child brought natural joy. It was a continuation of the self, a future we could hold in our arms. That joy came from seeing our lineage carried forward, biologically, emotionally, and spiritually. It gave life direction and meaning.
Indeed, that is how it should be.
Children are meant to be born. Families are meant to grow. It is an organic extension of life. Today, however, more and more people feel that children are a burden. Something optional at best, and often avoided.
Why? It is because the human ego has evolved and divided, isolated, and locked us each in our own narrow worlds. That is exactly how egoism, a self-serving mechanism, works. The more we disconnect from one another, the more we feed the ego.
So now, even children can begin to feel like a threat to our autonomy, disrupting our comfort zone. We no longer see our future in others. We see our “future” as our own uninterrupted existence, alone.
The human ego is a parasite. It convinces us to serve only itself, but it never serves us back. Still, we obey it, even when it makes us miserable. We say that having a child is a burden, when in reality, it is the ego itself that has become the burden. It blocks us from discovering our true “child,” our deeper self, the point within that seeks connection, love, and the meaning of life.
This growing human ego continually leads us to a dead end, a place where every person sits in their corner, isolated, unwilling to talk to anyone. The world shrinks to a screen, a snack, and a click.
Eventually, we will feel this kind of existence as unbearable, that we are not living life. Then, at the height of this inner deadlock, humanity will begin to ask the right questions, existential ones: Why are we here? Why do we feel so empty, even when we lack nothing?
That is when the awakening begins. People will remember a line they once heard from a Kabbalist, and from that memory, they will begin to move toward the next stage of human evolution: positive human connection above our egoism and divisive drives.
Whoever has already awakened to this process needs to already prepare its groundwork now, to spread these messages in various formats, whether as books, video, audio, and online texts, even if no one listens today. It is because, eventually, people will seek life's ultimate meaning beyond the transient pleasure goals that it presents to us. When they do, they need to find a path waiting.
It is like teaching a small child: we repeat ourselves, gently and patiently, because we know that the child will grow up. The child must hear the truth, even if they forget it a hundred times. That is the role of those who hold the method of positive human connection: to advance in this unification, and to keep showing the way until the world is ready to tread that fateful path.