You are the one you are waiting for

You don't need saving. Here's what you need!

A couple of days ago, while talking with my sister, I came to the realization of something I already knew to be true, but only became completely true after I said it.

For me, it was the simple realization that I feel better when I don't hold onto things.

• When I'm able to take a deep breath, release the pressure in my shoulders, and drop the fight.

• When I'm able to let the things that aren't mine to control go.

• When I'm able to say, "Okay, this is happening, what is the next right step I can take?".

• When I'm able to release the guilt, the blaming, the pointing fingers, the complaining, and focus on what I can control.

I strive to forgive people easily, to let things go quickly, to not hold onto resentment, not only out of a place of kindness and goodness, but also out of selfishness and self-love, because it helps me show up to life in a better way.

And though, I do consider myself a good person because most often than not I tried to help or at the very least, not to hurt people intentionally, when I strive to be loving, forgiving, or more flexible in my relationships, I don’t do it only out of the kindness of my heart.

I do it because I know I will feel much better, be more at peace, and show up differently and lighter when I do.

People will disappoint us and hurt us, life's circumstances will change our plans, things will go differently from what we were expecting, we will experience rejection and failure, and we will feel self-doubt, fear, and disconnection. All of that will inevitably happen at some moments of our lives.

The question to ask ourselves then is:

• How can you release the things that aren't serving you and drop the unnecessary fight?

• How can you radically accept what is happening in your life, and instead of thinking "This is happening to me", approach your life with a mindset of "This is happening for and by me"?

So, let's make peace with this: We're going to fail. We're going to feel hurt. We're going to feel lost. We're going to feel confused. We're going to feel betrayed. Life will feel hard and overwhelming at times.

Complaining about it, blaming others, pointing fingers, and feeling like a victim of the circumstances, none of it will help you move forward.

Nobody is coming to save you. You are entirely responsible for your life.

The good news: You don't need saving. You can just do things, you can reinvent yourself anytime you choose to do it. You can wake up tomorrow and choose to change how you do life.

Because you are also entirely capable of figuring things out.

You are capable of doing hard things, of overcoming challenges, of making the best of the situation, of infusing your life with the kind of energy, passion, and zest you want to experience. You are capable of squeezing every little bit you want out of this life.

Make that something that empowers you, instead of something that constrains you.

It's up to you. So, you might as well do the thing and pursue the things that call to you. You might as well choose to live life on your terms.

Here are a few questions to reclaim your power on those moments you feel like you have none:

• What's one tiny action I can take right now?

• What part of this situation is within my control?

• If a loved one were facing this challenge, what advice would I give them?

• What would the person I want to become do? How would he/she show up?

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