Balancing Formal And Informal Interactions

CEOs, your impact and influence as a cultural architect trickle down into even the smallest interactions. That means you shape the very bedrock of psychological safety within your organization. Why? There’s a power dynamic in every room. As the leader, you are first among equals, yet your mere presence dictates the power dynamic. Positional power is consolidated in your hands. What you say and do can draw people out or make them recoil with anxiety and fear. Take the opportunity to deliberately design that dynamic. If you induce fear, seek admiration, or allow hierarchy to outrank truth, you abdicate your role. But if you nurture psychological safety to unleash the room, you magnify your role and scale your influence and impact. How do you do it? I have 10 suggestions: 1. Assign someone else to conduct the meeting. Visibly redistribute power by leveling yourself down to be more of a player-coach. 2. Don’t sit at the head of the table. In many physical settings, seating reflects the hierarchy, but you can disrupt those rituals. 3. Create warmth and informality. Create an atmosphere of psychological safety to convey warmth and encourage collaboration. 4. Model acts of vulnerability. You have a first-mover obligation to model acts of vulnerability to give others permission to do the same. 5. Stimulate inquiry before advocacy. If you move from asking questions to advocating your position too soon, it softly censors your team and signals the end of the discussion. 6. Reward challenges to the status quo. If you encourage them, your team can help you see your blind spots and tell you when you’re missing. 7. Push back with humor and enthusiasm. Humor and enthusiasm inject excitement into the process and encourage rigorous debate. 8. Buffer strong personalities. Your job is to create a shame- and embarrassment-free environment. 9. Listen and pause. When you do this in the presence of other members of your organization, you send a clear message that the individual matters. 10. Give highly targeted praise and recognition. Don’t withhold or be stingy with it. I'm curious, what would you add to the list? How are your leaders intentionally creating psychological safety in their interactions with others? #psychologicalsafety #4stages #leadershipdevelopment

Last week I shared how AI helped analyze our retreat feedback survey data in minutes. Today, I want to highlight the three elements that our team rated most impactful from our recent company retreat in Ireland... - [New addition] "Connection Court": We created a dedicated space in the castle with games, snacks, and comfy seating that was open throughout the day and late into the night. This gave people a relaxed place to connect in case of bad weather and removed the pressure to drink or socialize in high-energy environments. This was great for introverts and those who don't enjoy the bar scene and provided more inclusive evening activities that worked for everyone. - Doist Build (our company hackathon) hit different this year: We surveyed the team for "hack-worthy" topics ahead of the retreat, pre-selected the top 10 we felt could make an impact on the company, and revealed them the day before so people could start brainstorming. Morning of, it was first-come-first-serve with limited seats per topic, which created some incredible energy to start the day. Best part? The winning team's project was implemented right there at the retreat and immediately improved our onboarding metrics 🚀 - "Choose your own adventure" itinerary structure: Instead of forcing everyone into the same activities, we offered parallel options during free time. We balanced physical activities (hiking, sports), cultural experiences (castle tours, local music), and team building events (escape rooms, group games). This approach let people naturally form smaller groups around common interests, creating deeper connections through shared experiences. After organizing multiple retreats over the years, one principle stands out: create a flexible structure and trust your team to find meaningful ways to connect. When people have the freedom to choose activities that align with their interests and energy levels, authentic relationships naturally develop. Hope this is helpful and I'd love to hear what's working for other teams as well 👇

Remote work challenge: How do you build a connected culture when teams are miles apart? At Bunny Studio we’ve discovered that intentional connection is the foundation of our remote culture. This means consistently reinforcing our values while creating spaces where every team member feels seen and valued. Four initiatives that have transformed our remote culture: 🔸 Weekly Town Halls where teams showcase their impact, creating visibility across departments. 🔸 Digital Recognition through our dedicated Slack “kudos” channel, celebrating wins both big and small. 🔸 Random Coffee Connections via Donut, pairing colleagues for 15-minute conversations that break down silos. 🔸 Strategic Bonding Events that pull us away from routines to build genuine connections. Beyond these programs, we’ve learned two critical lessons: 1. Hiring people who thrive in collaborative environments is non-negotiable. 2. Avoiding rigid specialization prevents isolation and encourages cross-functional thinking. The strongest organizational cultures aren’t imposed from above—they’re co-created by everyone. In a remote environment, this co-creation requires deliberate, consistent effort. 🤝 What’s working in your remote culture? I’d love to hear your strategies.

Executives and employees continue to tussle over return-to-office and AI adoption. Mandates aren't working, but neither does individual chaos. There's a better path forward. I've been working with senior leaders navigating both workplace flexibility and AI adoption, and here's what's striking: the organizations succeeding at one tend to excel at both. Those struggling? They're making identical mistakes. We're repeating the same management failures: Only 25% of managers are trained to lead distributed teams. Only 22% of firms have clear AI adoption plans. After working with dozens of companies, talking with hundreds of leaders and listening to employee and experts, I've identified four pillars that drive success: 🎯 Talent Strategy: Know your "why" and your "who" before mandating anything: am I after top talent, does deep engagement matter, and if so are we willing to invest in human-centered leadership? 📊 Outcomes-Based Management: Measure results, not badge swipes or tool usage. Clear goals and transparent communication unlock alignment, build momentum, and enable trust. 👥 Team-Centered Approach: Teams are where real transformation actually happens; managers and employees building norms and redesigning how they work together. 📚 Learning Culture: Building learning mindset organizations requires investments in experimentation, iteration and support -- and a mindset that knows you're never "done" getting better at how you work. The companies thriving five years from now won't be those with the "right" hybrid policy or "best" AI tools. They'll be the ones that built cultures capable of evolving with whatever changes come next. But I need your input: Which of these four pillars is your biggest challenge right now? Are you struggling with unclear strategy, activity-focused metrics, top-down mandates, or one-time policy thinking? Full framework and diagnostic tool: https://lnkd.in/gyc9ucNA What am I missing? Where do you see organizations getting this right? #FutureOfWork #Leadership #ChangeManagement

The best ideas often don’t come from formal meetings. Working with small businesses as a fractional CMO has taught me that being an outsider can make people hesitant to share their thoughts. That’s why informal, approachable conversations are so powerful. A quick coffee chat or casual hallway conversation can break down barriers, build trust, and surface fresh ideas. Working remotely indeed complicates the process, and that's both a challenge and a privilege. Take the initiative to find ways to be present in addition to the formal meetings. For marketing leaders, these moments are key to uncovering roadblocks and aligning your team’s work with business goals. Ask open-ended questions such as, “What’s one small change we could make that would have a big impact?” or "What's something you've wanted to do but haven't been able to get traction?" Then, listen. How do you create space for these conversations? Let’s share tips below! 👇 #fractionalcmo #marketing #gtm  

I once had a team of insecure overachiever analysts. They were introverts, brilliant at their work, and incredibly nice people. Too nice, as it turned out. They were so nice that they wouldn't tell each other what was really going on. Instead, they'd come to me: "So-and-so is doing this thing that's really annoying. Can you do something about it?" I got sick of everyone putting me in the middle instead of taking ownership of their issues with each other. So I did something about it. I brought in trainers from the Center for Creative Leadership to teach everyone the Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) model (link in comments). The process was simple but powerful: 1. Describe the situation so everyone's on the same page. 2. Share the specific behavior you observed (no judgments about intent). 3. Explain the impact on you or the other people in the room. We started with positive feedback to create safety. We practiced saying things like, “When you walked into that meeting with a big smile, the impact was that it put everyone at ease." Everyone started spotlighting the good that was happening, and that encouraged more thoughtful interactions. Then, we practiced constructive feedback—harder, but even more important. The impact was almost immediate. Soon, I heard people asking each other, "Hey, can I give you an SBI?" The framework made it safe. More importantly, we came to give and receive feedback for the gift that it is. That ability to give and receive honest, thoughtful feedback is the foundation of every healthy team culture. But it's a skill we rarely train for. I’m curious: What frameworks have you used in your organizations to create a culture of feedback?

Do you have trouble getting the entire team to participate in group discussions, brainstorming sessions, etc.? To get people talking in group settings, create a safe and inclusive atmosphere. Here's how: 1. Set Ground Rules: Make it clear that all opinions are valued and that it's a judgment-free zone. 2. Small Talk First: Warm up with light topics so folks get comfortable speaking. 3. Use Open-Ended Questions: Questions that can't be answered with just "yes" or "no" open up the floor for more detailed discussion. 4. Direct Invitations: Sometimes people just need a nudge. Call on them directly but offer an easy out like, "Feel free to pass." 5. Silent Moments: Pause and allow silence. This gives people time to gather their thoughts and often encourages quieter folks to chime in. 6. Positive Reinforcement: When someone does speak up, validate their contribution, even if it's just a simple "great point." 7. Anonymity: Use tools or methods that let people contribute anonymously. Then discuss the anonymous points as a group. 8. Break into Smaller Groups: Big settings can be intimidating. Smaller group discussions can make it easier for people to open up. 9. Rotate Roles: Give different team members the role of facilitator or note-taker in each meeting to encourage active participation. 10. Follow-Up: If someone doesn't speak up but you think they have valuable insights, follow up privately. They may be more comfortable sharing one-on-one. Remember, the goal is not to pressure people into speaking but to make it easier for them to do so if they wish. #leadership #teambuilding #communication

See One. Do One. Teach One. I was watching Grey’s Anatomy (don't judge) when a line jumped out at me: “See one. Do one. Teach one.” It was Dr. Webber's mantra for medical training: observe a skill, try it yourself, then pass it on. It's also the perfect blueprint for event engagement. Most events get stuck at “see one.” Attendees listen to keynotes, sit through panels, watch demos. They see a lot, but if that’s where it ends, the knowledge fades almost instantly. The next level is “do one.” Give attendees space to try what they’ve learned, through hands-on workshops, scenario labs, role plays, or even a 10-minute exercise in the room. This helps the ideas move from theory into muscle memory. But then there's “teach one.” Create moments for attendees to share their perspective. Whether it’s a micro-discussion at their table, a peer-to-peer breakout, or a post-session “lightning share” where they explain what they learned to someone else. When people teach, they anchor the learning in their own words, and engagement skyrockets. What if designing events around this mantra could transform attendees into contributors? They stop being passive listeners and start being co-creators of the experience. Maybe that's what engagement is meant to be, after all. 

Forget the conference room—it’s the corridor conversations that seal the deal. Those casual “by the way” chats after the meeting? They shape decisions more than the PowerPoint ever could. So, don’t rush to leave—stick around. The real influence happens when guards drop and job titles blur. Here’s why after-meeting chats matter:  • Build genuine connections ↳ Informal settings foster openness  • Gain valuable insights ↳ People share more candidly outside formal meetings  • Influence decisions subtly ↳ Ideas discussed casually can gain traction  • Expand your network ↳ Meet colleagues you might not interact with otherwise Action Items:  1. Stay a bit longer ↳ Don’t rush off after meetings  2. Engage in small talk ↳ Initiate conversations with colleagues  3. Be approachable ↳ Show genuine interest in others  4. Listen actively ↳ Pay attention to what’s being shared  5. Share your ideas ↳ Use the opportunity to express thoughts informally Let’s make the most of those corridor conversations. What’s your best “after-meeting” story? Share below. ♻️ Repost to help others harness informal networking. #CorporateCulture #Leadership #CareerGrowth

You know that feeling when you desperately need input from someone? And their assistant gives you that polite "Let me see... hmm, looks like the first available slot is in 2027"? I'm sure all of us have a few strategies to work around this problem but I never quite knew what to call it. Then I stumbled across a concept in a book ("Aligned") that perfectly describes this approach: the "unmeeting." An unmeeting is an informal, often brief conversation that happens outside the traditional meeting structure. So, instead of fighting the calendar battle, you create spontaneous opportunities for connection. How does one master the "unmeeting"? => Befriend the gatekeeper The executive assistant often holds the real power. Build a genuine relationship with them, and they might eventually share - "Wendy always has 15 minutes free after her Tuesday staff meeting if you need her." => Study their patterns Notice when your busy stakeholder arrives or their regular routines. Let's say that the VP always makes pour-over coffee at 8am. You could start making your tea at the same time, which could lead to several productive five-minute conversations. => Create "accidental" encounters Position yourself where they'll naturally be. When a CTO never responds to meeting requests, you could try working from the common area near the meeting room where they have weekly leadership sessions. When their meeting ends early, you can get a quick five-minute chat that might lead to proper meeting time. => Use async communication strategically Sometimes a quick Teams message can work better than a meeting request. You can send a specific, actionable question in chat. They might respond immediately and even suggest a brief call that same day. One reminder - use with caution! There's a fine line between resourceful and uncomfortable. Read the room and back off if someone seems rushed or annoyed. The goal is to be opportunistic, not to become the office stalker that executives actively avoid in hallways. And if you've tried an "unmeeting" approach once or twice with someone without success, respect their boundaries and find another way. Have you used unmeetings to connect with hard-to-reach colleagues? What tactics work best for you?