The Social Media Butterfly Newsletter

This issue of The Social Media Butterfly focuses on how to make business development part of your every day.

We often picture business development as a big event. A pitch. A client presentation. A high-stakes meeting. But the truth is that most opportunities don’t come from those moments. They come from the way you work and connect with people every single day.

It’s the conversations you have with clients and colleagues. It’s the follow-ups after a meeting. It’s the ideas you share both online and in person. And it’s the genuine interest you show in the people around you.

These actions may not feel big in the moment, but over time they build trust, keep you visible, and make people think of you when opportunities or referrals come up.

When business development becomes part of the way you already work, it doesn’t feel like something extra on your plate. It becomes part of how you practice and how you build your career. The key is showing up consistently and in a way that feels authentic. The everyday actions create a foundation that makes the bigger moments — the pitch, the presentation, the client meeting — much more likely to succeed.

That’s what this issue is all about: reminding you that business development doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Small, steady actions — repeated over time — are what drive stronger relationships, new opportunities and long-term growth.

Let me know which ideas in this issue resonate most with you and share this newsletter with someone you think might enjoy it!

How Lawyers Can Make Business Development Part of Their Everyday Practice

Many lawyers and business professionals tell me they aren’t sure where to start with business development. They picture themselves giving big presentations, walking into a room with a polished elevator pitch or producing the perfect client pitch deck. Just thinking about it can feel overwhelming.

The truth is that most opportunities don’t come from those high-stakes moments. They come from the smaller, consistent ways you show up, listen and stay connected. Business development is not a single event or one dramatic moment. It’s something you do every day.

The lawyers who are most successful at developing business don’t treat it as something separate from their legal work. They make it part of how they practice law. Every conversation, every meeting, every introduction is a chance to create trust and connection.

Here are strategies that can help you build business development into your everyday practice, with examples and takeaways you can start using right away.

Spot What’s Next

Most clients won’t share every concern on their mind — sometimes because they don’t know what to ask until it’s urgent. The lawyers who stand out are the ones who anticipate what might be coming and raise it before it turns into a problem.

Take a healthcare client expanding into a new market. Rather than waiting for them to call in a panic, you send a short note about a licensing requirement they’ll need to consider. It doesn’t have to be a long memo — a quick heads-up shows that you’re paying attention and thinking ahead.

Or think about a private equity client working on acquisitions. You spot a regulatory update that could affect one of their portfolio companies and give them a quick call to flag it. That small step shows you’re not just responding to issues but helping them stay a step ahead.

These are the kinds of moments clients remember. They feel supported when you anticipate what they need, and they begin to see you as a trusted partner who helps them navigate challenges before they arise.

Tips you can try right away:

• Set aside 15 minutes a week to skim headlines or regulatory updates in your clients’ industries.
• When you see something relevant, send a short note that connects the dots for them.
• Don’t wait for a big issue — small signals show you’re paying attention.

Share Something That Sticks

Clients are surrounded by information every day. What they really need is someone who can help them sort through it and focus on what matters most.

Simply forwarding an article or report doesn’t create much value. What makes you memorable is adding context that shows why it matters to them.

For instance, instead of just sending over a market report, you might say, “This trend could shift how valuations are being negotiated in your sector.” That short note turns a generic article into a tailored insight.

Or imagine a general counsel dealing with constant cybersecurity updates. Rather than sending every headline, you highlight the two issues most likely to affect their business and explain them in plain language. By doing that, you become the person who helps them cut through the noise and see the bigger picture.

Clients remember clarity. They remember when you take something complicated and make it easier to understand. And they remember when you help them see a risk or opportunity in a way they hadn’t before.

Tips you can try right away:

• Add one or two lines of context every time you share an article.
• Keep your language simple — no one wants more jargon in their inbox.
• Ask yourself, “Why does this matter to them?” before you hit send.

Act on What You Hear

Listening is one of the fastest ways to build trust, but what really strengthens a relationship is what you do with what you hear.

Imagine you’re at a conference and a client mentions they’re considering opening an office in Asia. The next day, you send a quick note with an article on regulatory frameworks in Singapore and offer an introduction to someone who has handled it before. That simple follow-up shows that you didn’t just hear their comment — you acted on it.

Or picture a colleague who mentions they’re overwhelmed with staffing on a matter. Later that week, you connect them with an associate who has capacity. You’ve solved a problem, and you’ve done it by paying attention.

Small gestures like these often carry more weight than a formal pitch or a lengthy email. They show that you care enough to remember, to follow up and to take action. Over time, those actions add up and people begin to see you as someone they can rely on — not just to listen, but to help.

Tips you can try right away:

• After meetings or events, jot down one or two things you heard that you can act on.
• Follow up within 24 to 48 hours while the conversation is still fresh.
• Think beyond legal advice — introductions and resources are just as valuable.

Be the Connector

Relationships become stronger when you show that you’re thinking beyond your own work. One of the most effective ways to do this is by connecting people.

Say you know an investor exploring biotech and a founder looking to raise capital. By making the introduction, you’ve created an opportunity for both. They may or may not end up working together, but they’ll both remember that you were the one who brought them together.

Inside the firm, the same principle applies. Maybe you introduce a litigation partner to a corporate client who has a brewing dispute. You’ve helped your colleague, but you’ve also added value for the client by anticipating a need before they even voiced it. That simple act shows you’re looking out for them in a bigger-picture way.

And this isn’t just for senior lawyers. Even as a junior, you can play the role of connector. Introducing classmates, colleagues or contacts in your growing network creates goodwill in every direction. Over time, those connections come back around — sometimes in surprising ways.

When you’re known as someone who makes thoughtful introductions, you become more than just another contact. You become the person people trust to expand their world. That trust is the foundation of long-lasting business relationships.

Tips you can try right away:

• Keep a simple list of who’s in your network and what they’re looking for.
• When someone mentions a challenge, ask yourself if you know anyone who could help.
• Make introductions generously, without expecting anything in return.

Create Touchpoints With Intention

Relationships take care and attention. They grow when you make the effort to stay connected in ways that feel thoughtful and genuine.

A quick “just checking in” email rarely deepens a relationship. What makes a difference are the interactions that show you’ve paid attention and that you value the other person.

For instance, you might invite a client to join you at an industry event, suggest a coffee before a conference or send a book that ties back to something you discussed. Or maybe a colleague mentions their child is applying to college and you pass along an article on admissions trends. That simple gesture shows you remembered and cared.

Over time, these kinds of intentional touchpoints build trust, strengthen connections and keep you top of mind in a natural way.

Tips you can try right away:

• Look for natural opportunities to connect, not forced ones.
• Personalize your touchpoints based on what you know about the person.
• Spread them out — small, regular gestures work better than one big push.

Play the Long Game

Business development takes time. It’s less about quick wins and more about the steady effort you put into building and maintaining relationships.

Maybe you meet someone at a conference who doesn’t need your help right away. If you take the time to congratulate them on a promotion, send along an article you think they’ll find useful or simply check in once in a while, you’re staying present in their world. When the moment comes that they do need a lawyer, you’re the one they already know and trust.

The same is true for relationships that unfold over years. A junior in-house lawyer you grab coffee with early in their career may, a decade later, be sitting in the general counsel seat at a major company. Because you stayed in touch through the years, you’ve positioned yourself for meaningful work in a way that feels natural.

These examples show how important patience and consistency are. Each small step — a message, a comment, a check-in — adds to the foundation you’re building. Over time those actions compound, turning into stronger relationships, trusted referrals and opportunities you can’t always predict at the start.

Tips you can try right away:

• Don’t get discouraged if outreach doesn’t lead to immediate work.
• Stay visible in low-effort, thoughtful ways — LinkedIn comments, quick notes, congratulations.
• Keep track of your interactions so you can follow up consistently over the years.

Invest in Visibility Inside Your Firm

Many lawyers put most of their energy into external networking and overlook the opportunities right inside their own firms.

Take an associate in the private equity group who makes the effort to connect with colleagues in tax and regulatory. Those partners are more likely to think of that associate for future matters because they’ve built trust and familiarity. The visibility that comes from those connections often leads to new opportunities.

Or think about volunteering to present at an internal training or contributing to a firmwide article. It’s a simple way to showcase your knowledge and give colleagues a reason to remember your skills. Those moments of sharing often spark referrals you didn’t see coming.

The relationships you build with colleagues can be just as important — and rewarding — as the ones you develop outside the firm.

Tips you can try right away:

• Schedule short coffees with colleagues in other practice areas.
• Volunteer for cross-practice projects that get you in front of new people.
• Share your wins internally so others know what you’re working on.

Use Conferences Strategically

Conferences can be a big investment of time and money, and without a plan they often don’t deliver much value. The lawyers who get the most out of them treat these gatherings as opportunities to connect, not just as days away from the office.

For example, before attending a major industry conference you identify ten people you want to meet. You reach out in advance to set up coffees or quick chats. After the event, you follow up with personalized notes that build on your conversations. That preparation turns a few days at a conference into the start of real business relationships.

Or consider volunteering to moderate a panel or contribute as a speaker. Instead of just sitting in the audience, you’re visible to everyone in the room as someone with knowledge to share. It’s a simple way to raise your profile while making new connections.

When you show up with a plan, conferences stop being just another calendar entry. They become platforms for expanding your network, strengthening relationships and planting the seeds for future opportunities.

Tips you can try right away:

• Review the attendee list and set goals before you arrive.
• Plan touchpoints before, during and after the event.
• Don’t just collect business cards — focus on meaningful conversations.

Keep Your Network Warm

Reaching out only when you need something feels transactional. Strong networks are built by keeping relationships warm all the time.

Example: you see a former colleague in the news. You send a short note to congratulate them.

Another example: you forward an article or podcast that connects to a client’s business. There’s no agenda — just a thoughtful touch.

When you nurture your network regularly, you don’t need to scramble when you actually do need something. The relationship is already strong.

Tips you can try right away:

• Reach out when you see milestones or achievements.
• Send quick notes that show you’re thinking of them.
• Mix professional updates with personal touches when appropriate.

Develop Executive Presence

Executive presence is what gives clients confidence in your judgment. It shows through in the way you communicate with clarity and carry yourself with confidence.

The way you introduce yourself, the way you listen closely and the way you explain complicated issues in simple, direct terms can all leave a lasting impression.

Preparation also plays a role. When you walk into a client or pitch meeting having thought through the issues and questions that might come up, you’re able to respond in a steady, thoughtful way. That kind of readiness helps clients trust that you’ll handle their matters with care.

Executive presence grows with practice. Each time you focus on clear communication, attentive listening and self-awareness, you strengthen the qualities that make people trust your guidance.

Tips you can try right away:

• Practice explaining complex issues simply and clearly.
• Watch your body language — calm and steady always reads well.
• Prepare so you can handle surprises without losing confidence.

Build a Referral Network

Some of the best work comes through referrals. When you invest in relationships with other professionals, they can turn into a steady source of opportunities.

Take an investment banker you’ve built trust with. They send clients your way, and you look for chances to connect them with people in your own network. Everyone benefits, and the relationship keeps getting stronger.

Former colleagues are another great example. When they move in-house, they may not need outside counsel right away. But when they do, they’ll usually call the person they already know and feel comfortable with.

Referrals grow out of reputation. When people see that you’re consistent, reliable and easy to work with, they don’t hesitate to send business your way.

Tips you can try right away:

• Stay in touch with people outside of law who work with your clients.
• Be generous with introductions — it builds trust.
• Follow through quickly on any referral you receive.

Use LinkedIn Strategically

LinkedIn has become an essential platform for lawyers to build visibility, credibility and relationships. It’s often the first place a potential client, referral or even a journalist will look you up. A strong LinkedIn presence helps you stay top of mind, showcase your knowledge and expand your network well beyond the people you already know.

Think about the ripple effect of posting. You might share a short takeaway from a client matter (without confidential details) or an article that relates to your practice area. That one post could be seen by a colleague, a former client or someone entirely outside your network. I’ve seen lawyers receive inquiries from people they’ve never met who stumbled on their posts because a mutual connection engaged with them.

Engagement works the same way. When you consistently comment on colleagues’ updates it signals that you’re active and engaged in the profession. It’s also an easy way to show support for others which strengthens relationships. I often remind lawyers that you don’t always have to be the one producing content — being part of the conversation is just as powerful.

What doesn’t work on LinkedIn is being passive. A bare-bones profile or silence in the feed won’t help you stand out. Clients and referrals can’t get a sense of your skills or personality if you never show up. On the other hand, if you post, comment and keep your profile current you’re building a living, breathing professional brand that speaks for you even when you’re not in the room.

Practical steps to start today:

• Post at least once a week, even if it’s short — a quick thought, a client-friendly article or a takeaway from an event.
• Comment thoughtfully on others’ posts to stay visible and show you’re engaged in the industry.
• Keep your profile updated with recent matters, publications and speaking engagements — it shapes how people see you online.
• Use LinkedIn as a reason to reconnect. A post or a comment can be the perfect conversation starter for reaching out to a contact offline.
• Mix it up. Share insights, highlight firm news, react to industry trends or simply congratulate others on their achievements.

Over time these small, consistent actions add up. You’ll build a recognizable presence, deepen your network and create opportunities you wouldn’t have had if you were invisible online.

Making Business Development Part of Everyday Life

Business development grows out of the way you work and connect with others every single day. It’s in the conversations you have with clients and colleagues, the ideas you share online and offline, the follow-ups you send after a meeting, and the genuine interest you show in the people around you. None of these actions may seem especially significant on their own, but together they create a steady rhythm that others come to rely on and remember.

When you approach business development this way, it stops feeling like an extra task and instead becomes part of how you practice. Over time, these efforts compound. You’ll notice that your network becomes stronger, people think of you more often for opportunities and referrals come your way more naturally.

The best part is that you don’t need to do everything at once. Just focus on being consistent, authentic and engaged. Those small daily choices will carry you much further than one big presentation or pitch ever could!

The Easy Business Development Habit That Builds Relationships, Reputation and Revenue

September always feels like a turning point. Summer distractions fade, people settle back into routines and work picks up again. It’s easier to get someone on the phone, to schedule a coffee or to restart a conversation that slowed down over the summer. In many ways, this is the best season for business development because your outreach is more likely to get noticed.

That shift makes fall one of the best times to focus on business development. A thoughtful note or a coffee invite can stand out in a way it might not during other parts of the year. By using this season to reach out you can build momentum that carries into the new year.

Business development often feels like a big task, but small consistent steps move the needle. When you focus on a handful of actions you’ll keep yourself visible and connected without feeling overwhelmed. Learn more here.

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