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BUS 370
• Course Information
• http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/bus370.html
• http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/syl370.html
• Course Materials
• http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/mir.html
• http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/bus370.ppt
• Class Conference
• http://vms.cc.wmich.edu/www/confer/
• BUS370-DISC and BUS370-CASES
Overview
• Communication Skills
• Nonverbal communication
• Oral communication
• Written communication
• Interpersonal Applications
• Business Applications
Why Study Communication?
• The Only Completely Portable Skill
• You will use it in every relationship
• You will need it regardless of your career path
• The “Information Age”
• The history of civilization is the history of information
• Language and written documents facilitate the transfer
of information and knowledge through time and space
Why Study Communication?
• Your Quality of Life Depends Primarily on
Your Communication Skills
• You Cannot Be Too Good at Communication
• People Overestimate Their Own
Communication Skills
We Want Others to Change
What Is Communication?
• Transfer of Meaning—No
• Influence of Mental Maps—Yes
• Redundant
• Visual
• Auditory
• Kinesthestic
• Energetic
What Is Communication?
• Conscious and Intentional
• Nonverbal
• Verbal
• Unconscious and Unintentional
• Nonverbal
• Verbal
Unconscious Processing
• Conscious Processing = 7±2/Second
• Unconscious Processing = 200,000,000/Sec.
• Short-term Memory
• Long-term Memory
• Habits
• Physical
• Mental
Habits
• Learned Behavior
• Established Over Time
• Practice
• Self-talk
• Change
Learning
• Unconscious Incompetence
• Conscious Incompetence
• Conscious Competence
• Unconscious Competence
• Mastery
External Reality
• The Map is Not the Territory
• We delete information
• We distort information
• We generalize
• We assign meaning
• Models of the World
Sensory Data
• The Building Blocks of Subjective Experience
• What we see
• What we hear
• What we touch, taste, and smell
• The Four-tuple
• Meanings and Memories
Filtering Experience
• Primary Mediation
• Secondary Mediation
• Genetic predisposition
• Conditioning
• Personal profiles of behavioral type
• Beliefs, values, core questions, and core metaphors
• Physical and mental state
Perception Can Be Tricky
The Communication Process
Sensory
Data
Sensory
Data
Sender Receiver
Filters
Beliefs
Values
Questions &
Metaphors
Beh. Type
State
Filters
Beliefs
Values
Questions &
Metaphors
Beh. Type
State
Decision-
Making
Message
Channel
The Bowman Communication Model, 1992-2003
Encoding
Decision-
Making
Encoding
Metaphor: The Language of Perception
• Metaphors and Similes
• My love is a flower.
• My love is like a flower.
• Core Metaphors
• Argument is war
• Business is war
• Business is a sport or a game
• Business is a building
Core Metaphors
• Metaphors, Similes, and Analogies
• Perceptual Filters
• Common Operational Metaphors
• Time is…
• Learning is…
• Men/Women are…
• Success is...
• Life is…
Experience, Language, and Meaning
Experience
Sensory Data
Mental Maps
Language Meaning
Symbol Systems
• Language
• Words and sentences
• Meaning and labels
• Mathematics
• Money
History of Communication
• Nonverbal: 150,000 years
• Oral: 55,000 years
• Written: 6,000 years
• Early writing: 4000 BC
• Egyptian hieroglyphics: 3000 BC
• Phoenician alphabet: 1500 to 2000 BC
• Book printing in China: 600 BC
• Book printing in Europe: 1400 AD
Communicating Meaning
• Physiology and Appearance: 55 percent
• Paralanguage: 38 percent
• Language: 7 percent
Sensory Data and Mental Maps
• Bridge Between Internal and External
• Internal and External Processing
• Internal Processing
• Posture and breathing
• Language and paralanguage
• Eye accessing cues
Sensory Modalities
• Visual
• Auditory
• Kinesthetic
• Touch
• Taste
• Smell
• Emotional responses (feelings)
Preferred Sensory Modalities
• People Use All Their Available Senses
• Some Prefer Visual
• Some Prefer Auditory
• Some Prefer the Kinesthetic Cluster
• Senses of touch, taste, and smell
• Associated emotional responses
• Some Prefer “Digital” Processing
Visuals
• Vocabulary
• I see what you mean.
• It looks good to me.
• Let’s stay focused on the problem.
• She has a bright future.
• He’s always in a fog.
• Physiology and Appearance
• Paralanguage
Auditories
• Vocabulary
• I hear what you are saying.
• It sounds good to me.
• Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?
• That’s music to my ears.
• He’s always blowing his own horn.
• Physiology and Appearance
• Paralanguage
Kinesthetics (Kinos)
• Vocabulary
• I can grasp the concept, and it feels right to me.
• It smells fishy to me.
• It left me with a bad taste in my mouth.
• She’s still rough around the edges.
• He’s a smooth operator.
• Physiology and Appearance
• Paralanguage
Eye Accessing Cues
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Exercise: Observing Eye
Movements
• Ask questions that require internal processing.
• Visual
• Auditory
• Kinesthetic
• Taste or smell
• Touch
• Emotions
Exercise: Flexibility
• Determine your preferred system.
• What are you doing when you “think”?
• Speak for two minutes using predicates
from one sensory modality, then do the
the same for each of the other two.
• Work in groups and take turns speaking
using sense-based predicates in a systematic
way.
Rapport
• Finding Commonalities
• Values
• Vocabulary and paralanguage
• Physiology and appearance
• Matching and Mirroring
• Cross-over Matching
People who are like each other,
like each other.
Developing Rapport
• Nonverbal (what you see and do)
• Physiology
• Appearance
• Congruence
• Verbal (what you hear and say)
• Sense-based predicates
• Values, beliefs, and criteria
• Voice tone and rate of speech
Reading Nonverbal Messages
• Sensory Acuity
• Agree and Disagree
• Posture and Movement
• Associated or dissociated
• Bodily response
Exercises: Rapport
• Matching and Mirroring
• Observing others
• Practicing
• Calibration
• Like/dislike
• Yes/no
business commuication ppt.ppt
Congruence
• Physiology
• Left/right body
• Left/right brain
• Nonverbal and Verbal Messages
• “Parts”
• Groups
Strategies
• The Structure of Subjective Experience
• Four-tuples
• Syntax
• Learned Behavior
• TOTE (Test, Operate, Test, Exit)
• Habits
• Skills
Common Strategies
• Spelling
• Auditory (spell “phonics” phonetically)
• Visual
• Making Decisions
• Communicating
• Listening and speaking
• Writing
Decision-making Strategies
• Purchasing
• An inexpensive product
• Dinner in a nice restaurant
• An expensive product or service
• Relationships
• Career Choices
Communication Strategy, 1 & 2
• Pace
• Match (nonverbally and verbally)
• Meet expectations
• Lead
• Set direction
• Maintain interest
• Maintain rapport
Communication Strategy, 3 & 4
• Blend Outcomes
• Understand objectives and desires
• Create win-win solutions
• Motivate
• Clarify who does what next
• Future-pace possibilities
• Presuppose positive results
Exercise: Eliciting Strategies
• Ordering a Meal in a Restaurant
• Learning Something New
• Teaching Something for the First Time
Personal Profiles
• Achiever
• Communicator
• Specialist
• Perfectionist C
S
P
A
Profile Characteristics
• Achiever
• Likes to set goals, challenge the environment and win.
• Sees life as a competition.
• Communicator
• Likes to achieve results by working with and through people.
• Finds more enjoyment in the process than in the results.
• Specialist
• Likes to plan work and relationships.
• Finds enjoyment in knowing what to expect.
• Perfectionist
• Enjoys jobs requiring attention to detail.
• Complies with authority and tries to provide the “right” answer.
Metaprograms
• Action — Initiate or Respond
• Direction — Toward or Away From
• Source — Internal or External
• Conduct — Rule Follower or Breaker
More Metaprograms
• Response — Match or Mismatch
• Scope — Global or Specific
• Cognitive Style — Thinking or Feeling
• Confirmation — VAK and Times
Exercise: Eliciting Metaprograms
• Metaprograms are revealed by
• Nonverbal messages
• Language
• Questions
• What do you mean?
• How do you know?
• What’s important to you about that?
Changing Behavior
• Patterns and Pattern Interrupts
• Anchors and Anchoring
• Stimulus-response conditioning
• Visual, auditory, and kinesthetic anchors
• Advanced Language Patterns
• The Metamodel
• The Milton Model
Exercise: Anchoring
• Setting Anchors
• Kinesthetic
• Visual
• Auditory
• Stacking Anchors
• Collapsing Anchors
• Using Sliding Anchors
The Structure of
Subjective Experience
• Sorting for Time
• Past, present, and future
• Timelines
• Sorting for Like and Dislike
• Creating and Changing Meaning
Modalities and Submodalities
• Visual Submodalities
• Location, size, distance, brightness, point of view
• Color or black & white, moving or still
• Auditory Submodalities
• Location, tone, rate, pitch, inflection, rhythm
• Language, voice (your voice, the voice of a parent)
• Kinesthetic Submodalities
• Location, strength, duration, movement
• Quality (warm, cold, “tingly,” etc.)
Exercise: Changing Submodalities
• Select something, someone, or an activity
you want to like better.
• Elicit submodalities for
• Things you like.
• Things you dislike.
• Change the submodalities with which you
represent the thing, person, or activity.
Belief Systems
• Cultural
• Parental
• Group
• Individual
• Global (Identity)
• Cause-effect
• If X, then Y
• If I study, then I will...
• Rules
• Can/can’t
• Must/must not
• Should/should not
Values
• A Type of Belief
• Hierarchical
• Either Positive or Negative
• Something desired
• Something to avoid
• Congruent or Incongruent
Core Questions
• Remain Out of Conscious Awareness
• Focus Attention
• Influence Interpretation of Events
• Influence Psychological State
• Influence the Range of Possibilities
Exercise: Belief and Disbelief
• Elicit the submodalities of something you
believe absolutely.
• Elicit the submodalities of something you
doubt.
• Elicit the submodalities of something you
disbelieve.
• Select a limiting belief and change its
submodalities.
Frames and Reframes
• The Filters That Determine Meaning
• Influence State and Behavior
• Creating and Changing Frames
• Anchoring
• Reframing Context
• Reframing Content
Reframing Context
• Key Questions
• Where would the characteristic or behavior be useful?
• When would the characteristic or behavior be useful?
• What would have to be true for this to be useful?
• Common Context Reframes
• Rudolph’s red nose
• Oil
• Procrastination
Reframing Content
• Key Questions
• What else could this mean (or be)?
• What am I missing here?
• How can he or she believe that?
• How could this mean the opposite of what I thought?
• Common Content Reframes
• The ugly duckling
• Plastic or sawdust
• Failure
The Metamodel
• Used to Understand Another’s Mental Maps
• Used to Recover Lost Information
• Used to Help Correct Distortions
• Universal Metamodel Questions
• What, who, or how specifically?
• What do you mean?
• How do you know?
• What would happen if you did (or didn’t)?
Metamodel “Violations”
• Unspecified Nouns
• Abstract nouns (a student, teachers)
• Nominalizations (freedom, justice)
• Unspecified or Missing Pronouns
• Someone you know. . . .
• It’s wrong to think that.
Metamodel “Violations”
• Unspecified Verbs
• You have to learn this.
• You will solve your problems.
• Unwarranted Generalizations
• You never want to do anything.
• Politicians are crooks.
Metamodel “Violations”
• Unwarranted Comparisons
• Brand X gives you more.
• Sally is the best.
• Unwarranted Rules
• You can’t do that on television.
• Clean your plate.
• No pain, no gain.
The Milton Model
• Used to Change Another’s Mental Maps
• Used to Create New Possibilities
• Used to Influence
Milton Model Techniques
• Metamodel “Violations”
• Unspecified nouns, pronouns, and verbs.
• Generalizations
• Comparisons
• Shifts in referential index
More Milton Model Techniques
• Presuppositions
• Embedded Questions
• Embedded Commands
• Negative Commands
• Metaphors
• Quotes
• Ambiguities
Basic Language Skills
• My automobile prefers to warm up slowly.
• The organization is in excellent shape. For
example, the record profits last year.
• The company has decided to purchase new
furniture.
• While busy working at the computer all day
was no doubt the cause of her eye strain and
stiff neck.
More Basic Language Skills
• Not only will Alex need to justify his
behavior to his boss, but also to the
company president.
• The data is from “Service Is the Key”, by
Eileen Johnson in the May issue of The
Journal of Customer Relations.
Language Skills for Case 1
• As an employee of Con-U-Tel, it is my
responsibility to set up our companies
annual convention.
• I am writing this letter to inquire about your
hotel’s accommodations.
• How many people can your hotel
accommodate at one time?
More Language Skills for Case 1
• Does your hotel have banquet facilities?
• How many conference rooms does your
hotel have with audio/visual equipment?
• I must have your answer by July 10th so
that I can make a decision.
• Thank you in advance for sending this and
other helpful information.
Block Format and
Mixed Punctuation
• Date goes on left margin
• 5 January 2004
• January 5, 2004
• NOT: 1/5/2004 or 5.1.2004
• Inside address includes the following:
• Name of the individual with courtesy title
• Professional title and/or office or department
• Organization plus “mail stop” information
• City, state, and ZIP code information
Block Format and
Mixed Punctuation—Part 2
• Salutation
• Dear Ms. Goldman:
• Dear Director:
• Ladies and Gentlemen:
• The signature block includes the following:
• An appropriate complimentary close (Sincerely,
Cordially, Best Wishes)
• The signature of the person who wrote the letter
• The typed/printed name of the writer
Message Structure for Case 1
• Ask the most important question.
• What is the make-or-break question?
• Why are convention facilities more important than guest rooms?
• Why is it important to include the dates in the opening question?
• Explain your needs.
• What does she need to know to help you?
• What does she not need to know?
• What is required for transition to the list of secondary questions?
More Structure for Case 1
• Ask your secondary questions.
• What is implied by the numbered list?
• How do you ensure that the information you receive
will help you make a decision?
• Set and justify an end-date.
• Is it possible that she can help you in ways you haven’t
asked about?
• Why do you need a time index to justify a specific end-
date?

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business commuication ppt.ppt

  • 1. BUS 370 • Course Information • http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/bus370.html • http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/syl370.html • Course Materials • http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/mir.html • http://homepages.wmich.edu/~bowman/bus370.ppt • Class Conference • http://vms.cc.wmich.edu/www/confer/ • BUS370-DISC and BUS370-CASES
  • 2. Overview • Communication Skills • Nonverbal communication • Oral communication • Written communication • Interpersonal Applications • Business Applications
  • 3. Why Study Communication? • The Only Completely Portable Skill • You will use it in every relationship • You will need it regardless of your career path • The “Information Age” • The history of civilization is the history of information • Language and written documents facilitate the transfer of information and knowledge through time and space
  • 4. Why Study Communication? • Your Quality of Life Depends Primarily on Your Communication Skills • You Cannot Be Too Good at Communication • People Overestimate Their Own Communication Skills
  • 5. We Want Others to Change
  • 6. What Is Communication? • Transfer of Meaning—No • Influence of Mental Maps—Yes • Redundant • Visual • Auditory • Kinesthestic • Energetic
  • 7. What Is Communication? • Conscious and Intentional • Nonverbal • Verbal • Unconscious and Unintentional • Nonverbal • Verbal
  • 8. Unconscious Processing • Conscious Processing = 7±2/Second • Unconscious Processing = 200,000,000/Sec. • Short-term Memory • Long-term Memory • Habits • Physical • Mental
  • 9. Habits • Learned Behavior • Established Over Time • Practice • Self-talk • Change
  • 10. Learning • Unconscious Incompetence • Conscious Incompetence • Conscious Competence • Unconscious Competence • Mastery
  • 11. External Reality • The Map is Not the Territory • We delete information • We distort information • We generalize • We assign meaning • Models of the World
  • 12. Sensory Data • The Building Blocks of Subjective Experience • What we see • What we hear • What we touch, taste, and smell • The Four-tuple • Meanings and Memories
  • 13. Filtering Experience • Primary Mediation • Secondary Mediation • Genetic predisposition • Conditioning • Personal profiles of behavioral type • Beliefs, values, core questions, and core metaphors • Physical and mental state
  • 15. The Communication Process Sensory Data Sensory Data Sender Receiver Filters Beliefs Values Questions & Metaphors Beh. Type State Filters Beliefs Values Questions & Metaphors Beh. Type State Decision- Making Message Channel The Bowman Communication Model, 1992-2003 Encoding Decision- Making Encoding
  • 16. Metaphor: The Language of Perception • Metaphors and Similes • My love is a flower. • My love is like a flower. • Core Metaphors • Argument is war • Business is war • Business is a sport or a game • Business is a building
  • 17. Core Metaphors • Metaphors, Similes, and Analogies • Perceptual Filters • Common Operational Metaphors • Time is… • Learning is… • Men/Women are… • Success is... • Life is…
  • 18. Experience, Language, and Meaning Experience Sensory Data Mental Maps Language Meaning
  • 19. Symbol Systems • Language • Words and sentences • Meaning and labels • Mathematics • Money
  • 20. History of Communication • Nonverbal: 150,000 years • Oral: 55,000 years • Written: 6,000 years • Early writing: 4000 BC • Egyptian hieroglyphics: 3000 BC • Phoenician alphabet: 1500 to 2000 BC • Book printing in China: 600 BC • Book printing in Europe: 1400 AD
  • 21. Communicating Meaning • Physiology and Appearance: 55 percent • Paralanguage: 38 percent • Language: 7 percent
  • 22. Sensory Data and Mental Maps • Bridge Between Internal and External • Internal and External Processing • Internal Processing • Posture and breathing • Language and paralanguage • Eye accessing cues
  • 23. Sensory Modalities • Visual • Auditory • Kinesthetic • Touch • Taste • Smell • Emotional responses (feelings)
  • 24. Preferred Sensory Modalities • People Use All Their Available Senses • Some Prefer Visual • Some Prefer Auditory • Some Prefer the Kinesthetic Cluster • Senses of touch, taste, and smell • Associated emotional responses • Some Prefer “Digital” Processing
  • 25. Visuals • Vocabulary • I see what you mean. • It looks good to me. • Let’s stay focused on the problem. • She has a bright future. • He’s always in a fog. • Physiology and Appearance • Paralanguage
  • 26. Auditories • Vocabulary • I hear what you are saying. • It sounds good to me. • Does the name Pavlov ring a bell? • That’s music to my ears. • He’s always blowing his own horn. • Physiology and Appearance • Paralanguage
  • 27. Kinesthetics (Kinos) • Vocabulary • I can grasp the concept, and it feels right to me. • It smells fishy to me. • It left me with a bad taste in my mouth. • She’s still rough around the edges. • He’s a smooth operator. • Physiology and Appearance • Paralanguage
  • 29. Exercise: Observing Eye Movements • Ask questions that require internal processing. • Visual • Auditory • Kinesthetic • Taste or smell • Touch • Emotions
  • 30. Exercise: Flexibility • Determine your preferred system. • What are you doing when you “think”? • Speak for two minutes using predicates from one sensory modality, then do the the same for each of the other two. • Work in groups and take turns speaking using sense-based predicates in a systematic way.
  • 31. Rapport • Finding Commonalities • Values • Vocabulary and paralanguage • Physiology and appearance • Matching and Mirroring • Cross-over Matching People who are like each other, like each other.
  • 32. Developing Rapport • Nonverbal (what you see and do) • Physiology • Appearance • Congruence • Verbal (what you hear and say) • Sense-based predicates • Values, beliefs, and criteria • Voice tone and rate of speech
  • 33. Reading Nonverbal Messages • Sensory Acuity • Agree and Disagree • Posture and Movement • Associated or dissociated • Bodily response
  • 34. Exercises: Rapport • Matching and Mirroring • Observing others • Practicing • Calibration • Like/dislike • Yes/no
  • 36. Congruence • Physiology • Left/right body • Left/right brain • Nonverbal and Verbal Messages • “Parts” • Groups
  • 37. Strategies • The Structure of Subjective Experience • Four-tuples • Syntax • Learned Behavior • TOTE (Test, Operate, Test, Exit) • Habits • Skills
  • 38. Common Strategies • Spelling • Auditory (spell “phonics” phonetically) • Visual • Making Decisions • Communicating • Listening and speaking • Writing
  • 39. Decision-making Strategies • Purchasing • An inexpensive product • Dinner in a nice restaurant • An expensive product or service • Relationships • Career Choices
  • 40. Communication Strategy, 1 & 2 • Pace • Match (nonverbally and verbally) • Meet expectations • Lead • Set direction • Maintain interest • Maintain rapport
  • 41. Communication Strategy, 3 & 4 • Blend Outcomes • Understand objectives and desires • Create win-win solutions • Motivate • Clarify who does what next • Future-pace possibilities • Presuppose positive results
  • 42. Exercise: Eliciting Strategies • Ordering a Meal in a Restaurant • Learning Something New • Teaching Something for the First Time
  • 43. Personal Profiles • Achiever • Communicator • Specialist • Perfectionist C S P A
  • 44. Profile Characteristics • Achiever • Likes to set goals, challenge the environment and win. • Sees life as a competition. • Communicator • Likes to achieve results by working with and through people. • Finds more enjoyment in the process than in the results. • Specialist • Likes to plan work and relationships. • Finds enjoyment in knowing what to expect. • Perfectionist • Enjoys jobs requiring attention to detail. • Complies with authority and tries to provide the “right” answer.
  • 45. Metaprograms • Action — Initiate or Respond • Direction — Toward or Away From • Source — Internal or External • Conduct — Rule Follower or Breaker
  • 46. More Metaprograms • Response — Match or Mismatch • Scope — Global or Specific • Cognitive Style — Thinking or Feeling • Confirmation — VAK and Times
  • 47. Exercise: Eliciting Metaprograms • Metaprograms are revealed by • Nonverbal messages • Language • Questions • What do you mean? • How do you know? • What’s important to you about that?
  • 48. Changing Behavior • Patterns and Pattern Interrupts • Anchors and Anchoring • Stimulus-response conditioning • Visual, auditory, and kinesthetic anchors • Advanced Language Patterns • The Metamodel • The Milton Model
  • 49. Exercise: Anchoring • Setting Anchors • Kinesthetic • Visual • Auditory • Stacking Anchors • Collapsing Anchors • Using Sliding Anchors
  • 50. The Structure of Subjective Experience • Sorting for Time • Past, present, and future • Timelines • Sorting for Like and Dislike • Creating and Changing Meaning
  • 51. Modalities and Submodalities • Visual Submodalities • Location, size, distance, brightness, point of view • Color or black & white, moving or still • Auditory Submodalities • Location, tone, rate, pitch, inflection, rhythm • Language, voice (your voice, the voice of a parent) • Kinesthetic Submodalities • Location, strength, duration, movement • Quality (warm, cold, “tingly,” etc.)
  • 52. Exercise: Changing Submodalities • Select something, someone, or an activity you want to like better. • Elicit submodalities for • Things you like. • Things you dislike. • Change the submodalities with which you represent the thing, person, or activity.
  • 53. Belief Systems • Cultural • Parental • Group • Individual • Global (Identity) • Cause-effect • If X, then Y • If I study, then I will... • Rules • Can/can’t • Must/must not • Should/should not
  • 54. Values • A Type of Belief • Hierarchical • Either Positive or Negative • Something desired • Something to avoid • Congruent or Incongruent
  • 55. Core Questions • Remain Out of Conscious Awareness • Focus Attention • Influence Interpretation of Events • Influence Psychological State • Influence the Range of Possibilities
  • 56. Exercise: Belief and Disbelief • Elicit the submodalities of something you believe absolutely. • Elicit the submodalities of something you doubt. • Elicit the submodalities of something you disbelieve. • Select a limiting belief and change its submodalities.
  • 57. Frames and Reframes • The Filters That Determine Meaning • Influence State and Behavior • Creating and Changing Frames • Anchoring • Reframing Context • Reframing Content
  • 58. Reframing Context • Key Questions • Where would the characteristic or behavior be useful? • When would the characteristic or behavior be useful? • What would have to be true for this to be useful? • Common Context Reframes • Rudolph’s red nose • Oil • Procrastination
  • 59. Reframing Content • Key Questions • What else could this mean (or be)? • What am I missing here? • How can he or she believe that? • How could this mean the opposite of what I thought? • Common Content Reframes • The ugly duckling • Plastic or sawdust • Failure
  • 60. The Metamodel • Used to Understand Another’s Mental Maps • Used to Recover Lost Information • Used to Help Correct Distortions • Universal Metamodel Questions • What, who, or how specifically? • What do you mean? • How do you know? • What would happen if you did (or didn’t)?
  • 61. Metamodel “Violations” • Unspecified Nouns • Abstract nouns (a student, teachers) • Nominalizations (freedom, justice) • Unspecified or Missing Pronouns • Someone you know. . . . • It’s wrong to think that.
  • 62. Metamodel “Violations” • Unspecified Verbs • You have to learn this. • You will solve your problems. • Unwarranted Generalizations • You never want to do anything. • Politicians are crooks.
  • 63. Metamodel “Violations” • Unwarranted Comparisons • Brand X gives you more. • Sally is the best. • Unwarranted Rules • You can’t do that on television. • Clean your plate. • No pain, no gain.
  • 64. The Milton Model • Used to Change Another’s Mental Maps • Used to Create New Possibilities • Used to Influence
  • 65. Milton Model Techniques • Metamodel “Violations” • Unspecified nouns, pronouns, and verbs. • Generalizations • Comparisons • Shifts in referential index
  • 66. More Milton Model Techniques • Presuppositions • Embedded Questions • Embedded Commands • Negative Commands • Metaphors • Quotes • Ambiguities
  • 67. Basic Language Skills • My automobile prefers to warm up slowly. • The organization is in excellent shape. For example, the record profits last year. • The company has decided to purchase new furniture. • While busy working at the computer all day was no doubt the cause of her eye strain and stiff neck.
  • 68. More Basic Language Skills • Not only will Alex need to justify his behavior to his boss, but also to the company president. • The data is from “Service Is the Key”, by Eileen Johnson in the May issue of The Journal of Customer Relations.
  • 69. Language Skills for Case 1 • As an employee of Con-U-Tel, it is my responsibility to set up our companies annual convention. • I am writing this letter to inquire about your hotel’s accommodations. • How many people can your hotel accommodate at one time?
  • 70. More Language Skills for Case 1 • Does your hotel have banquet facilities? • How many conference rooms does your hotel have with audio/visual equipment? • I must have your answer by July 10th so that I can make a decision. • Thank you in advance for sending this and other helpful information.
  • 71. Block Format and Mixed Punctuation • Date goes on left margin • 5 January 2004 • January 5, 2004 • NOT: 1/5/2004 or 5.1.2004 • Inside address includes the following: • Name of the individual with courtesy title • Professional title and/or office or department • Organization plus “mail stop” information • City, state, and ZIP code information
  • 72. Block Format and Mixed Punctuation—Part 2 • Salutation • Dear Ms. Goldman: • Dear Director: • Ladies and Gentlemen: • The signature block includes the following: • An appropriate complimentary close (Sincerely, Cordially, Best Wishes) • The signature of the person who wrote the letter • The typed/printed name of the writer
  • 73. Message Structure for Case 1 • Ask the most important question. • What is the make-or-break question? • Why are convention facilities more important than guest rooms? • Why is it important to include the dates in the opening question? • Explain your needs. • What does she need to know to help you? • What does she not need to know? • What is required for transition to the list of secondary questions?
  • 74. More Structure for Case 1 • Ask your secondary questions. • What is implied by the numbered list? • How do you ensure that the information you receive will help you make a decision? • Set and justify an end-date. • Is it possible that she can help you in ways you haven’t asked about? • Why do you need a time index to justify a specific end- date?