Command confidence
0 likes619 views
This document discusses confidence and body image issues. It notes that women are much more critical of their physical appearance than men. Most women want to change at least one aspect of their looks and many young girls fear being overweight. However, confidence can be improved by changing negative thought patterns and behaviors. The document provides examples of cognitive distortions like all-or-nothing thinking and jumping to conclusions. It recommends techniques like noticing thoughts and feelings, reflecting on long-term values, reframing self-talk, and making considered responses to build confidence.
Command confidence
- 1. Command Confidence, Trip Triggers, and Flip Fears Donna Schumell March, 2016
- 2. “Have full trust or belief in the ability to complete a task or cause an outcome” Confidence
- 3. The Mirror Factor “We are much quicker to criticize our appearance than men are to criticize theirs. One international study shows 90% of all women want to change at least one aspect of their physical appearance. 81% of 10 year old girls are afraid of being fat. “Over half of young women reported that they would prefer to be hit by a truck than be fat. Two thirds would prefer to be mean or stupid.” 2% of us actually think we are beautiful.”
- 4. Confidence CAN Improve Many people think of confidence as a feeling but in reality it is a set of beliefs and behaviors that you can change and improve over time
- 5. What Do I THINK? 50,000 - 70,000 80% 80%
- 6. What Do I THINK? 50,000 - 70,000 80% 80%
- 8. Redefining Wealth Beliefs and Behaviors BEHAVIORS BELIEFS
- 9. Redefining Wealth All or Nothing
- 12. Redefining Wealth Discounting the Positives
- 13. Redefining Wealth Jumping To Conclusions https://www.flickr.com/photos/37873897@N06/7978635263/in/photolist
- 14. Redefining Wealth Magnification or Minimization
- 16. Redefining Wealth Emotional Reasoning “I don’t feel like doing this, so I will procrastinate.” “I feel like an idiot. I am an idiot.” “I feel stupid. I must be stupid.”
- 17. Redefining Wealth Labeling I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH
- 18. Redefining Wealth PERSONALIZATION AND BLAME IT’S MUST BE BECAUSE OF SOMETHING I’VE DONE THIS IS ALL KATE’S FAULT
- 19. Redefining Wealth Ant Smashing Strategies “Name It” “Sherlock” “Double Standard” “Experiment” “Shades of Gray” “Survey Monkey” “Softer Semantic” “Cause and Effect”
- 20. Your Experiential Triangle Source: Joe LeDoux, NYU; think2perform Thoughts (manage/choose) Actions (reactor/creator) Feelings (occur) Outside stimulus
- 21. Get Tactical! Exercise 1: Push the Pause Button
- 22. The Power of the Pause Push the Pause Button! Super-Selfie! (Capture) What thoughts are you having? What are you thinking about? What are you thinking about yourself? What are you feeling emotionally? What are you physically experiencing? What’s happening in your body? What are you doing? What action are you taking? What are you saying or not saying? Are your feelings, thoughts and actions aligned? What might be better choice for you right now?
- 23. Get Tactical Exercise 2: The 4 R’s Recognize Recognize your own thoughts, emotions, physiology/action and recognize the experience of others Source: think2perform
- 24. The 4 R’s Recognize Recognize your own thoughts, emotions, physiology/action and recognize the experience of others Reflect Reflect on the big picture, the long-term, the biases that might be in play…reflect on your VALUES, what’s important Source: think2perform
- 25. The 4 R’s Recognize Recognize your own thoughts, emotions, physiology/action and recognize the experience of others Reflect Reflect on the big picture, the long-term, the biases that might be in play, the moral principles and what you care about most (your values) Reframe Reframe your self-talk to account for possible ANT’s or biases and to avoid reflexive responses to highly-charged emotions Source: think2perform
- 26. The 4 Step Formula Recognize Recognize your own thoughts, emotions, physiology/action and recognize the experience of others Reflect Reflect on the big picture, the long-term, the biases that might be in play, the moral principles and what you care about most (your values) Reframe Reframe your self-talk to account for possible biases and to avoid reflexive responses to highly-charged emotions Respond Respond with a decision consistent with values and beliefs Source: think2perform
- 27. Redefining Wealth What Will You Do?
- 28. Resources 1. Rhode, Deborah L. Beauty Bias: The Injustice of Appearance in Life and Law. N.p.: Oxford UP, 2010. 2. http://www.apsu.edu/sites/apsu.edu/files/counseling/COGNITI VE_0.pdf
Editor's Notes
- #4: And the problem begins very young, with 51% of 9 and 10 year-old girls admitting that feel better about themselves if they are on a diet. Lest this appear to be a problem of the young, among more senior women in midlife, the ones who could be stepping into top leadership positions, an even bleaker picture emerges. A mere 12% of women over 50 were satisfied with their bodies. In order to “feel better about themselves,” 78% of them said they spent almost an hour a day trying to improve their appearance. That adds up to two full weeks a year of primping.
- #24: 23
- #25: 24
- #26: 25
- #27: 26