Compassionate relationships and communities
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The document discusses building compassionate relationships and communities. It emphasizes listening without judgment, asking open-ended questions, remembering names, following up regularly, and introducing people in mutually beneficial ways. The goal is to help people become their best selves by developing empathy, gratitude, and thoughtful diversity of perspectives through community.
Compassionate relationships and communities
- 3. Singular focus on helping people be their BEST SELVES
- 4. Takers, Givers, Matchers Me “first” May toe line of integrity Reveal their true intentions pretty quickly Takers “Pragmatic trust” Genuine and authentic No expectations Emotionally invested Givers “Quid pro quo” Reciprocity based Majority of relationships Matchers
- 5. Givers operate from an Abundance Mindset Open Source Pragmatic Trust Collaboration Humility
- 6. Compassion and Empathy "You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” Atticus Finch Ability to listen Cross-cultural sensitivity Treat people in harmony with their emotional mindset Cultivate self-awareness Travel Creative projects Volunteer work Gratitude practice Attributes Developing Compassion
- 7. BREAKOUT EXERCISE - Who should you meet? - How do you find them? - Should you cold call/email? - What role does tech play? - How to approach people who are more senior? - Where should you meet? - What if you’re shy/nervous? - What are good conversation starters? - What are good questions to ask? - What if you don’t click? - How do you follow up? - Via what medium and frequency? - How do you organize your relationships? - What could you share with your contacts? All groups: Where does compassion fit in? How to engineer serendipity? - Why should you bring people together? - How should you do it? - Who should you invite? - How can you ensure thought diversity? - How do you “grease” conversations? THE PREP MEETING FOLLOW-UP COMMUNITY
- 8. THE PREP
- 9. How the heck do I meet people? Leverage technology Warm intros Events that align with passions
- 10. What if I have “nothing to offer” Everyone has perspective Play to your passions Build an online presence
- 11. Volunteering #MAJOR🔑 Self-selecting filter Gratitude -> Happiness Diversity with participants Develop empathy/compassion
- 12. MEETING
- 13. All begins with Listening Talk as LITTLE as possible Resist temptation to fill blank spaces Ask Open-ended questions
- 14. Eye Contact is a Must Put your phone far away Direct eye contact builds trust Creates emotional connection Eyes reveal other non-linguistic cues
- 15. Ask Good Questions “When meeting someone new, try to find out what formative experience occurred in their lives before they were seventeen. It is my belief that some important event in everyone’s youth has an influence on everything that occurs afterwards.” Byron Wien
- 16. Remember Names #MAJOR🔑 People love their kids and dogs Need to authentically care Use “memory tricks” Talk notes in your CRM
- 17. Not only coffee or drinks #MAJOR🔑 Walks Volunteer work “Sweatworking” Avoid the prisoner’s dilemma
- 18. Dinner Table Test #MAJOR🔑 Curiosity enables breadth of ideas Breadth enables similar interests And ability to challenge viewpoints And it’s just more fun
- 19. FOLLOW-UP
- 20. What’s a good follow-up? Within 24 hours (for first meetings) Express gratitude, especially if “senior” Reference part of the conversation Offer up ways you can be helpful Open door for next interaction
- 21. Have a System Use a spreadsheet or CRM tool Think about buckets and “superpowers” Set reminders for follow-ups
- 22. Share, share, share! “Nurture your network by sending articles, books and emails to people to show you’re thinking about them.” Byron Wien
- 23. Be Creative #MAJOR🔑 Birthdays are a unique “excuse” to reach out and express gratitude
- 24. Any excuse for a handwritten note #MAJOR🔑 Embrace this “dying medium” More emotional “capacity” Get to the top of the “queue”
- 25. COMMUNITY
- 26. Power of Introductions MBI: Mutually Beneficial Intro Always use an opt-in Deep listening = better connections Use your CRM “buckets” Constantly think about your relationships
- 27. Organize Events Dinners, book clubs, volunteering Create space for authentic sharing Curate attendees “Serendipity explosions”
- 28. Understand Tribes & Weak Ties #MAJOR🔑 Notice patterns in relationships Interconnectivity can be a signal
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