![Learning to Manage Anger Can Be A Life
Saver!
• If you are an angry person, an abuser, an oppressor --
work on changing your habits!
• If you are a person impacted by an angry person, you
must alleviate the assaults the angry person makes to
your person and body or eliminate the angry person from
your life! [Angeris like second-hand smoke. It can kill a non-hostile person too! ]](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/man-220919224304-64b8b20c/85/Dealing-with-Anger-ppt-19-320.jpg)
Dealing with Anger.ppt
- 2. WHAT IS ANGER? • An emotional state. • Varies in intensity • A coping mechanism. • How you deal with events that threaten the body, self-esteem or values. • Related to fear. • Can be destructive and lead to problems - at work, in relationships, quality of life. • Feeling mad in response to frustration or injury. • Distorted thinking.
- 3. Ancient & Medieval Definitions -Madness -Insanity -Those lacking ethics &morals
- 4. CURRENT VIEWS • Angry people are hostile. (Hostility is a chronic state of anger. • Hostility is a permanent personality characteristic. • Hostile people are unhappy. • Angry people are emotionally insecure. • Angry people have a low sense of self.
- 5. EFFECTS OF ANGER • Anger---> Rage ---> Violence • Does great harm - more than any other emotion. • Associated with crime, abuse, poor working conditions, poor health. • Reports from Statistics and Surveys: – Road rage -> 8,000 deaths, 1 million injuries
- 6. EFFECTS OF ANGER • Polls reveal that people indicate that they feel like killing others. • Crime rate soars: rapes, murders, battering, child abuse, domestic abuse. • 1 in 5 women are raped - 683,000 in 1990 - 30% were less than 11 years of age. • Children between 3-17 years are the most violent.
- 7. CHARACTERISTICS OF ANGRY PEOPLE • Hostility - silently or overtly • Marital problems • Greater stress in interpersonal aspects of work. • Uses threat of anger to manipulate others. • Negative view of work. • Less open-minded. • Hostile people are unhappy. • Report more difficulties at work. • Less job satisfaction.
- 8. CHARACTERISTICS OF ANGRY PEOPLE • Are cynical. • Have antagonistic interactions. • Less tolerant. • Less understanding. • Less socially responsible. • Distrustful, resentful. • Competitive. • Blame others, put down others and demean others as a way of seeking revenge. • Influence other people to share their cynicism & pessimism.
- 10. BEHAVIORAL SIGNS • Chronically angry people frequently create unfriendly social environments for themselves by the way they deal with anger. • Verbal antagonism and condescending remarks --> fuels antagonism from others. • Assaults: physical, rage, slapping, shoving, using a weapon.
- 11. BEHAVIORAL SIGNS • Aggressive: overly critical, fault finding, name-calling, sarcasm, prejudice, cynical humor and teasing, flashes of temper. • Hurtful: malicious gossip, stealing, trouble-making, revengeful, passively resistant, interferes with progress. • Rebellious: open defiance, indirectly challenging.
- 12. BEHAVIORAL SIGNS • Health: smokers, drink more alcohol and coffee, consume more calories. Poor health overall. • Others: resentful, jealous, envious, argumentative, unforgiving, tired and anxious.
- 13. ANGER KILLS
- 14. ANGER KILLS • Thought -> Brain -> “Let’s Get Mad” -> autonomic nervous system -> release of hormones & chemicals in blood -> increases heart -> increases blood sugar and pressure -> increases breathing -> impairs senses -> releases deadly cortisol for “fight or flight” -> drains adrenal glands -> stimulates fat cells ->converts to cholesterol.
- 15. ANGER KILLS • To get angry is to slowly commit suicide. • Anger releases a slow-acting poison. Is toxic. Damages immune cells. • Cumulative effect: cholesterol buildup which blocks blood flow to arteries starving heart. • Causes release of chemicals and killer venom.
- 16. ANGER KILLS • Decreases production of serotonin which activates the sympathetic nervous system which speeds up release of cortisol - killer venom. Decreases action of parasympathetic nervous system. • Cortisol is potently dangerous - it lasts for 13 hours at the cellular level when released. • Linked to cancer. Causes slow burn.
- 17. ANGER KILLS • Suppressedangeris equallyas bad-->bitterness, depression,highbloodpressure,heartdisease,colitisand otherillnesses.
- 18. WAYS TO MANAGE AND EXPRESS ANGER • Two Rules to Live By: – “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.” – “Most Matters are Small Stuff.”
- 19. Learning to Manage Anger Can Be A Life Saver! • If you are an angry person, an abuser, an oppressor -- work on changing your habits! • If you are a person impacted by an angry person, you must alleviate the assaults the angry person makes to your person and body or eliminate the angry person from your life! [Angeris like second-hand smoke. It can kill a non-hostile person too! ]
- 20. SOME SUGGESTED STRATEGIES • Stress Inoculation. • Flooding or Frustration Training. • Meditation, Relaxation. • Assertiveness. • Be Empathic. • Learn To Be Fair. • Learn to Hold Back Anger. • Stop Using Your Temper To Get Your Way. • Practice Listening. • Improve Communication.
- 21. SUGGESTED STRATEGIES • Cognitive Restructuring. • Stop Hostile Fantasies. • Respect Others. • Practice Forgiveness. • Have a Sense of Humor.
- 22. SOME SPECIAL STRATEGIES • A TEN-STEP PROGRAM • RULES FOR EXPRESSING ANGER • TIME OUT • COPING WITH YOUR CO-WORKERS OR BOSS • RETHINK -(RECOGNIZE, EMPATHIZE, THINK, HEAR, INTEGRATE, NOTICE ANDKEEP)
- 23. 9 STRATEGIES FOR CONTROLLING HARMFUL HOSTILITY • Identify your pet peeves. • Reason with yourself. • Stop hostile thoughts, feelings and urges. • Avoid over stimulation. • Assert yourself. • Listen. • Forgive. • Pretend today is your last. • Help yourself and/or others to change.
- 24. PRACTICE EXERCISES Group Activity: Anger Workbook Group Report Outs Questions and Answers Thank You For Your Participation!