Five levels of self talk
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The document discusses the distinction between identity and role, emphasizing that one's self-image ('i') should not be confused with their role ('r') in life. A healthy self-image, rated between 8 and 10, enables individuals to feel good regardless of role performance, while lower ratings lead to negative self-perception and self-defeating behaviors. It highlights the importance of changing one's 'i' rating through positive self-talk and reframing beliefs to maintain a healthy identity separate from external performance.
Five levels of self talk
- 1. Identity vs Role Theory What you do doesn't comprise who you are or your “R” is not who you “I” The Dual Nature of Our Lives
- 2. Our "I" represents our.... values, beliefs, principles, desires and emotions--our inner selves. Your Identity
- 3. Our "R" is made up of ...... The many roles we play in our lives, or our outer selves. Your Role
- 4. If we confuse our role performances with our values as a human being, our self-image will go up and down with each performance. Performance
- 5. Regardless of the level of our self-image, we constantly work to bring our performance into line with that self-image. The Risk
- 6. Therefore, if we translate our "I" perception as a rating between 1 and 10, without a “10” rating for our self-image our role performance will be limited. The Risk Explained
- 7. How do you rate your "I"? What makes up your “I”?
- 8. If you rate your "I" between 8 and 10, you are a winner! You have a healthy self-image. You feel good about yourself most of the time, no matter how you are performing in your roles. A Healthy “I” Rating
- 9. If you rate yourself between 4 and 7, you are an at-leaster. If things go fairly well on your "R" side, you feel pretty good about yourself. If your role performance goes badly, you work to get back to average. People in this position tell themselves, "I may not be a winner, but at least I'm not a loser." A Not So Health “I” Rating
- 10. If you rate your "I" between 0 and 3, you're in the category of non-winner. You allow your role performance to affect how you feel about yourself. That poor self-image affects your performance, putting you in a cycle of self-defeating attitudes and behaviors. A Dangerous “I” Rating
- 11. The Five Levels of Self Talk How Do We Change Our “I” Rating?
- 12. Programming Creates Beliefs Beliefs Create Attitudes Attitudes Create Feelings Feelings Determine Action Actions Create Results Programming
- 13. “I just don't have..... “I just can't seem to … “I can't imagine ever.... “Today's just not my day” Level 1 Negative Acceptance The Most Harmful
- 14. “I need to .... “I ought to ..... “I should ...... “I really should lose weight. Level 2 Recognition of Need Deceptive at Best
- 15. “I never ...... “I no longer find that .... “I no longer put off ....... “I never eat more than I need.” Level 3 Decision to Change First Truly Effective Level
- 16. “I have a 33 inch waist and ...... “I have a great job and my needs are met.” “I am healthy, organized, and in complete control of my life.” Level 4 The Better You Painting a Completed New Self
- 17. “It is done.” “I am one with the Spirit” “I am worthy of all good things, my battles are won, I only need to show up to claim that which is already complete.” Level 5 Universal Affirmation A “Oneness” with Your Maker
- 18. You must separate your Identity from your Roles. You must not allow role failures to cause “hits” to your identity. Your programming can begin today. Special thanks to Dr. Shad Helmstetter And Sandler Sales Training Materials Shermanmohr at Shermanmohr dot com Summary