How to be Happy by Coaching Logic

Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION 4
THE 13 STEPS TO HAPPINESS 5
1. FAKE IT UNTIL YOU FEEL IT 6
2. FIND A PASSION 8
3. BE COMFORTABLE WITH WHO YOU ARE 10
4. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF 13
5. TAKE TIME TO BE GRATEFUL 15
6. MEDITATE 17
7. EXERCISE 19
8. GET ENOUGH SLEEP 21
9. SPEND TIME WITH LOVED ONES 24
10. CONNECT WITH NATURE – TAKE NOTICE OF THE WORLD AROUND YOU 26
11. BE A PART OF SOMETHING BIGGER 28
12. LET GO OF GRUDGES AND ANGER 30
13. HELP OTHERS 32
IN THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS 33
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IntroducXon
Happiness doesn’t simply come to us in the middle of the night – washing over us
like a powerful tsunami and making us happy then and for always. Happiness is
something we have to work at every single day of our lives.
This ebook: How to Be Happy, outlines and explains the 13 major steps to find
happiness in your life, even though you may have been dealt some blows that are
hard to overcome.
These thirteen steps contain solid informaGon that you can use to beHer
understand the true meaning of happiness and how to overcome the obstacles
that are sure to block your path to finding it.
You may have already found the key to happiness in some areas of your life, but
aren’t fulfilled in others. (NAME): How to Be Happy can help you fill in the blanks
of what may be missing in your life that can finally complete that broken circle of
happiness.
Use the 13 Steps to Happiness as a guide to get you on the path to true happiness.
Then, you can ascertain those areas where you may be lacking and be able to
delve deeper into finding answers.
For example, “Find a Passion,” explains why discovering what you really want to
do in life is so vital to your overall happiness. You may realize that you haven’t yet
found a passion in life and want to spend more Gme learning how to unveil a
cause or mission that you can feel true passion for.
Everyone has the right to pursue happiness – read on to discover the true
happiness that’s waiGng to be revealed in your life.
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The 13 Steps to Happiness
You may be surprised aXer you read this chapter that one of the steps to
happiness does NOT include, “Get rich!” It’s a hard fact that having a fat wallet
can’t bring you happiness if all the other odds in your life are stacked against you.
The richest person in the world would likely give it all away if he could regain his
health or the health of a loved one – or to re-gain a once-in-a-lifeGme relaGonship
that’s been lost. There isn’t one parGcular thing which can make you happy, but a
plethora of circumstances that must come together to complete the circle of
happiness in your life.
Happiness is not tangible – it’s a state of mind that must be culGvated and
nurtured to make it grow and become strong. It’s a journey that each of us can
pursue if we have the right map.
“Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness” is one of the best known phrases in
the ConsGtuGon of the United States of America. It’s part of your “inalienable
rights,” and everyone should have a chance to experience it every day of their
lives.
There are ways to pursue the journey to happiness and joy into your life in a way
that’s lasGng and rewarding. Here are thirteen of those top methods you’ll want
to incorporate into your own life:
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1. Fake It UnXl You Feel It
Psychological studies have proven that even a fake smile is beHer than wearing a
frown. One research team concluded that those people who pracGced being
outgoing and confident by smiling are less likely to suffer from sadness – and the
more you smile at others, the more likely you are to be happy.
An interesGng caveat to this study is that those people who lost the ability to
frown because of injecGons of Botox tend to be happier that those who sGll have
their “frowning” ability.
Actually pracGcing the theory of smiling is difficult at Gmes, but can be achieved
by concentraGng on all that’s good in your life and being grateful for that. Many
people find that a “GraGtude Journal” is helpful to remind them of posiGve things
in their lives.
But, you should try to find a “happy” balance between smiling all the Gme and
showing your true feelings. Thinking posiGve thoughts and smiling all the Gme
isn’t possible. You’re going to have Gmes when life is sad and difficult.
Unless you face your unhappiness, it could morph into a problem that needs
acknowledging and working on. Try and look at the bright side through your
problems, but also pay aHenGon to your inner feelings and address them
accordingly.
Rather than viewing “faking it” as deceit, think of it as pracGcing a posiGve
aetude that will help you develop self-confidence and self-esteem. Forcing
yourself to be posiGve can act as a coping mechanism to help you through many
trials and tribulaGons which threaten to destroy your life.
The roller coaster of life takes us through many highs and lows – death of a loved
one, relaGonship breakups and various types of rejecGon. They test our inner
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strength by pushing us oﬀ the path of happiness and success and into a quicksand
of depression and anxiety.
By focusing on the posiGve aspects of your life – faking happiness if you have to –
you’re forcing your thoughts and emoGons to get back on the true path to
happiness. Remember that happiness begins and ends with you. It’s a choice.
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2. Find a Passion
When you feel passion for something you’re excited and happy about, a sudden
surge of enthusiasm and new meaning for your life brings you immediate joy. It’s
like a child finding the “golden egg” on Easter morning. You can’t wait to open it
and see what the bunny has leX you.
But, finding the golden egg of passion doesn’t come easy. SomeGmes you have to
explore every nook and cranny of your mind to see what will make you feel and
welcome passion into your life.
It may be something as simple as wriGng the book that keeps running through
your head – or gardening to provide food or beauty. You may also find that you’re
passionate about geeng a degree or finding a lasGng relaGonship.
Finding your true passion can give you a purpose for life. Along the way, you may
have to make major life changes and rethink what happiness really means to you.
Passion provides personal growth for the success you desire and a sense of
accomplishment when you achieve the goals you set for yourself.
Your success in finding a passion will likely be fraught with obstacles and setbacks
along the way, but when you have passion, it’s like a fuel that conGnuously burns
through the negaGve unGl you reach the posiGve.
If you don’t feel passion for what you’re doing, it’s Gme to rethink your purpose in
life. It may be enGrely different from what you thought it would be. In your early
years you may have had dreams of having a family, home and more domesGc
pursuits.
Today, years later, your wants and needs may have changed to travel or volunteer
work. Whatever catches your interest, pursue it and find out if it’s a passion or just
a passing fancy.
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Good ways to pursue your true passion include:
• Listening to music you love – or culGvaGng an interest in another type of
music.
• Reading books (especially moGvaGonal books) that catch your fancy. It can
be ficGon or non-ficGon. You’ll know aXer a few pages if it bores or excites
you.
• Ask for help. SomeGmes you may need a liHle push or some insight into
finding your true passion. Don’t be afraid to ask someone you trust or seek
counseling for that insight.
• Don’t give up. Be paGent with yourself and don’t give up in finding a passion
that will help make you happy and successful.
Yo-Yo Ma said, “Passion is one great force that unleashes creaGvity, because if
you’re passionate about something, then you’re more willing to take risks.” Take a
risk to find your true passion and be sure to enjoy the journey.
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3. Be Comfortable with Who You Are
When you see people who are self-confident and enjoying themselves, you know
they’re likely comfortable with whom they are and have the self-esteem needed
to succeed in life. Being comfortable with yourself is a direct path to true
happiness and must be included in the steps to pursuing happiness.
Women are more likely to suffer from poor self-image than men. AdverGsements
and the media like to portray the ideal woman as thin, fashionable and energeGc
wives, mothers and lovers. If you feel you don’t meet that image, you may
develop low self-esteem and feel uncomfortable in your own skin.
It’s important to overcome a poor self-image and become comfortable with who
you are – aXer all, the longest relaGonship you’ll ever experience is with yourself.
Be gentle with yourself and find good things to think about yourself rather than
plying your brain with negaGve thoughts.
Here are some ideas about how to be comfortable in your own skin:
• Stop making the same mistakes over and over again.
Are you consistent in choosing bad partners, boring jobs and geeng
yourself into compromising situaGons?
Take a close look at whom and what you’re aHracGng and why. Bad habits
and paHerns develop because of something you’re doing and to stop the
cycle you need to know what it is.
• Be authenGc.
In a world full of phonies and fraud, it’s important you know what your
values and beliefs are so you can show the world who you are without
trying.
Being authenGc is important to happiness because it brings so many
benefits to your life – benefits that can help you be happy. Health, energy
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and success come when you know who you are and your place in this
world.
• Love yourself.
Loving yourself means that you accept yourself for whom and what you are
– warts and all. TreaGng yourself badly by negaGve thoughts, failing to
maintain good health and failure to seek your true path to happiness only
makes you sad and unhappy about whom you are.
You can’t be comfortable with yourself unless you believe you’re worthy of
loving yourself.
• Just do it.
Rather than whining about things you’d rather not do, just get up and do it.
That means to exercise when you don’t feel like it, meet obligaGons and do
it with a smile on your face.
It’s easy to get mired down in unwanted circumstances, but you probably
created the scenario yourself. Doing what you must do or are obligated to
do helps you feel beHer about yourself.
• Don’t tolerate abuse or unhappiness.
When you live in an atmosphere of abuse or unhappiness, you’re cueng
yourself off from feeling good about yourself and being able to pursue the
happiness you’re enGtled to.
It may be necessary to make life-changing adjustments to get out of the
situaGon(s) that are immobilizing you. Although there are some situaGons
that can’t be changed – most can if you’re willing to make the effort.
• Trust yourself.
Even though you may have made mistakes in the past, you should have
learned from those mistakes. Don’t be afraid to take off in a different
direcGon if your gut (and some research and Gme) tells you it’s the right
path to take.
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You don’t need to understand everything you want in life. You just need to
have enough passion to make it yours. It’s another way to feel comfortable
in your own skin.
No one is perfect, but when you can accept yourself, ﬂaws and all, and think
enough of yourself to seek happiness in your own way – nothing or no one can
hold you back.
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4. Take Time for Yourself
Taking Gme for yourself is one of the most difficult things to do, but if you’re going
to pursue happiness, some focus in your life must be turned to you – and only
you.
If you’re always on the go, focusing on what you have to get done and whom you
have to please, it may be difficult to find Gme for yourself, and when you do you
likely feel guilty.
In this age of mulG-tasking, you may feel guilty if you don’t have several things
going at once. You end up not really realizing what you’ve accomplished and
feeling let down and unsaGsfied.
MeeGng your obligaGons is important, but taking care of yourself should take first
priority in your life. When you go through each day focusing all of your Gme and
energy on others, happiness will surely elude you.
When you finally realize that it’s important to focus at least some of the aHenGon
to yourself, you may find you have a “wandering mind.” You sit down to read a
book or take a nap and nagging thoughts wash over your mind like a tsunami,
making it impossible to concentrate and take Gme for yourself.
This inability to focus on making yourself happy and doing things to take care of
yourself can send you on a path that’s a downward spiral into unhappiness and
you’ll spend the later years of your life regreeng it.
Think about the ways you could take beHer care of yourself. If you need and want
to lose weight, you could join an exercise class and plan your trips to the
supermarket so you’re purchasing healthier foods.
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Bad habits such as smoking, drinking too much alcohol, not devoGng enough Gme
to your family or relaGonships and staying in a boring or dead end job are also
ways that you can neglect yourself and become mired in a life of unhappiness.
“Time for me” is something you shouldn’t feel guilty about. It’s making yourself
set aside some Gme during the day or evening to renew, reassess, create energy,
heal and ﬁnd peace within.
Stress is a common factor running through our lives and the results of that
constant stress is poor health, unappreciated or lost relaGonships and Gme lost.
Taking Gme for yourself, to de-stress, unwind and re-energize can help your life
take a turn toward true happiness.
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5. Take Time to Be Grateful
Taking the Gme to express your gratefulness for what you have in life is a step to
happiness that can’t be overlooked. Whether you do it aloud or think grateful
thoughts during meditaGon Gme, keep a graGtude journal or express it in another
way, being grateful is essenGal to true and complete happiness.
If you think there’s nothing in your life to be grateful for – that’s all the more
reason for you to seek graGtude in your life. You may have a lousy job, but good
health, or a bad relaGonship, but are fulﬁlled in your career. Although you need to
work on the parts of your life that are not pleasing to you, there are sGll areas in
which you can be grateful.
Here are some ways to take a liHle Gme each day to be thankful for the good
things in your life and to express your graGtude:
• Live in the moment. You can’t get back each moment you’re alive.
Experience each and every minute by using all your senses to touch, see,
smell and taste all that’s good. It may seem fuGle for a while unGl you
realize that even things like a long commute to work can be good if you
listen to a moGvaGonal CD or some music that you love.
• Use visuals to express graGtude. WriGng down things you’re grateful for in a
“graGtude journal” is an excellent way to reinforce the good things in your
life. You can also create a graGtude display – a corkboard or other method
of displaying photos or reminders of people or experiences you’re grateful
for.
• Learn to control negaGve thoughts. It becomes easier with Gme and
pracGce to control the negaGve thoughts that enter your mind when you
least expect it and threaten to destroy your happiness. Keep in mind that
you control your thoughts and as soon as a negaGve one enters your mind,
pracGce replacing it with one of graGtude.
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• Move on from negaGve past experiences – If you’ve lived past childhood,
you’re bound to have experienced things that make you sad. Heartbreak,
failures and other negaGve experiences shouldn’t rule your life and be a
predictor of your future happiness. Acknowledge those experiences and
learn from them. Then, move on knowing you’ve done your best and will do
beHer in the future.
• Words are powerful tools. In this day of texGng and emails, it’s easier to use
mindless words, expressed in a moment of anger and frustraGon to hurt or
alienate another person in your life. Think before you send a message filled
with negaGvity and anger and try to formulate a different message that will
enlighten the other person. Words expressed in anger and frustraGon can
only bring you unhappiness.
• Read and listen to what upliXs you. Reading inspiraGonal and upliXing
books and online informaGon about how to live happy, listening to music
you love and that raises your spirit and being around beauty are all ways to
liX your happiness level. Be sure to add those elements to your life every
day.
• Help others. Giving your Gme and whatever else you can to others less
fortunate can help you realize how grateful you should be for what you
have. DonaGng your clothes, money, books and whatever else you can gives
you a happy feeling and makes you appreciate even more what you have in
your own life. DonaGng your Gme to charitable organizaGons is also a good
way to boost your happiness quoGent.
Gratefulness can be compared to beginning to exercise your body. At first, it’s
difficult to get up off the sofa and put out the effort if you’re not used to it, but
eventually it becomes so much a part of who and what you are that you realize
you don’t want to be without it.
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6. Meditate
The path to happiness is difficult enough, but with all the chaos and “noise” going
on around you, it can seem impossible to be by yourself for a few minutes each
day and let your thoughts wander to a quiet place.
If you don’t visit that quite place on a regular basis, your life can become filled
with negaGvity and you won’t be able to appreciate the good things in your life.
Happiness is likely to conGnue to elude you.
Even if your life is hecGc and it seems that every moment is “scheduled,” there are
ways you can take Gme out to make a posiGve difference in the way you think and
feel and to bring happiness back into your life. Here are a few suggesGons:
• Schedule quiet Gme. It may seem too simple, but if your schedule seems
unbreakable, try scheduling meditaGon just as you would a prioriGzed
meeGng. You may need to begin with taking a minute or two three or four
Gmes a day – then, try scheduling a ten minute meditaGon break a couple
of Gmes per day. No maHer how busy you are, keep that appointment with
meditaGon.
• Meditate first thing in the morning. As soon as you get up, sit back down
and begin to meditate, thinking only peaceful thoughts rather than about
the busy day ahead. Make a commitment to wake up a bit earlier so you can
enjoy and look forward to the peaceful few moments you create for
yourself. MeditaGon can bring such happiness and peace into your life in
abundance you never expected.
• Choose Gmes when you’re likely to be alone. When you get in your car or
have lunch in a quiet corner of the office, take Gme to sit for awhile and let
your mind wander to pleasant and posiGve thoughts. No maHer how your
day is going, these few moments can liX your spirit and bring you an
amount of happiness you didn’t feel before.
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• PracGce deep breathing. During the Gmes you schedule for meditaGon, take
deep breaths to relieve stress and relax your body. MeditaGon on posiGve
things will become easier as you learn how much beHer you feel when your
body is at ease.
Don’t make Gme for meditaGon another stress factor in your life. Just do it, rather
than thinking about it. Sit down without thinking, close your eyes and let your
thought paHern travel a posiGve path. Even if you only meditate for a minute or
two, it’s a beginning and will be good for you – physically and mentally.
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7. Exercise
Exercise is the one constant that seems to pop up in everything you read or advice
you receive that will make a posiGve difference in your life. It’s also a way to
ensure happiness by keeping your body in as good a shape as you can. But, what if
you hate to exercise? For many people, exercise is a dreaded word and an acGon
to avoid if at all possible.
It’s easy to avoid exercise with the super busy life you have. Something always
seems to get in the way of that hourly workout session. But, if you’re going to be
truly happy, your body should complement your mind – you should keep your
body in shape just as you prevent a feeble mind by exercising your brain.
Exercising begins with a mindset that’s determined and enthusiasGc. Here are a
few thoughts about developing and keeping a posiGve mindset about exercising.
• Have a plan. No maHer what exercise you choose, have a plan ready before
you strike off on your own. If you’re going to the gym, it’s helpful to have a
trainer at first to get you going. He or she can help you learn how to use the
machines correctly. Do simple tasks such as laying out your workout clothes
and seeng aside the amount of Gme you want to spend.
• Be realisGc about goals. It’s great to have high expectaGons about the
success you’ll have from your new exercise program, but rather than look at
the overall goal, set small goals for yourself. As you reach these landmarks,
reward yourself.
• Do something you love. If you hate the treadmill and weights, try something
different like swimming and dancing. Yoga and tai chi are also great ways to
begin to exercise your body slowly, but surely. You must begin this new
journey with something you can look forward to. Don’t torture yourself or
you’ll never enjoy exercise on a regular basis.
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• Find a partner. SomeGmes, it’s best to engage the encouragement of
another to begin a fitness and exercise program. You can moGvate each
other to meet your goals and it’s much easier to get into a rouGne when
someone else is dependent on you.
• Don’t make losing weight part of the fitness goal. That may sound strange,
but if you think of exercising as becoming a healthier a fiHer person, you
won’t dwell so much on that miniscule weight loss aXer a week of
exercising. Maintaining a healthy diet will ensure that you lose the weight.
Meanwhile get in shape with an exercise rouGne. The weight will take care
of itself.
When you maintain a posiGve and enthusiasGc aetude about exercising, you’ll be
happy about your progress and experience a higher level of self-esteem because
you’re taking care of you!
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8. Get Enough Sleep
You can’t be happy when you’re grumpy and disheveled from lack of sleep. Have
you ever noGced how much easier it is to keep a posiGve aetude during the day
aXer you’ve had an especially resqul night’s sleep?
That’s because your body and your mind have had a chance to rejuvenate and
become beHer able to accept what the day has to offer. Lots of posiGve chemical
changes occur in your body and mind when it’s had Gme to rest. If it doesn’t have
access to that valuable down Gme, your life will be an enGrely different version
than what might have been.
Here are ways so seek more peaceful sleep so you can meet the day happy and
rested:
• Develop a sleep rouGne. If you get up and go to bed at the same Gme every
day, you’ll be geeng in sync with your body’s natural rhythm (circadian
rhythm). You’ll have beHer quality sleep which translates to geeng up more
refreshed and ready to meet the day.
• Expose yourself to light during dayGme hours. Exposing yourself to sunlight
during day Gme hours and be sure your home or work space is brightly lit.
Some people who find it difficult to get enough sunlight use a light therapy
box to boost their sun quoGent.
• Avoid exposure to light at night. Just as you want to expose yourself to light
during the day, avoiding light is the best opGon during evening and
nigheme hours. Dim the lights in your home so that you can begin the
relaxaGon process before going to bed.
• Wind down before turning in. Stress can interfere with a good night’s sleep.
When you take the Gme to wind down and effecGvely manage your
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thoughts to a point of relaxaGon, you’ll have an easier Gme going to sleep
and geeng enough sleep.
• Keep the same schedule. It’s tempGng to sleep late on weekends or aXer
nights where you’ve stayed up late, but disrupGng your schedule could
cause your internal clock to be disrupted. A nap during the day is a much
beHer opGon than sleeping in. DisrupGng your sleep schedule can make you
grumpy and disoriented.
• Napping recharges your system. If you’ve stayed up late and missed your
usual sleep hours, napping can be a good way to recharge the system. It can
also be a detriment if you have chronic insomnia, making it increasingly
difficult to sleep at night.
• Eat a light dinner. EaGng too much just before bed Gme can disrupt your
quality of sleep. If you do indulge, try to stay up a bit later to let your food
digest. Avoid drinking too much alcohol just before bed Gme. It can cause
you to wake up in the middle of the night and have trouble going back to
sleep.
• Create a relaxing sleep space. Be sure your room is dark. If that’s
impossible, try wearing a sleep mask over your eyes. Electronics that have
blinking lights may also be a detriment to your sleep. Remove those from
your vision or reset them to turn off the lights.
• Get plenty of exercise. Many people find that a brisk walk aXer dinner
works wonders for a good night’s sleep. Just remember to exercise earlier in
the evening rather than later. The adrenaline from exercise may cause you
to have a difficult Gme geeng to sleep.
Your quality of rest is as important as the amount of Gme you spend in bed. Even
though you may turn in at the same Gme, waking up in the middle of the night,
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digesGve problems or other annoyances may disrupt the quality of your sleep and
keep you from being producGve during the day.
Achieving true happiness depends on your ability to get a good night’s sleep so
your body and mind are rested and capable of meeGng challenges.
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9. Spend Time With Loved Ones
Spending Gme with those you love is an important and necessary element to your
overall happiness. Loved ones provide a boost to your self-esteem and add quality
to each day of your life. Even if you live far away, technology has made it possible
to visit with and express our love “in person.”
When you show others in your life that you care, you experience a sense of
happiness that makes you feel complete and fulﬁlled. It’s not always easy to keep
in touch with loved ones, so here are a few Gps that may help:
• Emails – If you just have a minute or two, send an email to someone you
love or care for. Make it about them rather than you and let them know
you’re thinking of them and hope they have a good day. If you can’t visit
oXen in person, make emails a regular way to keep in touch.
• Phone calls or FaceGme – Let your loved ones hear your voice or see your
face and spend a few minutes chaeng and catching up. FaceGme and Skype
are two great ways that technology lets us keep in touch and express our
caring and love for others.
• Time for lunch? -- Rather than eat a sandwich at your desk or in front of the
television, invite someone you love for lunch. It’s a great way to spend an
hour or two – catching up and enjoying a great meal together.
It’s important that when you do spend Gme with those you love you focus on
them rather than work or the errands you’ve got on your agenda. Listen to what
they say and respond as appropriate.
Cheering up another person – especially someone you care about – is an amazing
and real way to bring happiness into your own life. Sharing old Gmes, joking and
enjoying each other’s company can do wonders for your day and how you live
your life.
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Studies indicate that the Mediterranean populaGon is the happiest group of
people on earth. The great diet, plenty of sunshine and lifestyle are abundant—
but so is their love for family and friends.
The populaGon surrounding the Mediterranean Sea is blessed with an abundance
of almost everything – including the knowledge of how important it is to spend
Gme with friends and family. Meals and other celebraGons are occasions to get
together and enjoy long meals, conversaGon, laughter and camaraderie.
Bring an abundance of happiness to your life by making a point to spend Gme with
your loved ones. You’ll never regret it.
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10. Connect with Nature – Take NoXce of the World Around You
It’s not surprising that those who lived long before us didn’t suffer as much from
anxiety, stress and depression as we do today. They seemed to understand the
importance of communing with nature – and in many cases, they had to because
of the type of work available.
Now, you may spend most of our Gme in an office, then drive home in your air-
condiGoned car to an air-condiGoned home and sit in front of the television or
play computer games. You may leave the gardening and other outdoor chores to
others because you don’t think you have the Gme to do it yourself.
Although your life seems to have improved and you definitely have more “free”
Gme, you may be missing out on the happiness that the great outdoors can bring
into your life.
New research indicates that the relaGonship we develop with nature may have a
direct and lasGng connecGon to our happiness. Henry David Thoreau, author of
“Life in the Woods,” sought happiness and fulfillment by living for two years in a
small cabin in the woods near Walden Pond.
During his Gme there, he was able to immerse himself in nature and self-reliance.
This voyage of self-discover for Thoreau helped him pen other books. It also
helped him develop an understanding of human nature and how natural
surroundings affected happiness and fulfillment.
You may not be able to live on Walden’s Pond and immerse yourself in nature, but
you can make it a mission to connect with your outdoor environment as much as
you can. One way is to focus on the nature around you whenever you are
outdoors.
Really see the sprouts coming through the soil during springGme, noGce how the
trees shed their leaves to get ready for the long winter hibernaGon. If you have
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some extra Gme, read and research about the flora and fauna around you and in
other climates.
Your connecGon with nature will be different from your connecGon with other
things in your life. Nature will almost always leave you awed and in a happy state
while other experiences may make you unhappy.
There is a path of study called, “Ecopsychology,” which explores how your
personal health and self-worth connects with the state of the earth on which we
live.
One finding of this relaGvely new study is the fact that as we have become a more
“wired” generaGon, linked to technology, obesity and low self-esteem has
increased.
Spend some quality Gme communing with nature in your own way and see how it
liXs your spirits.
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11. Be a Part of Something Bigger
Being a part of something bigger than just your surroundings creates purpose in
your life that helps you be happy with where you are and what you’re doing in life.
It also helps you feel more in control of the life they’re living.
Studies about happiness prove that those who are connected with a spiritual
belief system are much happier and healthier than those who have no meaning or
purpose in their lives other than living in the present moment.
CulGvaGng meaning and purpose in your life can turn your life around and bring
an abundance of happiness that just isn’t possible when concentraGng on only
yourself.
Finding meaning to your life may mean digging deep in your belief system.
Experiences may have shaped the way you feel about others and how you choose
to treat people, but those experiences may not be a true reflecGon of whom you
are now or who you want to become.
Finding meaning can also involve making choices about your lifestyle, career. If
you’re currently living a life that isn’t a true reflecGon of whom you are, it’s Gme
to do all you can to find the path that’s going to make a difference. MeditaGon can
help as can reading about things you have an interest in.
One approach to find purpose to your life is to think about the people in your life
who bring you happiness and the acGviGes you have passion for. If you’re
prioriGzing some things or people in your life because you enjoy them, there may
be hidden meaning in what would truly make you happy.
SomeGmes you can get caught up in what others think you should do and be and
you may never find true meaning and purpose to your life unless you can break
away and discover what truly fulfills you and makes you happy.
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Unless you ﬁnd true purpose and meaning in your life, you may remain confused
and indecisive about your own idenGty and reach the end of your life with regrets.
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12. Let Go of Grudges and Anger
It may seem impossible for you to let go of a grudge or sGfle your anger against
someone or something that has hurt you or someone you love. It’s a myth that
when you choose to let go of anger and biHerness that you’re giving the other
person a free pass for forgiveness.
That’s not the case. The act of forgiveness helps you more than the other party. It
releases your mind and emoGons to think about other things than anger,
resentment and thoughts of “geeng even.”
Leeng go of that debilitaGng stress can help you move forward to things that can
make you supremely happy rather than wallowing in unhappiness and negaGve
thoughts.
When there’s no hate in your heart and mind, you can beHer focus on the things
in life that truly maHer. You don’t have to strive to feel understanding or
compassion for the person who hurt you, but once you let go of the anger, you
may feel those posiGve changes happening.
When you let go of a grudge and pracGce forgiveness, you’ll be led into healthier
relaGonships, healthier mind and body, more self-confidence, less stress and
anxiety, lower blood pressure and a stronger immune system.
If you have thoughts of anger or resentment toward someone in your life, you
may be faced with carrying that biHerness into other relaGonships and
experiences that could otherwise be posiGve influences in your life.
Although it may be difficult to reach the state of forgiveness you need to move on
with your life, you can get to that point if you make a commitment to succeed.
That means not seeing yourself as a vicGm anymore. That, in turn, releases the
control the individual or experience had in your life.
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Then, you can truly deﬁne yourself by what you do, think and strive for in your life
as you pursue the path to happiness.
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13. Help Others
Giving your Gme and eﬀorts to help others is the type of experience that puts a
smile on your face and self-worth in your thinking paHerns. Without charity and
giving in your life, true happiness will elude you and you’ll never be completely
fulﬁlled.
The great thinkers and philosophers in history all concluded that the happiness
that will last for a lifeGme comes from helping others. Winston Churchill, former
Prime Minister of England, said, “We make a living by what we get; we make a life
by what we give.”

Most of us have been exposed to giving early in life. It may begin by sharing your
birthday cake or toys with the other kids. Later, fund drives in school and in
churches may cause you to join in.
Altruism is a part of the brain that gives you pleasure the same as eaGng a great
meal or geeng a massage. It’s a powerful way to conGnue your self-growth and to
realize lasGng happiness.
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In the Pursuit of Happiness
Living in a part of the earth that allows you to pursue happiness lets you use your
natural insGnct to find what makes you happy. Happiness means different things
to different people.
Many think that if they won the loHery or came into a large inheritance, happiness
will surely follow. But, studies of human nature prove that’s not true. Money can
buy some of the things to bring you brief happiness, but true happiness can only
be achieved if all your emoGonal and physical needs are met.
Your good health love from your friends and family, giving to others, doing what
you love and more can all make you happy and comfortable with your life.
Unfortunately, happiness eludes many of us.
Knowing how to pursue happiness may help the path easier and more enjoyable.
You may think you know what will make you happy, but if you’ve yet to discover
true happiness in all areas of your life, this ebook, (NAME…): How to Be Happy,
can get you on the path and help you meet and overcome obstacles that threaten
to destroy happiness.
The main lesson is to pursue happiness with passion rather than waiGng for it to
happen. There are 13 steps in this book which will cover emoGonal and physical
areas of your life that need to be addressed before true happiness can be
achieved.
Discover the answers to true happiness within the thirteen steps outlined in this
book and you’ll know which paths to happiness are real and which are only
illusions.
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