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- 1. HW410: Unit 3 Exercises<br />Exercise 5.1 Anger Recognition Checklist<br />When I feel angry, my anger tends to surface in the following ways:<br />*anxiety<br />*trouble sleeping<br />*use of sarcasm<br />*muscle tension <br />*easy irritation<br />*busy work<br />*upset stomach<br />I would say on average, the number of stressful episodes that I have during one day may be 2-3, but mostly very mild stress.<br />Exercise 5.4 Anger: The Fight Response<br /> <br /> I think that my most dominant style of anger is underhanding, because I am definitely not any of the other three. I get most irritated at the stupidity of others. It can be as simple as the way others drive. I get some serious road-rage sometimes, and it usually depends on my mood that day as to the severity of it. I have a tendency to swear to myself about situations, contemplating to myself why I think what others are doing is to stupid, and I try to rationalize out to myself why they must be thinking that what they are doing is so ridiculous, but in all actuality, it is really moronic. I guess that is how I try to deal with my anger correctly as well. As I have just explained, I try to imagine why someone would be thinking the way that they would. If I can draw a rational explanation to myself that may possibly make sense, the anger will pass. If I can’t, the anger leads almost to humor if the situation happens to be that stupid. Take for example…I was coming out of the grocery store not long ago, and I am walking right along the handicap parking. All of a sudden this young punk comes flying in, parks in one of the handicap places, and runs in as his car is still running. Now I am thinking to myself, “You are a moron, and I should call the cops on you right now, even if you are just running in for a pack of gum or cigarettes.” I don’t tolerate that type of stupidity or ignorance, because how did he know that someone who really needed to park there wasn’t 10 seconds behind him? I don’t understand some people…<br />Exercise 5.7 Fear This!<br />Does one of the basic human fears tend to dominate your list of stressors? If so, why?
- 2. I think that the fear of loss of self-control would be the one that sticks out in my mind. I think that because I feel that I am very in control of my life. I am a very organized person who thinks very logically about 99.9% of situations and doesn’t tolerate very well people who don’t. I feel that I lack the common sense as well as the “book” intelligence to make it very far in this world, and I don’t like the thought of failing in any aspect of my life. I struggle when I feel that something is getting the best of me. Sometimes it takes me a little extra time to snap out of that way of thinking, but it usually isn’t too long before I am pushing to makes things right for myself mentally again.
- 3. How do you usually deal with fear? Are you the type of person who hopes the circumstances surrounding these fears will go away?
- 4. In order to deal with my fears, I have to make the situation right in my mind first. Making my inner peace with myself in the situation. And I will do that however it takes. Some things it takes quite a while, but sooner or later I will find that peace. To a point I hope that the circumstances just go away. If it is a fear on a timeline, like the anticipation of a certain date, there is nothing that you can do but wait for that date to pass, without problems.
- 5. What are some practical ways that will help you deal with some of these major
- 6. fears?
- 7. Being rational has always been a strong suit for me. I have to force myself to be realistic about the thoughts or circumstances and rationalize them to myself. What may be a fear may be my personal expectation of a situation, and not necessarily realistic. I must force my mind to be realistic. That usually puts me at ease with things most of the time.
- 8. Exercise 5.9 Emotional Well-Being
- 9. My least favorite emotion is jealousy. Because somewhere in mind, some aspect of me is telling me that what I am or what I have (materialistic or not) is not as good as someone else. And I know that is simply not true. In my mind, I am the best and I have the best things (again, materialistic or not). I find that one of my best qualities is that I am confident, not arrogant, and there is a huge difference.
- 10. I can’t say as I remember a certain instance where I felt humility or someone
- 11. me specifically how to think or be. I always remember my dad saying to me “You shouldn’t do that” or “That’s not the way to do things”. I think that’s why today NO ONE tells me what to do (except my clinical manager of course). I am not afraid to tell people what I think and I truly think that is why I have a lot of the respect that I do today.
- 12. My favorite emotion is love. From my experience, especially now having my son
- 13. and my husband, I never really and truly knew what love was until they came into my life. It is an indescribable feeling. I feel love all the time during my day….
- 14. I know that I express my emotions. People tell me that I do. Sometimes I wished that I expressed my emotions less, because I don’t want to be predictable. It’s kind of like playing poker in a way. No reason to give up the hand before you’ve laid down the cards. <br /> <br />