Peer influence

PEER INFLUENCE
Presentation by Oluwanifemi Aikomo

Lets talk about peers. Who are they?
Peers are people who are
equal in such respects as
age, education or social
class, group, colleague,
etc. They can be called
friends, pals and even
BFF’.
How come they pressurize you?

Peer Pressure and Influence
 Peer pressure is a forcible
action
 Peer influence is a
persuading/influencing action.
You might hear the term ‘peer
pressure’ used a lot. But peer
influence is a better way to
describe how teenagers’ behavior
is shaped by wanting to feel they
belong to a group of friends or
peers. They are not pressurized,
they are gradually influenced by
seeing their friends being in a
group they wish to belong to and
let what they do grow on them.

So what is Peer Influence?
Peer influence is when you
choose to do something you
wouldn’t otherwise do, because
you want to feel accepted and
valued by your friends. It isn’t
just or always about doing
something against your will, but
also against your belief, against
your standard, against your
values just because you want to
belong.

Peer Influence Can Be Positive Or
Negative
Positive Peer Influence Negative Peer Influence

Where It All Starts!
It’s almost expected that you will experience peer influence frequently throughout your
teen years. It is inevitable. Teenage age happens to be the age we want to feel among,
we want to belong and we are tirelessly looking for where we can belong.

What makes kids vulnerable to Peer
Influence?
The one thing that seems to make all
adolescents vulnerable to peer influence is
simply being in this age range. They're just doing
what kids their age (middle school to high
school) do.
Research suggests that peer influence can be
especially difficult to resist because, at this stage
of their lives, lots of kids:

Want to do what other kids are
doing, and have what other kids
have.
Want to fit in and be like the kids
they admire.
Don't want to feel awkward or
uncomfortable.
Are afraid of being rejected or made
fun of.
Don't know how to get out of a
pressure situation.
Aren't sure what they really want.

Levels of Peer Influence
We have three levels of peer influence:
The first is in the LARGE GROUP
The second is CLOSE RELATIONSHIP
Finally, SOCIAL MEDIA INFLUENCE

Influence in the Large Group
For most teens, a school, a youth
group, or home-school group are
examples. This is the setting that
gets the most attention. The large
group exerts a general influence on
its members. It directs the trends in
clothing, music, entertainment. It is
not usually a spoken or written
guideline; it's just what "everyone" is
doing

Influence in our close relationship
This is with one or several best friends.
This is the setting that is sometimes
overlooked and this is the most
important. The influence which takes
place among close friends is not so easy
to escape. You can't fake it with them;
they know what you stand for, what you
really believe. The nature of close
friendship is that you care more about
them and their opinions than those of
anybody else. What your best friend
approves of or disapproves of exerts
great on you. This influence is personal
and forceful.

Social Media Influence
Social media shows you an
edited version of reality. Social
media influences your sense of
self movement. Nowadays,
there’s a certain social image
one needs to maintain. The
rise of social media has
allowed peer pressure to take a
more consistent and, in some
ways, prominent role in
teenagers lives.

Overcoming peer influence
During adolescence, peers play a large part in a young person's
life and typically replace family as the center of a teen's social
and leisure activities. Teenagers have various peer relationships,
and they interact with many peer groups. everyone has the
desire to fit into a group. If you're interested in music, you spend
time with others who enjoy music. You belong to that group and
feel secure when you are part of it. The group identifies who you
are and what you’re about.
But it is possible to overcome negative peer influence.
I have five steps in overcoming peer influence and I classified them
into (5) Take charges.

DEVELOP GOOD SELF-ESTEEM..
Know who you are and accept who you are.
Take Charge of YOURSELF:
We have to have a great self-esteem. We have
to believe in ourselves and whatever we believe
in. Don’t let anyone tell us otherwise. We have
to know that only US have the right to affect our
lives. We have to be able to stick with our
decisions no matter how hard. We should not
be swayed by our friends. STAY STRONG AND
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. You’ve Got All it takes.

SATISFACTION
Take Charge of your ASPIRATION/CONTENTMENT
One of the reasons why teenagers are influenced is because they
are not satisfied with what they have. They see their friends and
school mates with something and want it and sometimes get
influenced and go out of their way to get it. True happiness is to
enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future,
not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to remain
satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient. The greatest
blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise
man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing
for what he has not.
“You say, 'If I had a little more, I should be very satisfied.' You make
mistake. If you are not content with what you have, you would not
be satisfied if it were doubled.”
“He, who is not satisfied with a little, is satisfied with nothing.”

CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY
Take Charge of your RELATIONSHIPS
Like we said earlier, it is difficult to break from the influence of
our friends because we want to make them happy and remain
their friends. So instead of us going through the struggle of
breaking the influence of our friends later on, why don’t we
start from choosing the right friends from the onset? Our
friends determine a lot in our lives, I mean every aspect of our
lives. From Spiritual to educational and all other aspects. Let’s
start choosing the right friends from the beginning, the
friends that will improve us, friends that will influence us
positively.

Don’t Try to Fit In
Take Charge of your Association
Have you ever seen a dog in a cat’s outfit?
You have your identity and it is unique. No
one else has traits you have. It’s just you.
Don’t try to fit into someone else’s clothes.
God has a plan for you. Nobody else can be
you except you. You can’t have the same
experience like every other person. The
experiences are different. Examples in the
Bible we can emulate are Daniel and Moses
who chose not to be influenced by things
around and stood for what they believed in.

FINALLY, TRUST IN GOD
Take Charge of your Faith
Our most important responsibility is to believe
God, trust Him, base your convictions upon His
Word, and obey Him with your entire heart. For
many children, peer pressure is an important test
of faith; when they are encouraged by friends to
do something contrary to God's Word, they need
to remember the words of 1 Corinthians 10:31,
which tells us to "do all to the glory of God." It is
God's Spirit who gives you the strength to say no
to friends and yes to God. As Proverbs 29:25 tells
us, "The fear of man brings a snare, but he who
trusts in the Lord will be exalted." Pro 1:7

CONCLUSION
It is hardly impossible to go through out your
lives without being influenced in one way or the
other. So we have to guard ourselves to stand
firm and make choices based on what we want
and what it is right.

Don’t forget.
• You have it in you.
• You are gold, desirable and desired.
• You are made as light.
• LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE
THANK YOU
GOD BLESS YOU….

Peer influence

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