Reference for Mel de Jager
- 1. Anex Head Office Beaufort West Satellite Centre Murraysburg Satellite Centre Saartjie Baartman Centre No.1 Teske Street The Facility Klipfontein Road, Athlone New Town Kragstasie Street Cape Town Beaufort West Murraysburg Tel: (021) 638 5521 Tel: (023) 414 3488 Tel: (049) 844 0103 Fax: (021) 638 5520 Fax: (023) 414 3488 Fax: (049) 844 0103 Reg No. 025-946-NPO website: www.anexcdw.org.za Director: Claudia Burger 19 December 2016 Reference for Mel de Jager Between the years 2010 and 2016, myself and my youngest daughter, Simone van Niekerk (22 years) have consulted with Mel de Jager on numerous occasions, with regards to my goals in life, relationships/marriage, and Simone’s struggles as a teenage girl in a home when I was in a very destructive marriage. Mel’s insight and professional guidance have always been an eye opener but also been a solid guide to us, with regards to having empathy and support but providing practical steps towards a better future. She has also made sure that we do not get dependant on her by providing steps to follow to ensure claiming ownership of your own destiny. Mel’s insight has always been phenomenal especially with regards to dynamics in relationships. She has always been able to provide guidance to correct harmful dynamics but also been realistic when change does not occur. Mel does not shy away from the truth but not in a manner which will harm her clients. The safety and wellbeing of her clients are always her first priority. Mel travels a journey with her clients, irrespective how many times they “fall” but she is very good in establishing boundaries in other words , keep your questions till your sessions and not 11pm on facebook unless you are in a real crisis. In that way she ensures that her clients learn to self regulate and not become co-dependant. Mel also upholds confidentiality. I remember a time my ex husband went to seek counsel and even though she consulted with him, she did not break confidentiality with me, neither with him. That is something I will always respect about her. Same when she consulted with Simone, my daughter. She would guide me as how to build my connection with Simone, without breaking confidentiality with regards to their sessions. This is incredibly important, especially when dealing with teenagers. During 2016 I went through a horrific divorce, which Mel foresee in her consultations with me. She just gently guided me through the process of keeping myself and my children safe.
- 2. I will always recommend anyone who needs guidance with regards to relationships, life goals, children, trauma and grief to contact Mel. She is one of the most gentle, honest, gifted, spirit led coaches and counsellors I have ever come across. Claudia Burger Tel – 0835873269 Email: claudiaburgerc@gmail.com