Self compassion & Relationship-Based Practice in Child Welfare
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This document explores the importance of self-compassion and relationship-based practices in child welfare, emphasizing the need for compassion in helping professions. It discusses definitions and examples of self-compassion versus self-rejection, highlighting how practitioners' capacities for self-compassion influence their effectiveness in fostering relationships with clients. The document also includes references and resources for further learning about compassion in the context of child welfare.
Self compassion & Relationship-Based Practice in Child Welfare
- 1. Self-Compassion & Relationship-Based Practice in Child Welfare Jane F. Gilgun & Samantha Hirschey University of Minnesota, Twin Cities For MN Department of Human Services April 20, 2016
- 3. Overview Statement on Two Views of Human Beings bad, sinful, unworthy We judge, criticize, compare, and punish
- 4. Overview Statement on Two Views of Human Beings bad, sinful, unworthy We judge, criticize, compare, & punish basically good We accept ourselves & others We regulate our behaviors & the behaviors of others
- 5. Compassion Sympathy Empathy A desire to take action to relieve distress and show care/love
- 6. Compassion Identification with others Understanding others Caring for others Others are worthy
- 7. Opposite of Compassion Perfectionism Disrespect Sense of unworthiness Abandonment Neglect Dehumanization
- 8. More on Compassion Golden Rule Do to others as you would want others to do to you. The greatest of the virtues
- 9. More on Compassion Golden Rule Do to others as you would want others to do to you. The greatest of all virtues "Compassion is a necessity, not a luxury.” The Dali Lama
- 10. More on Compassion Core attribute for helping professionals Compassion fatigue Need for self-compassion
- 11. Definitions Self-Compassion positive regard for the self as worthy of respect and love during good times and times of challenge Awareness of our own assets and deficits
- 12. Definitions Self-Compassion “I am worthy and also imperfect.”
- 13. Definitions Self-Rejection Negative regard for the self as unworthy of respect and love Largely unconscious Becomes conscious during times of stress
- 14. Examples Self-Compassion I screwed up. I want to make up for it. I hurt you. I’m sorry. I eat too much. I accept that until I’m ready to do something about it.
- 15. Examples Self-Rejection I’m no good. I’m stupid. I’m a sh*t.
- 16. “It’s safer for children to blame themselves than to blame parents.” John Bowlby
- 17. “I will talk to myself the same way I talk to people I love.” Brene Brown
- 18. Reflections Statements You’ve Heard Clients Make Regarding Self-compassion
- 19. Reflections Statements You’ve Heard Clients Make Regarding Self-compassion Self-rejection
- 20. Reflections Statements You’ve Heard Clients Make Regarding Self-compassion Self-rejection Circumstances in Which You’re Heard These Statements
- 21. Relationship-Based Practice Relationships the heart of effective practice can be demanding, confusing, and conflicted
- 22. Relationship-Based Practice Relationships the heart of effective practice can be demanding, confusing, and conflicted effective practice based on trust safe havens Where clients grapple with issues and events
- 23. Relationship-Based Practice a dilemma in child welfare practice?
- 24. Where Does Self- Compassion Come From? Relationships
- 26. Clients’ Capacities for Self-Compassion Based on the qualities of their relationships Develop inner working models of self, others, and how the world works
- 27. Service Providers & Self-Compassion Effective Practitioners are Self-compassionate Compassionate toward others Compassion may mean setting limits on the behaviors of others
- 28. Service Providers & Self-Compassion Foster Self-Compassion in Others Cultivate their own Self-Compassion
- 29. Videos From This Workshop Becoming a Self-Compassionate Service Provider https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3s6iuHU-7I Loving-Kindness Toward a Young Student https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1R- BUtC7-b8 Children Disclose Sexual Abuse When They Feel Safe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSwPeVTDyl8 When Children Say I’m Bad https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yTEGM7sf_4 Being Present to Children with Trauma https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfOBpNjXWbk What Compassion Is and Is Not https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79L10i1iyuY
- 30. References Gilbert, P. (Ed.). (2005). Compassion: Conceptualisations, research and use in psychotherapy. Routledge. Gilgun, Jane F. & Samantha Hirschey (2015). Girls’ Aggression & Child Welfare Social Work. St. Paul, MN: Center for Advanced Studies in Child Welfare. Also free on Smashwords, iBooks, Barnes & Noble Megele, Claudia (2015). Psychosocial and Relationship-Based Practice. Norwich, UK: Critical Publishing. Neff, K. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and identity, 2(2), 85-101. Neff, K. (2013). Self-compassion Step by Step: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. Sounds True. Ruch, Gillian (2005). Relationship practice and reflective practice: Holistic approaches to contemporary child care social work. Child and Family Social Work, 10, 111-123.
- 31. References Tanaka, M., Wekerle, C., Schmuck, M. L., Paglia-Boak, A., & MAP Research Team. (2011). The linkages among childhood maltreatment, adolescent mental health, and self-compassion in child welfare adolescents. Child Abuse & Neglect, 35(10), 887-898. van Dernoot Lipsky, L., & Burk, C. (2009). Trauma stewardship: An everyday guide to caring for self while caring for others. Berrett-Koehler Publishers.. Websites and Videos The Three Components of Self-Compassion: Kristin Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11U0h0DPu7k Parenting a Self-Compassionate Child- Kristin Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDAvHRS3DLc
- 32. Websites & Videos The Three Components of Self-Compassion: Kristin Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11U0h0DPu7k Parenting a Self-Compassionate Child- Kristin Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDAvHRS3DLc The Space Between Self-Compassion and Self-Esteem- Kristin Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4 Strengthening the Mind Through Self-Compassion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GKVMILwzdY Cognitive Behavioral Tools- Dr. LuAnn Helms Managing abusive self-talk (8:25-11:16) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IEsYiCDoJks