Week 4
- 1. Dr. Chris Bowen Marriage & Family
- 2. Affection – the Cement of a Relationship To most women, affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval Affection can be shown in many ways – hug, flowers, card
- 3. Any man can learn to be affectionate Sex begins with affection…you can’t have one without the other A woman’s need for affection is one of her deepest emotional needs
- 4. The first thing a man can’t do without – sexual fulfillment The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex any more than the typical husband understands his wife’s deep need for affection
- 5. The first thing a man can’t do without – sexual fulfillment The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex any more than the typical husband understands his wife’s deep need for affection
- 6. Affection is the environment of the marriage; sex is the special event When a man chooses a wife he makes a commitment to be faithful because he trusts her to be as sexually interested in him as he is in her.
- 7. What are the differences between men and women when it comes to sex? Sexual drive - The average man has a higher sex drive than the average woman
- 8. Differences - continued Sexual awareness -Knowledge of how to respond sexually -A man cannot achieve sexual fulfillment in his marriage unless his wife is sexually fulfilled as well
- 9. Differences - continued Sexual motivation -Important question to ask your spouse, why should we make love -Husbands answer: love making relieves his sexual craving -Wife’s answer: sex helps her feel closer to her husband
- 10. How to achieve sexual compatibility: The sexual experience divides into five stages: Willingness, arousal, plateau, climax, and recovery
- 11. Willingness: Most men are motivated because of craving Men experience cravings almost daily Women experience cravings once or twice a month
- 12. Willingness: Most women are willing to have sex to feel closer to their husband They are willing to have sex to express their love for him She anticipates mutual enjoyable sex with her husband
- 13. Arousal: The beginning of the sexual feelings For a man: Visual is the favorite way to be aroused They experiences arousal easily Arousal in itself doesn’t mean that much to a man
- 14. Arousal: The beginning of the sexual feelings For a woman: Does not in most cases depend on visual stimulation Arousal doesn’t take place unless there is a deliberate decision to let it happen She will encourage her husband to touch her in ways that lead her to arousal
- 15. Plateau: the best stage of lovemaking The Climax: Ecstasy or Anxiety Recovery: Afterglow or resentment
- 16. Marital Golden Rule Meet your spouse’s needs as you would want your spouse to meet yours