What Is Reality
- 1. What is Reality?Reality in everyday usage means everything that exists.Reality is not what is “real”, it’s what we think is real.
- 2. When Two People’s Realities Differ About the Same Subject, thenConflict Occurs.But … but I was looking at the adorable dog she was walking. I saw you staring at that blonde girl!
- 3. The Perception ProcessdatadataSelecting FilterSorting FilterInterpreting Factorsdata=REALITYA Comfortable Reality Becomes Your STASIS
- 4. We manipulate the data to give meaning to the information that has been selectedUsing all five senses: sight, smell, hearing, feeling & taste.We organize and prioritize the data so that certain information stands out over other information.
- 5. Selecting & Sorting FiltersDataAffects how we recognize incoming data.PsychologicalOur physical condition affects what data we recognize.PhysiologicalLanguageCreates an organizational system that allows us to understand messages.Learning and EducationShapes how we view our environment.Our first-hand informal learning activities.ExperiencesExpectationsPerceptions that we expect to conform to what we already believe.
- 6. Interpreting FactorsClosureIs the mind’s imperative to make sense out of its environment.Selective PerceptionTakes place when we narrow available cognitions to make an interpretation of the environment.PatterningIs the attempt to keep new or current perceptions in line with past ones.
- 7. Reality testingOur perception does not necessarily represent the one and only reality.Through communication, we begin to narrow the perceptional gaps that divide us.Women are from Venus.Men are from Mars.
- 8. One goal in argumentative processNarrowing the differences in perceptions
- 9. Developing listening skillsOf the four elements that make up communication (reading, writing, speaking, and listening) LISTENING dominates.There are TWO TYPES of listening behavior:Empathic listeningInvolves trying to emotionally understand realities of others.Deliberative ListeningThis is the type of listening most of us do. It is to hear information, analyze it and draw conclusions.
- 10. It is not very useful if one is trying to narrow differences in opposing realities.What is stasis?Stasis means “at rest”. Stasis is a person’s personal comfort zone.We all strive for a comfortable feeling. Physical and/or emotional. Once we have reached stasis, we desire to maintain it.
- 11. That is Reality