When It’s Our Values That Stand In Our Way
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The document discusses the importance of understanding and aligning with personal values in the context of self-development, noting that values can sometimes hinder progress. It provides examples of how positive values can lead to negative beliefs that conflict with achieving goals. The author, Dan Beverly, encourages readers to examine their values, identify any negative impacts, and revise their belief systems to promote career advancement.
When It’s Our Values That Stand In Our Way
- 1. Page 1 of 2 +44 (0) 7976 751 095 dan@danbeverly.com http://danbeverly.com When It’s Our Values That Stand In Our Way 26 July 2017 Along with goals and beliefs, knowing and aligning with our values is one of the most powerful self- development steps we can take. And not least because they don't always play out in positive ways. Goals. Values. Beliefs. The personal development trifecta. I create and commit to powerfully inspiring goals. I come to know – and align – to my values. And I choose to adopt empowering beliefs. And so: I can achieve anything. Knowing – and aligning with – our values (those things most important to us) is one of the most powerful personal development steps we can take. And not least because: Sometimes, our values play-out in negative ways. Don’t think so? Here are some examples … Let’s say: I value a strong work ethic. It’s played a big part of my success to date. I’ve worked hard. Harder than the other guy. I’ve stuck diligently to my project and had success as a result. But now I notice I’ve come to associate success as only ever following significant hard work. And so I sidestep or overlook more direct routes to my goal because it can’t be success without the strife that must come beforehand. Because I’ve not yet earnt that success. Because I don’t deserve it. And so I harbour the belief that success without strife is not success, not earnt, not deserved and not for me. Hmm. Perhaps I value organisation. And my highly-organised approach to work has me in total command of what I do. I’m known for it! But now I notice I can’t start anything unless everything is laid-out in advance. Unless everything is neat and tidy (even though I know that’s not how careers or businesses really happen). Unless everything is certain – which it never can be. Hmm. Perhaps I value learning and knowledge. What I have learnt and what I know have been huge factors in my success. I love putting my deep knowledge to work. And revelling in the spirit of continual learning and improvement. But now I notice I am incapacitated by my need to (over-) educate. And rather than getting into
- 2. Page 2 of 2 +44 (0) 7976 751 095 dan@danbeverly.com http://danbeverly.com action with what I do know, I choose to stay stuck – although I hide it behind my latest learning project. Hmm. Perhaps I value perfection. And so my high-standards drive me forward and achieve amazing outputs. But now I notice I’m missing deadlines. And that nothing is ever good enough. Including me. Hmm. What’s the lesson here? Examine your values. Think about how they are playing out: positively and negatively. And notice where those well-intentioned and positive values are harbouring beliefs that actually sit in conflict to your goals and objectives. And from there: rewrite the story around those values. And how best you’ll choose to put them to work. Dan Beverly is a leadership and performance coach helping high-achieving, high-performing professional women PIVOT into rapid career advancement. His mission is to inspire possibility in others: to help us excel in careers without compromise; and to leave us feeling energised and uplifted by a new future. Go online to book your Discovery Call with Dan – and start capitalising on your pivotal career moments today. http://danbeverly.com/session-zero