HEAD, HEART AND GUT TALK

A talk about confidence and answer to the question: how to rise in the middle of chaos. That time when you feel small. You know that moment. We all know it. Or experienced it somewhere in our lives.

The room is tense. A meeting derailed. Deadlines missed. People frustrated. Egos flaring up. A conflict brewing - subtle, but you feel it. You sit there, feeling it rise in your chest. You know you should speak. Bring clarity. Calm the storm.

But you don’t. You hold back.

I know that moment. I’ve been there. When everything in you wants to step up, but you don’t. When you know you have the solution, but you stay quiet. When you’re ready to claim your space, but you shrink. And when it happens: this is what I hear…

MY HEAD:

“Let’s be smart. Play it safe. What if you say the wrong thing? What if they challenge you? What if they think you’re not good enough?”

You start calculating. Your head does what it does best: analyze risk. It runs the numbers. Plays out every worst-case scenario. It wraps fear in logic and calls it ‘preparation.’

But the result?

You freeze, say nothing, and leave that meeting feeling small - even angry. Not at them, well, not always. You are mostly angry at yourself.

MY HEART:

“I want to contribute. I want to make a difference… but what if they reject me?”

I feel your ache. You carry the weight of past wounds. Every time my voice was dismissed. Every time my ideas were ignored. Every time I felt small. You remember them all. And you try to protect me from that pain.

But the result?

You hold me back. You keep me safe. But you also keep me invisible.

MY GUT:

“ENOUGH. You know the answer. SPEAK UP.”

You don’t whisper. You roar. You tighten my stomach. You speed up my heartbeat. You give me that rush, a primal instinct. You say: “You already know it. Claim your fucking space.” 

But I don’t always listen. I feel you. And yet, I suppress you.

ALIGNED TALK – WHEN THE BRAINS WORK TOGETHER

Because that’s the truth, right? When we’re stressed, when conflict hits, when pressure rises, our inner self - aka our multiple intelligences (our head, heart, and gut) often fight each other.

• Your head panics: Fix it!
• Your heart aches: Don’t let them down!
• Your gut fires up: Move the fuck NOW!

And if you let them pull you in different directions, you freeze.

Or you overreact. Or you say something you regret later. That’s what happens when your inner system is out of alignment. But when your Head, Heart & Gut start talking TO each other? That’s when you lead. That’s when you stand in chaos - calm and clear. That’s when you ask:

• Head, what’s the smartest way forward?
• Heart, how can I stay true to my values here?
• Gut, what action feels right? 

When they work together: that’s ALIGNED CONFIDENCE. And that’s when you rise.

REAL TALK: THE DAY I DID SPEAK UP

There was this meeting. The tension was thick. Projects stuck. Miscommunication everywhere. I felt it brewing. My heart was racing, my gut was tight. I almost stayed silent… again. But this time, I paused. I listened to all three. I let my head, heart, and gut work together. ALIGNED.

And I spoke.

It wasn’t perfect. But it was clear. It was real. And it shifted the room. That was the day everything changed. Not because the situation was easy. But because I finally trusted myself in the middle of the storm.

At the Dutch TV show I joined - Kamp van Koningsbrugge -, there was this moment when the instructor asked after we came back from building a raft and saving an injured man: 'What was the plan'? My other fellow participant - whom he asked first - stayed silent - you could even hear the birds sing at that moment. Then he asked me and I immediately said: 'There was no plan'.

I spoke again.

Now. YOUR TURN.

So next time you feel small in that room. In that conflict, in that tough conversation.

Pause.

Don’t just react from panic or frustration. Breathe first. Listen carefully and ask your brains what truly matters now: Head – Heart – Gut. Let them speak. Let them align. And then… Hell yeah, fucking RISE. Because confidence is not waiting until you feel ready, because you will never be ready enough. Never. Confidence is standing tall - even when your knees are shaking.

Question for You:

Where do you feel the most resistance? Head? Heart? Gut? Drop it like it's hot in the comments. I read every single one and I'll respond too. Or DM me with your most frustrating challenge :) Let’s grow together. No More Bullshit. No Matter What.

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Disclaimer: Read at your own risk (of getting inspired) 😜

Hi, I’m Agavni Jessaijan - just a humble explorer carrying the glorious burden of relentless curiosity and obsession for Personal Mastery. I dive headfirst into ancient wisdom, neuroscience shit, inspiring self-help books, and yes, the occasional 3 a.m. YouTube rabbit hole. Why? Because I’m on a mission to find the deeper WHY behind the great masters and badass wisdom that lights my soul on fire. What otherwise, is our purpose on Earth?

But let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a journalist, and I don’t have a PhD (gasp!). What I do have is a beautifully rebellious heart, a creative-as-hell independent mind, and a gut so solid it could probably lift weights. I don’t just write for the sake of writing—I live this stuff. Every word you read here has been battle-tested by the universe (or by me, the universe's favorite guinea pig).

Before I hit publish, I always ask myself: So what? If it doesn’t pass my No-BS check, it doesn’t make the cut. So here we are - Warrior Wednesdays - where you get the raw, unfiltered, occasionally sweary wisdom straight from my head, heart, and gut. And Warrior Spirit. Of course :)

If you’re looking for footnotes and academic jargon, you’re in the wrong place. If you’re here for something real, practical, and 100% authentic - welcome to the tribe. And hey, I don’t just talk the talk. I. Fucking. Walk. It.

Enjoy the ride. Or don’t. Either way, I’ll keep writing, because it’s how I make sense of this wild, wonderful, and sometimes crazy awful world.

No excuses. No half-work. No Matter What.

PS: I write in English and Dutch - because, let’s face it, some things just hit differently in English. Like "No Matter What" or "I. Fucking. Walk. It." Try saying that in Dutch, it’s impossible, stupid, and fucking weird. 😂