You’re not burnt out. Yet. You’re Disconnected. Here’s Why.

You think you’re burnt out - or talking yourself into a burnout? You’re probably not. You’re disconnected. From your purpose. From your courage. From your gut instinct. And most of all - from your truest self. That’s the real burnout. And no amount of vacation, journaling, or breathing exercises will fix that if you don’t reconnect to who the fuck you are.

I’m Agavni. Founder of the Heartcore Warriors Academy, mBIT Master Coach, and author of No Matter What. I help high-performing, overthinking, and very driven souls drop out of their heads, reconnect to their deeper wisdom, and lead their lives from the inside out.

No fluff. No filters. Just raw honesty. No matter what.

The real crisis isn’t fatigue, it’s disconnection. On multiple levels.

Let me tell you something I’ve seen over and over again: smart people - leaders, creatives, visionaries - getting stuck in analysis paralysis. They’re tired. Numb. Over it. But... they’re not lazy. No. Far from it. They do have their jobs in their veins. The're connected to the mission. But somehow they’re mentally overloaded. Emotionally flatlined or exhausted. Spiritually disconnected. And still, no matter what, they keep pushing. Performing. Achieving. While secretly thinking: "Why the hell doesn’t this feel good anymore? When did this [ fill in the blanks 🫵🏽] happen?"

Just breathe. And let’s cut the crap.

You’re not aligned. Not with yourself. Not with your truth. Not with what your head, heart, gut, and your body have been screaming for months - or years - now. You’re trying to solve a soul problem with head-based strategies. That never works.

Listen. We have 3 brains. Not just one.

And if you think that sounds like spiritual whoohiegoowie nonsense, read the research. Science is finally catching up. We are walking around in these hyper-rational environments and boardrooms, thinking we can outthink a deep disconnection.

Spoiler: we can’t.

Here’s the real manual they never gave you:

• 🧠 Head: We use it for creativity, thinking, logic, clarity, vision, and new perspectives.
• ❤️ Heart: Is all about truth, compassion, alignment, connectedness, feelings.
• 💩 Gut: Is deep down about courage, drive, boundaries, and action.

And so much more.

But, when they’re out of sync? Chaos. Frustration. Mostly burnout these days for a lot of people. Sickness. Confusion. Zero joy. That hollow feeling of going through the motions while slowly fading. But when they’re aligned? You become unstoppable. A true force of strength and wisdom. You get coherence. Fire. Joy. Direction. And most of all: you get yourself back.

Don't we all want that?

I’ve been there. Maxed out. Checked out. Numb. Did not love my work anymore.

Smart. Successful. High-achiever. Multiple business owner. But I’d lost my mojo. I couldn’t feel myself anymore. Everything blurred into grey matter. I wasn’t broken. I was totally disconnected. mBIT (head, heart, brain wisdom) taught me how to bring all three brains online - and how to lead from that place.

Not just exist. Lead. Live. Love. Decide. Reclaim.

Most people live in and lead from their heads. Maybe you, too? But real leadership -  the kind that creates sustainable energy, bold direction, inner peace, and true connectedness - only happens when all three brains are online and congruent with each other. That you can understand what they're actually trying to say, or let you know, or feel. That there is an inner alignment between those intelligences that I call brains. You don't want one of them to be offline. That’s what I teach within the Heartcore Warriors Academy. To work with it, not against it.

The business world is rewarding the wrong things - don't you think?

We celebrate the overfunctioners. The ones who answer emails at midnight. Who says yes when their gut says no? Who performs while secretly falling apart. In boardrooms and businesses, burnout is silently accepted as the price of ambition. It’s the elephant in every KPI meeting. We’ve made it normal to erase boundaries in the name of ‘growth’. But what’s the cost?

The numbers don’t lie

Let’s talk a bit about what’s really going on in the world:

🇳🇱 In the Netherlands:

• 1.6 million people experienced burnout-related symptoms in 2023.
• That’s 17.5% of the workforce, according to TNO (2024).
• 1 in 5 workers say the workload is chronically too high.
• Burnout now costs Dutch employers €3.3 billion per year in absenteeism.

🌍 Globally:

• A 2021 study by Gallup showed that 76% of employees experience burnout at least sometimes.
• World Health Organization declared burnout an “occupational phenomenon” in 2019, not because people are weak, but because systems are unsustainable.
• Emotional exhaustion is rising even faster among high-performing professionals — the people who look like they’ve got it all together.

You?

Burnout happens when people live in unconscious chaos, discomfort, and imbalance because life - and all its challenges - just happen to them. They’ve become slaves to technology and their own self-sabotaging patterns and programs. This is not a judgment. It’s an observation. Here’s the difference and another perspective: The most successful driven people are congruent - fully aligned - and because of that, they are capable of consciously choosing to be out of balance for certain periods. They understand what their decision demands of them. They know the consequences, and they take full responsibility for their choices. Then answering an e-mail at midnight is not a problem at all. No drama. No victim stories. No “but it was so hard…” Just pure ownership:

• “I chose this.”
• “I knew what it would cost me.”
• “I’m doing this. No Matter What.”

So, now what?

If this hits something in you... If you’re tired of being tired, done with pushing through the fog, done with outsourcing your joy to weekend getaways and 10-minute meditations...then this is your wake-up call.

If you are already a congruent leader, I celebrate you. Leave me a goodie in the comments, for other people to take inspiration from it!

But for all the people who feel they're slipping into burnout? Don't try harder to stay away from it. It’s time to get honest. Honest about how far you’ve drifted from yourself. Honest about the price of chasing validation. Honest about what you truly crave — and what’s screaming inside to be seen again. You don’t need a sabbatical. You need alignment. So no, you’re not alone. But you’re also not meant to stay stuck in the mud. In those feelings that maybe scare the hell out of you. That you've lost your sparkle in the eyes, your bright smile, your joy, and happiness (in work and life).

No. It is time to lead from your whole self with your head, heart, and gut aligned. To remember who you were before the world told you how to be. To take back your fire. Because you’re not here to survive in your WorkLife. You’re here to rise. Boldly. Powerfully. Joyful.

Balance is not the holy grail. Don't get me wrong.

Because here’s the truth: Balance is always temporary. You’ll always get knocked out of your center, your field, your flow. If you have the idea that you “want more balance in life” -good for you. But let me offer you a new perspective:

• Moments of balance are a choice. And moments of imbalance are too. The real art? How do you deal with it?
• Money comes and goes (for most people). Your bank account, your assets — it all fluctuates.
• Flow is cyclical. One moment you’re in it, the next you’re not.
• And fearless leadership? Sometimes it demands that you put everything, or at least a hell of a lot, on the line. And that shakes things up by definition. Just ask my Warriors :)

Even in conscious imbalance, you can still keep choosing what’s healthy and what’s not. Find your way in this. Experiment with it. What does it mean to you? What are your values? Who do you want to become? And what do you no longer want or need to identify with?

Let me ask you these last questions for you to contemplate on:

When was the last time you felt joy without achievement? What’s one truth your gut already knows deeply, but your head keeps avoiding? What would change if your boundaries came from courage and compassion instead of fear?

Drop it below. Or DM me exactly when you feel you're not ready for it. Then you probably are.

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Give me a 🩷 call if you like it. Please comment if you appreciate my work.

PS1: Want to get this kind of clarity in your life & leadership?

This is what we do at our Heartcore Warriors Academy. Establishing breakthroughs on your biggest challenges in life and work. Head, Heart, & Gut (and more) fully aligned - mental clarity. Emotional strength. Physical power. Warrior Spirit. No hacks. No excuses. Just results because you’ll LOVE the process of becoming a true Heartcore Warrior.

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Book me as your rebellious keynote speaker. I love touching as many hearts and minds as possible. For the sake of bringing the heart back in business and life. Or hire me as your business and leadership coach. Breakthroughs guaranteed.

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Disclaimer: Read at your own risk (of getting inspired) 😜

Hi, I’m Agavni Jessaijan - just a humble explorer carrying the glorious burden of relentless curiosity and obsession for Personal Mastery. I dive headfirst into ancient wisdom, neuroscience shit, inspiring self-help books, and yes, the occasional 3 a.m. YouTube rabbit hole. Why? Because I’m on a mission to find the deeper WHY behind the great masters and badass wisdom that lights my soul on fire. What, otherwise, is our purpose on Earth?

But let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a journalist, and I don’t have a PhD (gasp!). What I do have is a beautifully rebellious heart, a creative-as-hell independent mind, and a gut so solid it could probably lift weights. I don’t just write for the sake of writing—I live this stuff. Every word you read here has been battle-tested by the universe (or by me, the universe's favorite guinea pig).

Before I hit publish, I always ask myself: So what? If it doesn’t pass my No-BS check, it doesn’t make the cut. So here we are - Warrior Wednesdays - where you get the raw, unfiltered, occasionally sweary wisdom straight from my head, heart, and gut. And Warrior Spirit. Of course :)

If you’re looking for footnotes and academic jargon, you’re in the wrong place. If you’re here for something real, practical, and 100% authentic, welcome to the tribe. And hey, I don’t just talk the talk. I. Fucking. Walk. It.

Enjoy the ride. Or don’t. Either way, I’ll keep writing because it’s how I make sense of this wild, wonderful, and sometimes crazy awful world.

No excuses. No half-work. No Matter What.

PS: I write in English and Dutch - because, let’s face it, some things just hit differently in English. Like "No Matter What" or "I. Fucking. Walk. It." Try saying that in Dutch, it’s impossible, stupid, and fucking weird. 😂