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- 1. Click to edit Master title style 1 MODULE 9 PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
- 2. Click to edit Master title style 2 TEENAGE RELATIONSHIP 2 •Your relationship during this stage is pretty much different from what you had when you were still a child, when you focused on play activities and had few close friends. During your teenage years, you form friendships and start to develop intimate relationships with members of the opposite sex. Intimate or close relationships are characterized by self-disclosure and your capacity to trust others.
- 3. Click to edit Master title style 3 FRIENDSHIPS 3 •Friendship is a form of relationship between two or more people. It means being with others and not just thinking about yourself. It is during adolescence that you make time for friends and even hang out with them. However, at this stage, friendship is characterized by a more mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing.
- 4. Click to edit Master title style 4 3 TYPES OF FRIENDSHIP 4 •The first is called ACQUAINTANCES •The second is called COMPANIONS •The third is called INTIMATES or BEST FRIENDS
- 5. Click to edit Master title style 5 TWO TYPES OF PEER GROUPS 5 •A CLIQUE is usually composed of smaller members (four to six members) and is exclusive to peers who share the same interests. •A CROWD share similar social activities such as parties (10-20 members).
- 6. Click to edit Master title style 6 6 In a study conducted by Furman (1999), it was found out that among girls, having friends as a source of social support is more common, compared with boys. Girls are more expressive than boys and usually show their intimacy by talking about personal matters; boys, on the other hand, show intimacy in nonverbal ways (Newcomb, Bukowski, and Bagwell, 1999). Thus, boys tend to get together for certain events or to compete (e.g., in sports), whereas girls tend to get together to have bonding moments through emotional sharing where they talk about their crush, their happy moments, their frustrations, and even their dreams. Girls tend to easily trust others; Berndt (1994) said that they are more intimate and emotionally attached to others. They are easily affected by threats or relationship problems and are more sensitive to rejection issues.
- 7. Click to edit Master title style 7 7 Attraction and Romantic Relationships • Another type of personal relationships is called romantic relationships. As you become more capable of forming intimate) relationships during adolescence, the emergence of romantic relationships may occur after you have experienced emotional closeness with members of the opposite sex. Teenagers may initially describe a feeling of attraction or something that draws them to become closer to another person.
- 8. Click to edit Master title style 8 WAYS ON HOW ATTRACTION TO SOMEONE IS EXPRESSED 8 • When you talk about your crush to your friends, you sometimes feel very much excited. All these feelings of excitement about a crush are normally experienced at your age. However, how you express your feelings of attraction or admiration is another area of concern. For some, having a crush is like having an inspiration. They become more motivated to study their lessons and perform well at school. However, for some, having a crush becomes a distraction.
- 9. Click to edit Master title style 9 9 Having a crush is normal; however, you need to deal with your feelings or how you express such feelings of being attracted to someone. For example, when you see your crush at the campus, you may react in various ways such as smiling by yourself and becoming more encouraged to do well in class. Or you may talk to a friend and share your thoughts about seeing your crush on that day. You may even find ways on how your crush might notice you so you try to look your best to also become physically attractive to your crush. All of these are normal reactions.
- 10. Click to edit Master title style 10 10 Being attracted to someone is different from attraction, although loving another person begins with liking or being attracted. People engaged in romantic relationships experience a special type of feeling called love.
- 11. Click to edit Master title style 11 11 Romantic relationships • are commonly observed among adolescents who are involved in girl and boy relationships. Although some boys are generally unexpressive about their feelings, girls are more likely to demonstrate self-disclosure and sensitivity to how others feel. Also, love, emotional involvement, and intimacy are more transparent among girls because of their early sexual development (Montgomery, 2005). Hence, they are observed to be more caring, supportive, and emotionally attached.
- 12. Click to edit Master title style 12 3 PHASES OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS 12 •The first phase is the discovery of interest through socialization with potential romantic partner. • The second phase is called dating. • The third phase is commitment, or the stage where adolescents think about survival and growth in their relationship with others.
- 13. Click to edit Master title style 13 13 Dating • is very common among adolescents. It is usually done as a way to get to know each other. • Dating, as a form of courtship and of getting to know one another, is usually followed by the teenagers' engagement in the relationship, where a special feeling called love is experienced and expressed.
- 14. Click to edit Master title style 14 After dating, teenagers may start to become engaged in a relationship where they promise to be with one another through thick and thin. Thus, you may notice that some people who are engaged in a relationship eat together, do their assignment and projects together, and even take each other home. They stick to the relationship and become more emotionally involved with each other. The experience of loving and caring is commonly observed.
- 15. Click to edit Master title style 15 15 Over the years, social psychologists have investigated love and how intimate and loving relationships work (Dion and Dion, 1988, cited by Sutton and Douglas, 2013). Love is often described as something that is mysterious, a powerful feeling that allows you to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of others. Love is a process wherein you give a part of yourself by understanding and accepting others even if they have shortcomings.
- 16. Click to edit Master title style 16 16 SCOTT PECK (1978) states that love is “The person's ability to extend himself or herself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth."
- 17. Click to edit Master title style 17 EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE AND COMMITMENT 17 •Love is a choice. You express your love for another person not because you are forced to do so, but because you have decided to share yourself with another person. •Love also involves trust and commitment. You should have confidence such that even if you do not see each other, your partner remains faithful to you.
- 18. Click to edit Master title style 18 18 When you are in love, you are capable of sacrificing your wants for your loved one. Nowadays, teenagers engaged in romantic relationships express their love by supporting and helping each other in their studies.
- 19. Click to edit Master title style 19 19 However, some teenagers fail to define the boundaries of their romantic relationships. They become so attached that they can no longer separate their own identity from their partner. Hence, they become dependent on one another, and find themselves unable to function well without the presence of the other.
- 20. Click to edit Master title style 20 20 Conflicts or misunderstandings may also arise in romantic relationships. For some adolescents who get emotionally involved with the conflicts or problems with their partner, their ability to focus is affected. They may not be able to study well, or their academic performance may suffer as a result of relationship problems.
- 21. Click to edit Master title style 21 21 • Further, some teenagers who do not establish a clear boundary fall into traps of temptation when they get too emotionally attached to their partners. They may even lose their identity. • They forget their limitations about the relationship. They forget that each of them is different from the other, and that their role is to nourish the personal growth of each other. In effect, they become slaves to their feelings or emotions. As a result, some female teenagers got pregnant and become parents at a really young age.
- 22. Click to edit Master title style 22 WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE IN A RELATIONSHIP 1.Clarify your boundaries. Setting clear limits is essential in personal relationships. This may include physical distance (e.g., the ability to not always stay together) and even socio-emotional limitations (e.g., the ability to stand even without the other partner). You are unique and you must not lose your own identity when you enter into a relationship. 2.Learn to communicate. Communication is a very powerful tool to maintain healthy relationships, whether they be friendships or romantic relationships. Through communication, you express your thoughts and feelings that may help clarify your expectations with one another.
- 23. Click to edit Master title style 23 23 3. Invest in an "emotional bank account." Steven Covey (1989) states that an emotional bank account is a metaphor describing the amount of trust that we invest in our relationship. 4. Learn to forgive others. In any relationship, conflict or the experience of being hurt is part of our experience. To maintain positive and healthy relationships, our ability to forgive and to understand the shortcomings of others are important. Forgiveness means starting all over again and not dwelling on past negative experiences with someone. andnin
- 24. Click to edit Master title style 24 24 5. Consult professionals. At times when you feel bothered about a relationship, do not hesitate to talk to a teacher, your adviser, or your guidance counselor. He or she may provide you with a lot of options on how you can positively deal with your personal relationships.