Attitude Is Everything - Learn How Not To Compare
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The document discusses how to stop comparing oneself to others in order to be happier. It explains that comparison often leads to disappointment and unhappiness. While telling someone to simply stop comparing is ineffective, developing awareness of triggers for comparison and using coping mechanisms can help curb this habit. The document provides tips for increasing awareness of comparison thoughts and language, and suggests coping strategies like distraction, affirmations, and goal-setting focused on personal improvement rather than comparison. It emphasizes developing these techniques into a routine in order to build happy habits and a more empowering attitude.
![WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE COMPARE?
▪ “Develop Good Habits” Says:
You feel bad about yourself
“[N]egative comparisons are the path to unhappiness.”
▪ “Psychology Today” Says:
Theodore Roosevelt: “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
▪ “Tiny Buddha Blog” Says:
“Comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness.”
“It’s a recipe for misery.”
▪ What Do We Say?:
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Attitude Is Everything - Learn How Not To Compare
- 1. ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING: LEARN HOW NOT TO COMPARE Comparison is the slipperiest slope to disappointment and energy drain. Learn techniques to curb the compare and create an empowering attitude!
- 2. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE COMPARE? ▪ “Develop Good Habits” Says: You feel bad about yourself “[N]egative comparisons are the path to unhappiness.” ▪ “Psychology Today” Says: Theodore Roosevelt: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” ▪ “Tiny Buddha Blog” Says: “Comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness.” “It’s a recipe for misery.” ▪ What Do We Say?: . . . © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 2
- 4. SO JUST STOP. …. ?? COMPARISON & POTATO CHIPS ▪ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCV1PfmvjgQ Telling someone to, “Just Stop,” is like telling someone to stop after 1 potato chip. Just Stop. … But we don’t. 1. Because a part of us is wired to keep going and keep doing. 2. Then, much like eating some potato chips, it becomes habit. © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 4
- 5. HOW TO CURB THE COMPARE DEVELOP AWARENESS 1. Notice Triggers: hobbies (i.e. Social Media), people, activities, situations (Psychology Today) 2. Notice Thought Patterns: are you telling yourself a negative story? (#’s 2 & 3, Tiny Buddha) 3. Notice Language: do you keep saying, “should” “(#11, Tiny Buddha) DEVELOP COPING MECHANISMS 1. Distract 2. Rewrite Your Story 3. Affirm or Ask – “Why are you comparing us?” 4. Goal Set – Compare yourself to you 5. ID Your Source of Natural Endorphins © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 5
- 6. TURN YOUR POTATO CHIPS INTO A POTATO PIE © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 6
- 7. LAYER THESE TECHNIQUES – 3 STEP RECIPE TO HAPPY 1. Awareness Write it down Non-judgmental Observation • “Oh look, I’m human. Phew. I compared.” 2. Coping Mechanism Pick your fav, OR The one most easily accessible Keep a List 3. Reward You Won! That’s a WIN. Celebrate – free, low cost, or splurge if that’s reasonable Reward Cope Be Aware © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 7
- 8. LET’S GET MENTALLY STRONG. LET’S BUILD HAPPY HABITS. ▪ Awareness: What are your triggers? When do you start to compare? ▪ Coping: How can you cope? What can you do to make the journey more comfortable & enjoyable for you? ▪ Reward: You did it!! Now, how can you celebrate? How can you Honor yourself? Awareness Coping Reward © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 8
- 9. #NEXTLEVEL. HTTPS://FITSMALLBUSINESS.COM/SMART-GOALS-EXAMPLES/ © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 9
- 10. GOAL SET – COMPARE YOU, TO YOU NAME 3-5 GOALS 1. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-Bound 2. EX: I plan to learn about 5 new contacts related to my industry of interest within the next 3 weeks. 3. Why’s this helpful?? Because if that’s your goal, then you’re not upset when Jenny MET with 5 new people … and your goal was to LEARN about 5 new people. 4. If you’re not satisfied with the result – it’s NOT you, it’s the GOAL you set. 5. Set New Goals. Learn New Strategies. EVERY 2-3 WEEKS 1. When you reach a goal, even the smallest, CELEBRATE. OWN IT. Toast yourself. Smile at yourself. Post it on LinkedIn. 2. When you don’t reach a goal: Take Action. Ask Courageous Questions. Either change the goal or change the strategy. 3. Follow-Up: Walk-In By Appointment Workshop Meet Up Creative Wellness Opportunities Center © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 10
- 11. GOAL SET © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 11
- 12. WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR GOALS? 1. Goal: 2. Goal: 3. Goal: Specific Measurable Achie- vable Relevant Time- Bound © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 12
- 14. RESOURCES 1. Develop Good Habits: https://www.developgoodhabits.com/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others/ 2. Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/prescriptions-life/201803/how- stop-comparing-yourself-others 3. Tiny Buddha: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/13-things-instead-comparing-others/ 4. Fit Small Business: https://fitsmallbusiness.com/smart-goals-examples/ 5. Unsplash: https://unsplash.com/ © Copyright 2019, RochesterWorks! Developed by Job Strategist: Barbara Wilcox 14