Chapter 7 Part 2 Cst110
- 1. Chapter 7, part 2 Interpersonal Communication
- 2. Self Disclosure This is the basis of all relationships The process of telling people who you are; telling others things about yourself that may not be apparent by just looking at you This does not have to be a deep, dark secret; could be everyday things about you
- 3. Self Disclosure Social penetration – process of increasing both disclosure AND intimacy in a relationship You will most likely be able to encourage a relationship to go further, hold it at the same level, or stop it simply by what you do with self disclosure
- 4. Self Disclosure: 3 Kinds of Information Cultural – tells about a person’s GENERAL cultural attributes such as language, values, beliefs, etc This is often shallow and impersonal Not usually helpful in forming or keeping prolonged relationships
- 5. Self Disclosure: 3 Kinds of Information Sociological – tells you something about the person’s social group and roles You usually do not learn anything new about the person except for his/her role or job This is communication with a doctor, teacher; not deep
- 6. Self Disclosure: 3 Kinds of Information Psychological – learn about an individual's traits, attitudes, important personal information Most specific and intimate type of disclosure Relationships are based on this type of disclosure
- 7. Self Disclosure Trust is very important in starting and continuing relationships – how much can you trust the person to not tell others about the information that you just told them? Process of reciprocity – how much does the information the OTHER person reveal after you disclose? Is the disclosure at the same level?
- 9. The Johari Window Open Pane – information about yourself that you are willing to tell others; also info you are unable to hide from others Nonverbals cannot often be hidden Race, sex cannot often be hidden
- 10. The Johari Window Blind Pane – “accidental” disclosure Things that you do not know about yourself that others know These are often nonverbals, habits, tics, etc
- 11. The Johari Window Hidden pane – self-knowledge that you deliberately keep hidden from others Things you do not want others to know; this information could change depending on who you are communicating with These are things that you are not sure how others may react or that others may not approve of your views
- 12. The Johari Window Unknown pane – this information is unknown to self and others so there is no chance at the time to disclose Things not YET revealed; what would you do in a certain situation? You do not know because you have not yet been in that particular situation
- 13. Self Disclosure and Intimacy A reward is that self-disclosure often leads to greater intimacy; closer friendships, romantic relationships, etc Many people fear possible consequences of revealing too much, too soon about selves What might some of these fears be?
- 14. Self Disclosure and Intimacy-Fears Having your faults exposed Your partner will become your critic Losing your individuality Being abandoned
- 15. Self Disclosure and Intimacy Disclosure should only occur in relationships that are important to you For disclosure to work, both people must be involved in it at a similar degree What are some possible motives behind disclosure? Are all of them good? Should there always be FULL AND COMPLETE DISCLOSURE???
- 16. Elements of a Good Relationship Verbal skills – there should be ongoing discussion of both good and bad things within the relationship Emotional expressiveness – how should you express your emotions? What is too much / little? The amount and type is often similar to what you learned growing up and your gender
- 17. Elements of a Good Relationship Conversational focus – what you choose to talk about / not talk about Nonverbal analysis – how you are able to imply meaning or read between the lines; what does he/she REALLY mean? Conversational encouragement – willingness or unwillingness to continue a conversation even if it is not pleasant
- 18. Elements of a Good Relationship Care and appreciation Commitment – the desire to have the relationship continue with the good and the bad Unconditional (no matter what) versus conditional (…only if) Adaptation
- 19. The Internet and Interpersonal Relationships The internet promotes social disengagement – less getting together with others face-to-face, less social interaction outside the home The internet increases the NUMBER of interpersonal relationships; what about the DEGREE?? Benefits of internet communication?