Courage, Curiosity, and Connection
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This document discusses practical tools for navigating a changing world with courage, curiosity and connection. It outlines common responses to distress like trying to control situations, getting stuck ruminating, and lack of emotional management. It then presents newer tools like mindfulness, awareness, reducing distractions, finding intrinsic rewards, giving time to connect with others, and using checklists to standardize best practices and reduce mistakes. The overall message is that developing skills like managing emotions, creating space for reflection instead of just reaction, and cooperating with others can help one adapt successfully to changes.
Courage, Curiosity, and Connection
- 1. Courage, Curiosity, and Connection: Practical Tools for Creating Space and Keeping Your Head While Navigating a Changing World
- 2. Introduction
- 3. Getting Stuck in Distress • Something is going to happen • That Happening is going to be awful • That Something is Going to Be My Fault • (Repeat)
- 4. Tools of the Trade • Uniqueness of the Practice • Seek and Present Information • Work on Your Own • Avoid Risk and Find Certainty • Think Criticially (With Skepticism, Pessimism) • Compete • Follow the Rules
- 5. How Do You Use the Tools? • Seek Compensation, Clients, Advancement • Get Affirmation (from Clients, Decision-makers, Higher-Ups) • Avoid Blame in a Zero-Sum Game • Extrinsic and Linear
- 6. How Are The Tools When Things Don’t Go As “Planned”? • When The Rules Change (Or There Are No Rules)? • In Your Personal Relationships?
- 7. And The New Tools?
- 8. Responses to Distress (Or the Perception of Distress) • The need to try and control it • Suffering=Pain x Resistance • Getting Stuck • The Open Loop
- 9. What is Missing When Distress Hits? • The Capability to Manage Emotion • Space to Consider How to Respond And Adapt Rather Than React • Context/Awareness • Cooperation/Collaboration/Communication (Listening)
- 11. Another Tool • Actively notice new things -->puts you in the present -->makes you aware of context • Awareness creates space (and vice versa)
- 12. One Definition • Mindlessness- the application of yesterday's business solutions to today's problems • Mindfulness- attunement to today's demands to avoid tomorrow's problems • If you want to change it, you have to see it for what it really is. - Ellen Langer
- 14. Be Aware of Your Blind Spots
- 15. Be Aware of Your Blind Spots
- 16. Change Your Mind • Put some space between stimulus and reaction • Intrinsic Rewards – Get quiet – Get outside – Get on a different schedule – Get out and play
- 18. A Plug For Work-Life Integration • Treat yourself, at work or play, the same way • "You must have work-life balance"
- 19. Create Space in Your Day (Build Energy) • Exercise • Leisure Time – Flow • Reduce Distractions/Build Habits and Routines • Allow for Rest and Recovery
- 21. Get Some Space from Your and Computer Technology • Attention Is Fuel, Fallible, and Finite
- 22. What Fuels/Preserves Attention? • Fewer Decisions • Fewer Distractions • Sustained Focus/Awareness
- 23. Make Space for the Good Stuff • Document a Process Well One Time, Never Have to Document it Again • Documenting a Process- Fewer ?s • Accept coaching and criticism
- 25. Benefits of Checklists (Documented Processes) • Delegates • Reduces Mistakes • Promotes and Standardizes Best Practices • Stays with the Organization • Encourages Revision and Improvement • Capable of Application in Other Areas • Rewards Input and Collaboration
- 26. Create Space with Computer Tools • Evernote • Headspace • Moment • Podcasts
- 28. Find Some Space By Giving Time (Connect) • Be Generous of Your Time and Your Knowledge- Without Expecting Anything in Return • If You Are Taking Care of Yourself, You Will Take Care of Others • Build Empathy
- 30. Questions? Jack Pringle Adams and Reese LLP (803) 343-1270 jack.pringle@arlaw.com @jjpringlesc http://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com 1501 Main Street, 5th Floor Columbia, SC 29201 www.adamsandreese.com
- 31. Resources • Baba Shiv, How Do You Find Breakthrough Ideas?, Stanford Graduate School of Business, http://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/baba-shiv- how-do-you-find-breakthrough-ideas • The Resilient Lawyer http://theanxiouslawyer.com/rl-23-jack-pringle/ • Farnham Street https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/ • One You Feed With Michael Taft http://www.oneyoufeed.net/michael- taft/ • Tim Ferris with Brene Brown http://fourhourworkweek.com/2015/08/28/brene-brown-on- vulnerability-and-home-run-ted-talks/ • On Being With Ellen Langer http://www.onbeing.org/program/ellen- langer-science-of-mindlessness-and-mindfulness/6332 • You Are Not So Smart http://youarenotsosmart.libsyn.com/062-naive- realism-lee-ross-0
- 32. More Resources The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right, by Atul Gawande http://www.amazon.com/Checklist-Manifesto-How-Things-Right/dp/0312430000 Smarter Than You Think: How Technology is Changing Our Minds for the Better, by Clive Thompson http://www.amazon.com/Smarter-Than-You-Think-Technology/dp/1594204454 Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D http://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Success-Carol- Dweck/dp/0345472322 Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success, by Adam Grant http://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986