Exception Tapping - Webinar Slides
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The webinar focuses on understanding and addressing limiting beliefs, particularly through the lens of 'always' and 'never' statements. It highlights how these generalizations create mental blockages and offers a technique called 'exception tapping' to challenge these beliefs by identifying counter-examples. Participants are also encouraged to engage in personal practices to enhance their cognitive flexibility and perception.
Exception Tapping - Webinar Slides
- 1. Why Always Is Never A Good Idea! Andy Hunt Practical Wellbeing © Andy Hunt, Practical Wellbeing 2013
- 2. What to expect This webinar is about how to: ● Beliefs and how they are formed ● One common form of limiting belief ● How to tackle those kinds of belief using EFT
- 3. Problem: Life Is Complicated Image courtesy of WoodleyWonderWorks
- 4. Solution: Simplify Image courtesy of StockMonkeys.com
- 5. How Do We Simplify? Generalise Experience
- 6. Is There A Dog? Images courtesy of thecreativehermit
- 7. Warning! Generalisations Have Side Effects Image courtesy of eek the cat
- 8. One Word Limitations ● Very common ● Rarely noticed ● Subtly limiting ● Easy to change Image courtesy of CarbonNYC
- 10. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong
- 11. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never
- 12. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me
- 13. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody
- 14. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me
- 15. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody
- 16. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me
- 17. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me ● Everything
- 18. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me ● Everything – Everything goes wrong
- 19. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me ● Everything – Everything goes wrong ● Nothing
- 20. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me ● Everything – Everything goes wrong ● Nothing – Nothing I do seems to work
- 21. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me ● Everything – Everything goes wrong ● Nothing – Nothing I do seems to work ● All
- 22. Meet The Universals ● Always – I always get it wrong ● Never – He never listens to me ● Everybody – Everybody hates me ● Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me ● Everything – Everything goes wrong ● Nothing – Nothing I do seems to work ● All – All men are selfish
- 23. The Consequences ● Creates mental blinkers Image courtesy of harlequeen
- 24. The Consequences ● ● Creates mental blinkers Sets your expectations Image courtesy of Steffen M Boelaars
- 25. The Consequences ● ● ● Creates mental blinkers Sets your expectations Changes your behaviour Image courtesy of borborigmus
- 26. Everybody Hates Me What if this were true?
- 27. Everybody Hates Me What if this were true? You would be: ● Suspicious of everyone you met
- 28. Everybody Hates Me What if this were true? You would be: ● Suspicious of everyone you met. ● On your guard with other people.
- 29. Everybody Hates Me What if this were true? You would be: ● Suspicious of everyone you met. ● On your guard with other people. ● Reluctant to trust anybody
- 30. Everybody Hates Me What if this were true? You would be: ● Suspicious of everyone you met. ● On your guard with other people. ● Reluctant to trust anybody. ● Waiting for a sign that the didn't like you.
- 31. Everybody Hates Me What if this were true? You would be: ● Suspicious of everyone you met. ● On your guard with other people. ● Reluctant to trust anybody. ● Waiting for a sign that the didn't like you. ● ...
- 32. BUT ... How can “Everybody hates me” be true?
- 33. There are more than 7,000,000,000 people on Earth
- 34. If there are more than 7,000,000,000 people on Earth How can the 99.99999% of people, who have never met you, hate you? They don't even know who you are!
- 35. How To Soften A Universal Search for the exceptions to the belief that are being ignored or can't be seen
- 36. Exceptions Everyone hates you … except the people who don't
- 37. Exceptions Everyone hates you … except the people who don't He never listens to me … except when he does
- 38. Exceptions Everyone hates you … except the people who don't He never listens to me … except when he does All men are selfish … except the ones that aren't
- 40. Exceptions Advantages: ● Acknowledges perceived reality ● Invitation to find counter-examples
- 41. Exceptions Advantages: ● Acknowledges perceived reality ● Invitation to find counter-examples ● You don't need to know what the counter-examples are
- 42. Exceptions Advantages: ● Acknowledges perceived reality ● Invitation to find counter-examples ● ● You don't need to know what the counter-examples are It's very simple: no psychoanalysis, psychic abilities or therapeutic intuition needed.
- 43. To make a good thing even better Just add tapping!
- 45. Exception Tapping Even though everybody hates me, I accept myself and how I feel x 3
- 46. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ...
- 47. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't
- 48. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't ● UE: Everybody hates me ...
- 49. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't ● UE: Everybody hates me … ● UN: except the people who don't
- 50. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't ● UE: Everybody hates me … ● UN: except the people who don't ● CH: Everybody hates me ...
- 51. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't ● UE: Everybody hates me … ● UN: except the people who don't ● CH: Everybody hates me … ● CB: except the people who don't
- 52. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't ● UE: Everybody hates me … ● UN: except the people who don't ● CH: Everybody hates me … ● CB: except the people who don't ● UA: Everybody hates me ...
- 53. Exception Tapping ● EB: Everybody hates me ... ● SE: except the people who don't ● UE: Everybody hates me … ● UN: except the people who don't ● CH: Everybody hates me … ● CB: except the people who don't ● UA: Everybody hates me … ● TH: except the people who don't
- 54. Exception Tapping Examples ● Always – I always get it wrong, except when I don't.
- 55. Exception Tapping Examples ● ● Always – I always get it wrong, except when I don't. Never – He never listens to me, except when he does.
- 56. Exception Tapping Examples ● ● ● Always – I always get it wrong, except when I don't. Never – He never listens to me, except when he does. Nobody – Nobody wants what I'm offering, except the people who do.
- 57. Exception Tapping Examples ● ● ● ● Always – I always get it wrong, except when I don't. Never – He never listens to me, except when he does. Nobody – Nobody wants what I'm offering, except the people who do. All – All men are selfish, except the ones who aren't.
- 58. Exception Tapping Examples ● ● ● ● ● Always – I always get it wrong, except when I don't. Never – He never listens to me, except when he does. Nobody – Nobody wants what I'm offering, except the people who do. All – All men are selfish, except the ones who aren't. Nothing – Nothing goes right for me, except when it does.
- 59. How Does Tapping Help? ● Loosens the original belief
- 60. How Does Tapping Help? ● Loosens the original belief ● Eases the search for counter examples
- 61. How Does Tapping Help? ● Loosens the original belief ● Eases the search for counter examples ● Brings the belief and the counter examples together
- 62. How To Use Exception Tapping ● Identify the belief
- 63. How To Use Exception Tapping ● Identify the belief ● Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 1
- 64. How To Use Exception Tapping ● Identify the belief ● Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10 ● Use the Exception Tapping routine
- 65. How To Use Exception Tapping ● Identify the belief ● Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10 ● Use the Exception Tapping routine ● Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10
- 66. How To Use Exception Tapping ● Identify the belief ● Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10 ● Use the Exception Tapping routine ● Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10 ● If necessary “rinse and repeat”.
- 67. Benefits If you loosen the universal belief you will have: ● Clearer perceptions
- 68. Benefits If you loosen the universal belief you will have: ● Clearer perceptions ● More flexible thinking
- 69. Benefits If you loosen the universal belief you will have: ● Clearer perceptions ● More flexible thinking ● More flexible behaviour
- 70. Does Exception Tapping Work On Everything?
- 71. Does Exception Tapping Work On Everything? Yes, it works on everything … ... except when it doesn't!
- 72. What next? How often to you use words like always, never, everbody, nobody etc?
- 73. What next? How often to you use words like always, never, everbody, nobody etc? Personal practice suggestion: When you find yourself thinking or saying one of these word, take a few moments to tap it out to give yourself more personal freedom and flexibility.
- 74. Shameless Plug My good friend Masha Bennett and I are running a one day workshop devoted to working with limiting beliefs using EFT. The workshop is in York on Saturday, November 16th, 2013 www.ChangeYourMindWithEFT.co.uk
- 75. The Next Webinar Next week's webinar is all about “can'ts” and “shoulds” and ways of tackling them with EFT. I hope to see you then.
- 76. Thank You! Image courtesy of DaveFayram