This document discusses the differences between formative and summative interventions with children. Formative interventions focus on a child's development and inner instincts, addressing their unmet needs through relationships. Summative interventions focus on behavior and consequences. The document advocates for formative attachment pedagogy, where counseling creates a context for emotional maturation by addressing a child's needs for safety, co-regulation of feelings, and freedom from daily frustrations. Behavior may indicate what is missing for a child, such as feelings of safety from alarming feelings or pursuit of co-regulation. Development nurtures children but does not teach them skills to manage feelings without proper attachment.