How To Handle Yourself On The First Date
- 1. How To Handle Yourself On The First Date Freshen up and dress appropriately for the occasion. Even if you are going out for a casual dinner, dress nicely. Do not wear sweats or yoga pants. Look your best by taking time to do your hair and nails. Make sure your clothes fit comfortably. If your clothes are uncomfortable during the date, you won't be able to focus on him or the conversation. So do not try to squeeze into jeans that are too tight. Also, wear perfume. Scents can linger with a man's senses even after the date. Just don't go overboard and wear too much, as some perfumes can be overpowering. If you want to know her, it's vital that you begin with sharing information about yourself. Talk about where you are from, your school, number of people in your family, college, your job, and share other basic information. Talk about your friends and find out whether you have common friends or any common long distant relatives. This will lead you to a conversation, which will bring out your backgrounds and your history. The obvious series of questions after knowing each other in brevity, are the ones that talk about your likes and dislikes. Questions such as 'what is your favorite book?', 'what is your favorite cuisine?', and so on will tell you about each other's likes in a bit more detail, than just a one word answer. At this juncture, you need to be an active listener and share your likes and dislikes too, if you wish to get to know her better. As you get talking about your likes and dislikes, it will lead to conversations about funny incidences, anecdotes and discussions. The tactful thing to do here is, allow the other person to talk more, while you play the role of an active listener, effectively. Discussions will bring forth her opinions and judgments, which is an excellent way of knowing a person. Keep the bone of contention light, to avoid heated arguments. Having fun is more important than winning a debate.
- 2. No. This does not mean you ask her what is her plan after your date. Talk about your jobs, your professions, career ambitions and life goals. Ask her questions about her dream job and how does she plan to get it. No matter how small dreams are, they define a person to a large extent. So, share your dreams and listen to what she has to say. If you both share the same dream, there's no reason why you wouldn't click! Commenting on people around is an activity all of us love to indulge in! We all are a little judgmental under our skin. So, take this opportunity and turn it into a topic on your first date. For fun sake, observe people around you. Look at what they are wearing, what they are eating, who they are with, and what they are doing and make improvisational stories around it. This activity is brilliant fun and stretches your imagination to a whole new level. Try it out!
- 3. Strictly refrain any innuendos, excessive flirting, baggage of past relationships, and profanity. These will totally put off a woman and you'll lose your chance. Hope these suggestions have helped you out figure what to talk about on a first date. Lastly, dress well and smell good, because most of us do fall for looks first. What ever way you propose, always insist that she should say 'yes' loud and clear. Don't take it for granted her gesture as 'yes'. It is also a good idea to talk to her about your intention and learn her thought. Don't forget your line. There is no harm to keep a piece of paper in which you have written your lines. You can edit the famous line of Romeo and Juliet or you may create your own line. There is nothing wrong in just saying 'I propose you to be my wife'. The fact is that the quiet single man you want to meet might have met many females before, different women who portend different things to them. However, they have not been serious with any of them, which just tell you that they are not ready to fall in love with them. They want to begin dating a particular brand of woman who will not only ignite their sexual feelings, but also be a comfort and a fellow sojourner in the rough edges of life. The single men must have had sexual intercourse with different women before, so don't think you are the first one, or that you can coerce him using sex.