Interpersonal Communication Skills
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The document discusses the basics of effective interpersonal communication. It covers key topics such as the four facets of communication including sender, receiver, information, and behavior. It also discusses shared symbols and how the intended meaning can differ from the received meaning. The document explores why and how people communicate, choosing the appropriate communication medium, barriers to communication, sharing ideas, getting good information, listening skills, and asking questions.
Interpersonal Communication Skills
- 1. The Basics of Effective Interpersonal Communication
- 2. What is communication? What do you think communication is? How would you define it? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 3. Four facets of communication Three are four facets in all types of communication: Sender Receiver Information Behavior
- 4. Four facets of communication In any communication: The Sender is the person trying to communicate a message The Receiver is the person at whom the message is directed A message is sent to convey information Information is meant to change behavior
- 5. Shared symbols Sometimes when we communicate we assume we are using shared symbols when we might not be Think about the term “asap”, “as soon as possible”. What does it really mean? Think about how the meaning might change in the situations on the next slide…
- 6. Shared symbols How might your meaning of “asap” change in these situations?… Someone from another department calls. He needs some detailed information asap; but you are already rather busy. A coworker comes to you for help with an assignment. She needs you asap; but you have another job to finish before lunch. Your immediate supervisor, whom you like to please, asks you to type a memo for her asap; but you already have a stack of other jobs to finish.
- 7. Shared symbols Someone from another department calls. He needs some detailed information asap; but you are already rather busy. In this situation, you might interpret “asap” as “when I have finished all of my own work and have a chance to get to it. It might be tomorrow or the next day.”
- 8. Shared symbols A coworker comes to you for help with an assignment. She needs you asap; but you have another job to finish before lunch. In this situation, you might interpret “asap” as “after I have finished my own work, I will help out after lunch”.
- 9. Shared symbols Your immediate supervisor, whom you like to please, asks you to type a memo for her asap; but you already have a stack of other jobs to finish. In this situation, you might interpret “asap” as “I’ll do this now and finish my other work afterwards”.
- 10. Shared symbols In the previous examples, we’ve seen the meaning of “asap” change from “in a few days” to “immediately”. Many other words and phrases are also vague and have different meanings for different people. Shared symbols are not always completely shared. The message intended is not always the message received.
- 11. Why do we communicate? What do you think? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 12. Why we communicate We communicate to: Share our ideas and opinions Provide feedback to others Get information from others Gain power and influence Develop social relationships Maintain self-expression and our culture and other ideas you may have thought of
- 13. How do we communicate? Think of the many ways in which you communicate… Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 14. How we communicate We communicate and build interpersonal relationships through: Speech Writing Listening Non-verbal language Music, art, and crafts
- 15. Choosing your medium Depending upon the situation, one method of communication may be better than another. In person: one-to-one In person: meetings, small groups In person: presentations, large groups Letter Memo Note Email Voice mail
- 16. Choosing your medium To determine the best medium for your message determine: What you as the sender need to achieve What the receiver needs to know. What the receiver wants to know How detailed, important, and or personal the i nformation in the message is Which behavior you want to influence and how
- 17. Choosing your medium How would you communicate… an organizational change in your unit the introduction of a new employee a change in someone’s job duties a reprimand notice of a meeting Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 18. Choosing your medium The best way to communicate… an organizational change in your unit by memo and small group meetings the introduction of a new employee by group and one-on-one meetings a change in someone’s job duties by memo and one-on-one meeting a reprimand in a one-on-one private meeting notice of a meeting by memo and email
- 19. Barriers to communication What are barriers to communication that exist in any work setting? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 20. Barriers to communication Some common barriers to interpersonal communication include: Unclear process: The receiver and sender may not share the same language, slang, jargon, vocabulary, symbols Chain of command: There may be too many layers that a message passes through between sender and receiver Large size of an organization, geographic distance: Large numbers of receivers require good message sending methods Personal limitations: Physical and mental disabilities, and differences in intelligence and education may interfere with mutual understanding
- 21. Barriers to communication Additional common barriers to interpersonal communication include: Human nature: Peoples’ egos, prejudices, and traditions can get in the way Conflicting feelings, goals, opinions: If people feel on opposite sides of an issue they may not share Power: The idea that knowledge is power can lead to information hoarding and other ideas you may have thought of
- 22. Sharing your ideas Why and when is it necessary to share your ideas? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 23. Share your ideas to… State an opinion or position Give instructions or directions Announce a change Make presentations Participate in meetings Give information in emergencies Communicate the organizational mission, vision, and values and other ideas you may have thought of
- 24. Obstacles to sharing ideas What can make sharing ideas difficult? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 25. Obstacles to sharing ideas… Your own shyness Fear of rejection Peer pressure Unorganized thinking Others possibly becoming defensive Physical disabilities (impaired sight, hearing, speech) Having to deal with aggressive people and others you may have thought of
- 26. SHARE your ideas – a model S tate the main point of your message H ighlight other important points A ssure the receiver’s understanding R eact to how the receiver responds E mphasize/summarize your main ideas
- 27. SHARE – an example S tate the main point of your message “ I’d like to talk to you about the new employee welcome program”. H ighlight other important points “ We need to discuss the new schedule, locations, and presenters”. A ssure the receiver’s understanding “ Do you need me to further clarify how we are making invitations”? R eact to how the receiver responds “ I understand your concern about parking”. E mphasize/summarize your main ideas “ To wrap-up, I’ll develop the schedule and make the room reservations, if you can line up the guest speakers”.
- 28. Getting good information Why is it necessary to get good information from others? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 29. Get good information to… Find out facts and details Get directions or instructions Try to understand another’s point of view Help someone solve a problem Resolve a team conflict Solve work problems and other ideas you may have thought of
- 30. Obstacles to getting good information What can make getting good information difficult? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 31. Obstacles to getting good information Lack of trust Assuming you already know it all Jumping to conclusions Not valuing diverse opinions Weak reading skills Weak listening skills Weak questioning skills and other ideas you may have thought of
- 32. The power of listening The philosopher Epictetus stressed the power of listening in this quote: “ Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak.”
- 33. Listen actively Prepare to listen by focusing on the speaker Control and eliminate distractions so that you can focus on the message. Don’t do anything else (writing, reading, email) but listen Establish appropriate eye contact to show interest See listening as an opportunity to get information, share another’s views, and broaden your own knowledge
- 34. Listen actively Create a need to listen by thinking about what you can learn from the speaker Set aside the time to listen so that you won’t feel rushed or become distracted by other responsibilities Don’t prejudge the message based on who is delivering it. Focus instead on the content of the message. Monitor the way you listen by asking yourself questions such as “Did I really pay attention or was I thinking about what I was going to say next”? “Was there information I missed because I allowed myself to become distracted”?
- 35. That’s a good question! Close end questions limit the answer to yes or no Open end questions allow the responder total freedom in answering Direct questions ask for specific information; limit answers to brief fact statements Probing questions follow up other questions to solicit additional information Hypothetical questions present a theoretical situation to which receiver responds See examples of each on the next slide…
- 36. Good question - examples Close end question “ Did you attend the staff meeting this morning”? Open end question “ What was discussed at the staff meeting this morning”? Direct question “ Which topics were listed on the meeting agenda”? Probing question “ Can you tell me more about the first agenda topic”?. Hypothetical question “ What would you have done, if you had not had the chance to present your idea at the meeting”?
- 37. FOCUS on information – a model F ocus the discussion on the specific information you need O pen-end question to expand the discussion C lose-end question to get specifics U se active listening skills to understand what you are hearing S ummarize and close the discussion
- 38. FOCUS on information – an example F ocus the discussion on the specific information you need “ I need to ask you about the computer meeting you attended yesterday”. O pen-end question to expand the discussion “ What kinds of decisions were made regarding expansion of our departmental system”? C lose-end question to get specifics “ Did the committee decide to buy Dell computers”? U se active listening skills to understand what you are hearing “ What I think I heard you say was that the decision was made”? S ummarize and close the discussion “ So to wrap up, the system will expand and we will be using Dells. Thanks for keeping me up to date”.
- 39. Getting / giving feedback Why is it necessary to give constructive feedback to others? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 40. Give feedback when… Someone asks for your opinion Work errors occur frequently A coworker’s habits disturb you A coworker’s behavior has negative consequences There are unresolved problems and other ideas you may have thought of Constructive feedback focuses on facts not people, solving problems instead of placing blame, and strengthening relationships instead of “being right”
- 41. Obstacles to giving constructive feedback What makes it hard to give constructive feedback? Take a few moments to write down some of your thoughts…
- 42. Obstacles to giving constructive feedback Separating the person from the problem Others becoming defensive or angry Fear of negative consequences (especially if the other person is a supervisor) Dealing with potential conflict (especially if the other person is aggressive) Avoiding hurt feelings Preserving relationships Not having all the facts and jumping to conclusions Choosing the right time so that the other person is most receptive and other ideas you may have thought of
- 43. STATE feedback – a model S tate the constructive purpose of your feedback T ell specifically what you have observed A ddress and describe your reactions T ender specific suggestions for improvement E xpress your support and respect for the person
- 44. STATE feedback – an example State the constructive purpose of your feedback “ I’d like to give you some feedback about your training style so that your evaluations will be more positive and you will enjoy it more”. Tell specifically what you have observed “ I notice that you rely heavily on your notes”. Address and describe your reactions “ I feel as though you are unsure of yourself when you read”. Tender specific suggestions for improvement “ I can help you develop a PowerPoint presentation so that you can use the screens as a cue instead of being tied to your notes”. Express your support for the person “ You know a lot about the subject. With practice you can become a good trainer”.
- 45. Body language Nonverbal communication, known as “body language” sends strong positive and negative signals. This is how much it influences any message: Words 8% Tone of voice 34% Non-verbal cues 58% Message 100%
- 46. Body language includes… Face Figure Focus Territory Tone Time Each of these is described in the following slides…
- 47. Body language - face Face includes: Your expressions Your smile or lack thereof Tilt of the head; e.g., if your head is tilted to one side, it usually indicates you are interested in what someone is saying What message are you sending if someone is presenting a new idea and you are frowning?
- 48. Body language - figure Figure includes: Your posture Your demeanor and gestures Your clothes and accessories such as jewelry What message are you sending if you are dressed casually at an important meeting?
- 49. Body language - focus Focus is your eye contact with others The perception of eye contact differs by culture. For most Americans… Staring makes other people uncomfortable Lack of eye contact can make you appear weak or not trustworthy Glasses may interfere or enhance eye contact What message are you sending if you are looking at other things and people in a room when someone is speaking to you?
- 50. Body language - territory Territory focuses on how you use space. It is also called proxemics. The perception of territory differs by culture. Most Americans are comfortable with an individual space that is about an arm’s length in diameter What message are you sending if you keep moving closer to a person who is backing away from you?
- 51. Body language - tone Tone is a factor of your voice Pitch is the highness or lowness of voice Volume is how loud your voice is Emphasis is your inflection What message are you sending if during a disagreement you start speaking very loudly?
- 52. Body language - time Time focuses on how you use time. It is also called chronemics. Pace is how quickly you speak Response is how quickly you move Punctuality is your timeliness What message are you sending if you are consistently late for meetings?
- 53. Ideas to walk away with… People are always communicating The meaning intended by the sender is never exactly the message gotten by the receiver We can help to overcome barriers to communication by being aware of them Verbal and non-verbal communication is important in sending our messages
- 54. Test yourself… 1. Communication is defined as the interchange of thoughts or opinions through shared symbols. True___ False___ 2. The four facets of interpersonal communication are sender, receiver, information, and behavior. True___ False___ 3. Unclear process; chain of command; large size of an organization or geographic distance; personal limitations; human nature; conflicting feelings, goals, opinions; and power are examples of barriers to communication. True___ False___
- 55. Test yourself 4. Describe the steps of the SHARE model for giving good information – share, highlight, assure, react, emphasize: 5. Describe the steps of the FOCUS model for getting good information – focus, open end, close end, use, summarize: 6. Describe the steps of the STATE model for giving constructive feedback – state, tell, address, tender, express: 7. Describe the the six aspects of non-verbal communication (body language):
- 56. Test yourself… - answers 1. Communication is defined as the interchange of thoughts or opinions through shared symbols. True 2. The four facets of interpersonal communication are sender, receiver, information, and behavior. True 3. Unclear process; chain of command; large size of an organization or geographic distance; personal limitations; human nature; conflicting feelings, goals, opinions; power are examples of barriers to communication. True
- 57. Test yourself… - answers 4. The steps of the SHARE model for giving good information are: State the main point of your message Highlight other important points Assure the receiver’s understanding React to how the receiver responds Emphasize /summarize your main ideas 5. The steps of the FOCUS model for getting good information are: Focus the discussion on the specific information you need Open-end question to expand the discussion Close-end question to get specifics Use active listening skills to understand what you are hearing Summarize and close the discussion
- 58. Test yourself… - answers 6. The steps of the STATE model for constructive feedback are: State the constructive purpose of your feedback Tell specifically what you have observed Address and describe your reactions Tender specific suggestions for improvement Express your support for the person 7. The the six aspects of non-verbal communication (body language): Face – expressions, smile, tilt of head Figure – posture, demeanor, gestures, dress Focus – eye contact Territory – use of space Tone – voice pitch, volume, emphasis Time – the use time