Intro To Conflict Styles
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There are five styles for responding to conflict based on the factors of how much attention is given to one's own agenda versus the relationship. The five styles are directing, harmonizing, avoiding, cooperating, and compromising. Each style has a different focus and strengths and weaknesses. Directing has a high focus on one's own agenda and low focus on relationships. Harmonizing has a low focus on agenda and high focus on relationships. Avoiding has low focus on both. Cooperating balances a high focus on both agenda and relationships. Compromising balances a medium focus on both. Being skilled in all five styles allows one to choose the most effective response for a given situation.
Intro To Conflict Styles
- 1. Introduction to Conflict StylesCopyright 2009 Riverhouse ePresswww.ConflictStyleMatters.com
- 2. Two factors strongly shape our choice of conflict style: How hard do we push for the things we want , our agenda?and…
- 3. How much attention do we give to the relationship?
- 4. Relationshipand own AgendaWhen we put the two factors together, we get five different styles of responding to conflict. Each has a different focus, and a unique set of strengths and weaknesses.
- 5. We’re doing it my way...Let’s just get the job done. (We’ll worry about the relationship later...)High focus on own agendaDIRECTINGFocus on own agenda: HighFocus on relationship: Low I win/you lose.How?Assert, control, compete.Insist, demand, defeat.Low focus on relationship
- 6. High focus on relationshipHARMONIZINGSure, I’m flexible .Whatever you’re happywith is fine with me....Focus on own agenda: LowFocus on relationship: High I lose/you win.How? Agree, go along, give in, affirm.Low focus on own agenda
- 7. Low focus on relationshipAVOIDINGLet me out of here…! I don’t want to talk about it…Conflict? What conflict?Focus on own agenda: LowFocus on relationship: LowI lose/you lose.How? Withdraw, remain silent, walk away,postpone discussion, delay responding.Low focus on own agenda
- 8. High focus on own agendaLet’s talk this through…My preference is…..And I want to hear and understand yours…..COOPERATINGFocus on own agenda: HighFocus on relationship: HighI win/you win.How? Dialogue.Agree to talk things through.Assert self and support the other.High focus on relationship
- 9. If we each back off and accept half of what we want, we can get an agreement and move on…COMPROMISINGFocus on own agenda: MediumFocus on relationship: MediumWe both win some/We both lose some.How?Bargain, strike a deal, find a little something for everyone.
- 10. “When the only tool you have is a hammer, everything you see is a nail.” Mark TwainEach style is a valuable tool , essential for situations all of us face. We handle conflict better when we are skilled in using all five styles.Then we can choose the response most likely to bring a good outcome.www.ConflictStyleMatters.com