Network Flirting2
- 1. Network Flirting“What’s Cookin Good Looking”Created By: Manwarjit Kaur
- 2. Online Is easierAll relationship begin with successful flirting. Do it online without using eye contact and body language.All you need is a computer and a membership at in online dating, social network.Easier to say “I Love You” online than face to face.
- 3. Facts….Over 67 million people (33%) across Europe, Middle East, Africa have found Love on the internet with 5 million relationships (7%) leading to marriage and a further 19 million (28%) resulting in long term partnership. More than half (55%) of Europeans have used IM to flirt with someone. Instant flirting by messenger is particularly prolific in Northern European countries.
- 4. Love is Only a click awayDo not try to go to fastSend email after you chatOoze confidenceHave fun and be light- hearted, funny and entertaining make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.Compliment her and do it often and sincerelyListen…listen..listen to what she says and ask appropriate question. Don’t be rude
- 5. Just because I flirt doesn’t meanI am interested
- 6. Flirting vs. RelationshipIs it dangerous? A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook , 1966
- 7. Falling In and OutYou used to think about your boy friend all the time, just seeing him would make your body quiver or you always wanted to grab a seat near him in the class. You dressed in a way to impress him, and loved it when he gave you a compliment. Whenever he would get absent from the class you would wonder where is he?! You get restless. And miss him all day long.But all of a sudden one fine day, you stop feeling all that, you don’t bother about any of these things. He goes out of your mind, now when you look at him there is no spark in your heart. You don’t even miss his presence; you don’t even bother to see his missed calls. These are some of the bitter signs that show you or your partner is falling out of love.
- 8. Emotional InfidelityM. Gary Neuman, psychologist and author of Emotional Infidelity, believes the answer is to eliminate same-sex friendships outside of marriage altogether. "My message is that if you want to infuse passion and have a buddy for the rest of your life, you have to keep that emotional content in your marriage. Otherwise, it's not going to happen."
- 9. Dr. Neuman's recommendations are a little extreme. Friendships and work relationships enrich our lives, and it is a lot to ask to expect one person to satisfy all of our emotional needs - in fact most of the time, it's too much.
- 10. Yet, many psychologists claim that it is emotional infidelity is to blame for the most destructive effects of unfaithfulness, regardless of whether it is accompanied by a physical event. Intimacy with someone who is not your partner is what begins the spiral of loneliness, detachment and dissatisfaction that results in sexual affairs and divorce. Fantasy…It takes a certain level of deception to act out a fantasy in the real world, but what's the harm in a little online flirting? Evidently, it's considerable.
- 11. At a convention of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, two thirds ofthe attorneys surveyed cited the Internet as major causes in divorce cases over the previous 12 months.Most of these were related to seemingly innocuous indiscretions in chat rooms, emails or instant messenger programs.
- 12. For the most part, these are not people who would walk into a bar and pick up a stranger, or necessarily even contemplate a physical affair (though some Internet relationships do end up that way).
- 13. So why is cyberspace so alluring to the otherwise faithful?faithful?
- 14. Harmful or notAccording to Kimberly S. Young, co-author of Cybersex and Infidelity Online: Implications for Evaluation and Treatment, it's the very illusion of harmlessness that makes the Internet so dangerous to relationships. "Cyberspace creates a cultural climate of permissiveness that actually serves to encourage and validate sexually adulterous and promiscuous online behavior." Young blames "virtual adultery" on three attributes common to online flirtation: anonymity, convenience and escapism.
- 15. Harmful or notThere are other contributing factors that make it easier to cross that line online.When you feel yourself attracted to someone outside your relationship in the real world, there are steps you can take to avoid temptation. Your conversation is almost always private, and whether or not the content is flirtatious, privacy by its very nature cultivates intimacy. Also, since there's no real way to involve your partner in your meetings, online meetings tend to naturally foster secrecy. It's all too easy for an innocent, anonymous friendship to cross into dangerous territory.
- 16. Know ThyselfPerhaps a more important question is why you are seeking contact outside your relationship in the first place.What is it you are getting (or looking for) that you're not getting from your partner, and is that indicative of an underlying problem in your relationship. What is it you can discuss with faceless handles in cyberspace that you can't face with your loved one?
- 17. It’s dangerousThe total and instant access the Internet provides offers a tempting alternative to working on a struggling relationship. The tragedy is, the people at the other end of the computer aren't real. Sure, there is someone somewhere typing, but even if they have never committed a deliberate deception, it is impossible to be your true self while looking for distant connections under the guise of an alphanumeric chat handle.Granted, the Internet also provides instant, private access to people we know in the real world, but that comes with its own set of obvious dangers.
- 18. The SolutionIf there is weakness in your current relationship, try spending your energy dealing with that, rather than looking to other sources. If it isn't going to work out, it should come to an end before you begin something else anyway. Otherwise, you'll never completely escape the cycle of deception. And if you truly believe your Internet activity is pure, that you are immune to the temptations both within yourself and posed by others - beware. Even when online contact doesn't lead to sexual contact, even if your instant messages are completely free of subtext, emotional intimacy with those outside your relationship can be intimacy you are denying your partner. Be careful not to deprive your relationship of the emotional investment it needs to stay alive in the real world.
- 19. Remember, in every dark days…
- 20. There always be the bright site…
- 22. Love What is Love…..Love is to love someone For who they are, who they were and who they will be.