Preview - Hidden Pearls : Opportunities in Problems
- 2. Hidden Pearls Opportunities in Problems Anshuman Sharma
- 3. Copyright ©2012 Anshuman Sharma All Rights Reserved ISBN: 978-1-105-87726-1
- 4. Dedication To my brother Piyush Sharma
- 5. CONTENTS Introduction Event 1 – Lost the Job Event 2 - Not Able to Get a Job Event 3 – Harassment in Job Event 4 – “I am in a job which I do not like” Event 5 – Failure in Exam Event 6 – Poor Marks in Examination Event 7 – Failure in Competitive Examination Event 8 – Weak Performance at Work Event 9 – Lack of Skills for a Job Event 10 - Broken Relationships Event 11 – Cracks in Relationship Event 12 – Missing Happiness from Life Event 13 - Weak and Unfit Body Event 14 – Unsatisfactory Earning Event 15 – Failure in Business Event 16 – Sluggish Business Event 17 – Trapped in Debt Event 18 – Feeling of Guilt Event 19 – Bad Experiences Event 20 - Undesired Personality Event 21 – Unattractive Looks Event 22 – Bad Character Event 23 - Addiction Event 24 – Unable to Work Hard Event 25 – Poor Concentration Event 26 - Jealousy Event 27 – Hate for Others Event 28 - Not Loved Back Event 29 - Influence of Bad Beliefs
- 6. Event 30 - Unsurpassable Barrier Event 31 – Lack of Desired Results Event 32 – “I am a Loser” Event 33 - Peer Pressure Event 34 – Devoid of Luxury Event 35 - Death Event 36 - Handicap Event 37- Monitory Loss Event 38 - Deceived Event 39 - Slow Learner Event 40 - Repeating the Mistakes Event 41 - Not Able to Get Success Event 42 - Alone Event 43 - Poverty Event 44 - Living in a Poor Country Event 45 - Fear of Something Event 46 - Lost Something You Love Event 47 - Desire for a Normal Life Event 48 - Unlucky Event 49 - No Peace of Mind Event 50 - I am Hated Event 51 - I Dislike Climate Event 52 - Monday Blues Event 53 - Long Days and Weeks Event 54 - Unbalanced Personal and Professional Life Event 55 - No Options Event 56 - No Opportunities Event 57 - Accident Event 58 - Lack of Excitement Event 59 - No Time for Myself Event 60 - Others Control Me Event 61 - Luckless Event 62 - Hopelessness
- 7. Event 63 - Not Responsible Event 64 - Resolutions Not Kept Event 65 - Do Not Feel Happy in Life Event 66 - “I Should Have” Event 67 - Laziness Event 68 - No Connection with God Event 69 - Punished by God Event 70 - Not an Achiever Event 71 - I Want to be Genuine Event 72 - I Want to be Trusted Event 73 - I Hide Many Secrets About Author
- 8. Introduction Humans are different from animals mainly because of their ability to think. The thinking process and actions taken by individuals create the difference in the lives of two humans. An unsuccessful person claims the problems in his life as the main culprit, while a successful person would use same problems to get success and happiness in life. We see successful human beings in offices, society and markets. They are considered successful because of their achievements, money they possess, power they wield or confidence they radiate. Most people want to be like them and wish for their luck, without understanding the real difference between them and others. The definition of success is different for every individual, some consider peace of mind as success for others money is important, some find more time with family as bliss while others want to travel. A successful life doesn’t mean the life with money and power but a satisfactory, happy and positive life. A person can be unsuccessful even after having all amenities of life and being surrounded by yes men. Researchers have done extensive analysis to find the difference between successful and unsuccessful persons. Looking at all the aspects, the only difference which could be found is the perception of happenings in life. For an unsuccessful person life is full of negativities and problems. Every event is perceived in the most negative form, which put pressure on life and body. They get stress and are unable to think straight about the problem. Even for simple problems they are not able to find solutions and take actions. Even when opportunities arrive they are not able to get the benefits of them as they are too busy with their problems. An unsuccessful person would look at all negative aspects of events in life while a successful person would look at the same events in completely different way, he would see all positives in it, and few people may even find opportunities in it. For a successful person all happenings in life are events. All facts of the event are analyzed and understood, which are then looked in positive and empowering ways. Even the extreme negative cases are viewed positively to get least affected by them, instead learn from those events. This habit of successful and happy people makes them optimistic in life, which allows them to take the maximum advantage of the situation to get success. This book looks at some events of life and tries to view them in optimistic ways. I interacted with a large number of successful people to look for their secrets. In most of the cases I found the similar ways of
- 9. perceiving the events of their life. These events are neither good nor bad; they are just events, open to an empowering or a negative perception. What we describe here are a number of events and right way of perceiving them. The process of rightly perceiving any event is extremely simple, which would require a consciously created optimistic thinking process. Our mind tends to look at most of the happenings of life in passive ways. We need to train our mind with right statements and questions to feel positive and in control of the situation. This book covers a number of such events followed by empowering statements and questions to focus on the positive side of each event. This diversion of attention would help you to protect yourself from any harm which the event can cause, instead use it as a learning platform to make you successful in life. Most of you would be familiar with these events, which are generally termed as problems. You can read them, one at a time, while grasping the thinking process of successful people. You can also use them during challenging times, understand the event and find ways to perceive them, rightly.
- 10. Event 1 – Lost the Job Points to Consider 1. What is my ambition or dream in life? With the present facts what is the best way to achieve it? 2. How other successful people used this event to change the course of their life? How the similar events acted like an opportunity for them? 3. How can this event be an opportunity in my life? 4. What is my learning from this event? How can I use this learning to act better in future? 5. What are my immediate targets? What actions I need to take now to get those targets? 6. What are the risks I need to be careful of and what actions I should take to protect myself from any potential problems? 7. What I need to be to get success? What actions I need to take now?
- 11. Event 2 - Not Able to Get a Job Points to Consider 1. What I want in my life? How this event could help me to get my dreams? 2. What are the main areas which can help me to fulfill my ambition? How can I use them to get immediate success? 3. How other successful people used similar event in their life to move in the right direction? Am I doing right things? Is there anything missing which can help me to get success? 4. What other skills do I have which can help me to earn and build a better career? 5. What I need to be to enjoy the process? What actions I need to take now?