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Productive
Networking
Creating
Relationship
Capital When
Networking Feels
Like a Challenge
Derek Jones
Reality is built from ideas - but
Most people have that backwards
Richard Bandler
Benefits of
Your Network
Information
Ideas
Opportunities
Financial Capital
Power & Influence
Emotional Support
Goodwill
Cooperation & Trust
MORE FUN!!
You Know You
Want to..
You Know
You Should..
But Many Feel There
are Barriers to
Networking
The Myth of Individuality
Conditioned Behaviour
Lack of Trust in Others
Attitudes & Beliefs
Ethics
Don’t Know How!
It Just Feels Uncomfortable
It May Feel Difficult..
Be - cause ..of
The Barriers To
Progress May Seem
Great..
But they are really “wafer thin”
and they are just based on a
personal view of the world that is
holding you back.
Just noticing and acknowledging
this is enough to start a process
of positive change if you have the
desire
“State” Management
Adopt a
Higher Performance
“State of Mind”
•The State or Mind Set You Need
Changes With the Situation but Must
be Authentic
•Starts With Self-Awareness
•People Can Sense What You Stand
For
•Your “State” Absolutely Determines
your Behaviour
•Your Behaviour Impacts on Your
Results
Assumptions
about our value
shape our
thoughts and can
help or hinder our
desire to reach
out to others
All my life I
wanted to be
someone..
I guess I should
have been more
specific
Wake up and
smell the roses
the clearer you are about who
you are, what you want, what you
have to offer..
and the more you like yourself,
the easier it will be to develop
your network
Selling
Yourself
The 4S Pitch
Keep it..
Simple - How would you describe
yourself in a few words?
Singular - Being unique
Sincere - From the Heart!
Symbolic - Tell as a story
Think about
“Brand You”
What is it you
stand for?
Craft your 8 word personal
position statement
Notice if you tend
to hallucinate
things like..
“they can see
straight through me
to the sham of a
human being I
really am”
..and find that its
not true.
You Need Motivation
and this comes from
within..
Find Your Reason to Act
Here is my reason..
A Wise Man Asked
“What do you have left
when all of your money is
gone”
Your self-belief..
Your network..
YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS
Your Relationships
are a Source of Wealth
Relationship Capital
Relationships are what
you have left when all
your money is gone
in 1990
• $3.5 Billion in Business Debt
• $900 Million in Personal Debt
in 2005
• Net Worth of + $2.7 Billion
What makes a
man wealthy?
Real wealth is..
not how much money
you have.
Your Best
Contacts?
Jot down the names of
your 10 best contacts
When You Really Think
About it..
“Best” is a meaningless term in
thinking of your contacts.
We can’t judge them.
It’s situation dependent.
We don’t know who they know!
So Think of the 10 People You Often
Turn to or Associate With
Network
Analysis
Notice what type of “groups”
your 10 contacts belong to - are
they all family? in your town? in
your industry?
Draw yourself in the centre
Draw the 10 around you
Connect those that know each
other with lines on the drawing
Network
Analysis
if all your ten know each other
you have a “Closed” network.
If non of your ten know each
other you have an “open”
network
Remember that it’s the connections of your
connections that often make the difference
Strength of
Weak Ties
Close friends in a closed
network might be motivated
to help - but often only have
similar information and ideas
Friends of friends may not be
as motivated to help - but will
often do so because it is not
costly for them & sources of
information are different &
diverse
Network
Goals
•Size of your Network Matters
but not in an ABSOLUTE Sense-
Effective size is what counts
•Density of your Network - ideally
Entrepreneurial and Open
rather than Closed
•Focus - Work, Family, Global?
Strive for a mix
•Is the Network Diversity High?
- What Gender, Age, Location,
Educational background?
It’s called Relationship
Capital
Because you Build it Up
over Time by Being
Willing to Give
Don’t forget though..
For there to be Givers
There must also be
Receivers
It’s OK to Receive!
Life
Cycle
Steps to
Mastery
Build your network before you
need it
Reciprocity
Check your Intention - Who
Cares Wins!
Embrace Novelty & Variety in
your Network
Can Never Know Who Counts
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Less Technique - More Caring
What can I
do now?

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Productive Networking When it Feels Like a Challenge

  • 1. Productive Networking Creating Relationship Capital When Networking Feels Like a Challenge Derek Jones Reality is built from ideas - but Most people have that backwards Richard Bandler
  • 2. Benefits of Your Network Information Ideas Opportunities Financial Capital Power & Influence Emotional Support Goodwill Cooperation & Trust MORE FUN!! You Know You Want to.. You Know You Should..
  • 3. But Many Feel There are Barriers to Networking The Myth of Individuality Conditioned Behaviour Lack of Trust in Others Attitudes & Beliefs Ethics Don’t Know How! It Just Feels Uncomfortable It May Feel Difficult.. Be - cause ..of
  • 4. The Barriers To Progress May Seem Great.. But they are really “wafer thin” and they are just based on a personal view of the world that is holding you back. Just noticing and acknowledging this is enough to start a process of positive change if you have the desire
  • 5. “State” Management Adopt a Higher Performance “State of Mind” •The State or Mind Set You Need Changes With the Situation but Must be Authentic •Starts With Self-Awareness •People Can Sense What You Stand For •Your “State” Absolutely Determines your Behaviour •Your Behaviour Impacts on Your Results
  • 6. Assumptions about our value shape our thoughts and can help or hinder our desire to reach out to others All my life I wanted to be someone.. I guess I should have been more specific
  • 7. Wake up and smell the roses the clearer you are about who you are, what you want, what you have to offer.. and the more you like yourself, the easier it will be to develop your network
  • 8. Selling Yourself The 4S Pitch Keep it.. Simple - How would you describe yourself in a few words? Singular - Being unique Sincere - From the Heart! Symbolic - Tell as a story
  • 9. Think about “Brand You” What is it you stand for? Craft your 8 word personal position statement Notice if you tend to hallucinate things like.. “they can see straight through me to the sham of a human being I really am” ..and find that its not true.
  • 10. You Need Motivation and this comes from within.. Find Your Reason to Act
  • 11. Here is my reason..
  • 12. A Wise Man Asked “What do you have left when all of your money is gone”
  • 14. Your Relationships are a Source of Wealth Relationship Capital
  • 15. Relationships are what you have left when all your money is gone in 1990 • $3.5 Billion in Business Debt • $900 Million in Personal Debt in 2005 • Net Worth of + $2.7 Billion What makes a man wealthy? Real wealth is.. not how much money you have.
  • 16. Your Best Contacts? Jot down the names of your 10 best contacts
  • 17. When You Really Think About it.. “Best” is a meaningless term in thinking of your contacts. We can’t judge them. It’s situation dependent. We don’t know who they know! So Think of the 10 People You Often Turn to or Associate With
  • 18. Network Analysis Notice what type of “groups” your 10 contacts belong to - are they all family? in your town? in your industry? Draw yourself in the centre Draw the 10 around you Connect those that know each other with lines on the drawing
  • 19. Network Analysis if all your ten know each other you have a “Closed” network. If non of your ten know each other you have an “open” network Remember that it’s the connections of your connections that often make the difference
  • 20. Strength of Weak Ties Close friends in a closed network might be motivated to help - but often only have similar information and ideas Friends of friends may not be as motivated to help - but will often do so because it is not costly for them & sources of information are different & diverse
  • 21. Network Goals •Size of your Network Matters but not in an ABSOLUTE Sense- Effective size is what counts •Density of your Network - ideally Entrepreneurial and Open rather than Closed •Focus - Work, Family, Global? Strive for a mix •Is the Network Diversity High? - What Gender, Age, Location, Educational background?
  • 22. It’s called Relationship Capital Because you Build it Up over Time by Being Willing to Give
  • 23. Don’t forget though.. For there to be Givers There must also be Receivers It’s OK to Receive! Life Cycle
  • 24. Steps to Mastery Build your network before you need it Reciprocity Check your Intention - Who Cares Wins! Embrace Novelty & Variety in your Network Can Never Know Who Counts Be Impeccable With Your Word Less Technique - More Caring What can I do now?