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Relationships:
The Heart of Development and Learning
National Infant & Toddler Child Care Initiative
U.S. Department of
Health and Human Services
Administration for Children and Families
L E A R N I N G O B J E C T I V E S
The purpose of this module is to strengthen the content base on
infants and
toddlers for consultants working in child care settings.
Upon completing this module, child care consultants will be
able to:
• Discuss the centrality of relationships in infant/toddler
development.
• Describe the impact of relationships on a child’s
social/emotional
development and learning.
o Describe how interactions form the foundation of infant
development.

o Describe the importance of caregiver/child relationships to
child
development and learning.
o Describe the impact of positive caregiver/parent relationships
on
healthy child development.
• Describe key concepts of relationship-based practices in
child care settings
that impact the social/emotional development of infants and
toddlers.
o Describe caregiver/child interactions that promote healthy
development.
o Demonstrate ability to coach a director or caregiver on the
concept
of responsive caregiving.
o Describe the concepts of continuity of care and primary
caregiving
as they apply to social/emotional development and
infant/toddler
child care.
o Describe what is meant by the parallel process, including the
child
care consultant’s relationship with the director or caregiver.
• Identify resources for programs or caregivers working
with infants and
toddlers.
Relationships at the Heart of Development and Learning

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Relationships As The Context
For Development
INTRODUCTION
The purpose of this module is to provide consultants with an
understanding of how relationships contribute and support
development and learning in infants
and toddlers. The module includes information on:
• The role of positive relationships
• Theories of psychosocial development
• An overview of attachment relationships
• Key relationships that support development
WHAT THE CHILD CARE CONSULTANT SHOULD KNOW
The Centrality of Relationships in Infant/Toddler Development
The first 3 years of life are a time of amazing developmental
progress. During this period, infants evolve from dependent
newborns to toddlers
capable of climbing on cabinets, using language to assert their
wants and needs,
and controlling impulses when they use “soft touches” with a
new puppy. The
learning that leads to this remarkable development occurs as
babies gaze, roll,

crawl, and toddle through their environments, enveloped in
supportive, nurturing
relationships. For example:
• A very young infant learns that crying communicates her
hunger
when her mother responds by nestling her into her breast.
• A toddler learns to say “Book!” when he crawls into the
comfortable
lap of a trusted caregiver and hears, “You have a book! You
want me
to read to you. Let’s see what Pooh is up to today…”
• A timid 2-year-old learns that an unfamiliar adult can be
trusted
when a look at her father’s smiling face tells her he knows and
likes
this person.
As these scenarios suggest, interactions between infants and
caregivers are the
basis of children’s learning and development across
developmental domains.
From the earliest moments when infants experience the warmth
and closeness
of being held while being fed, the interplay of relationships and
development
begins. Over time, and with repetition, the relationship evolves
through ongoing
“All learning
takes place in
the context of

relationships
and is critically
affected by the
quality of those
relationships.”
(Norman-Murch,
1999, p. 2)
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interactions between the child and his caregiver. The
relationships formed
with significant primary caregivers become the core context for
the child’s
development—the “nurture” part of the nature/nurture balance
that ultimately
defines whom the child is to become. Siegel (1999) states that
“human
connections shape the neural connections from which the mind
emerges” (p. 2).
Early Development Occurs Through Relationships
Infant development has been described as transactional
(Sameroff, 1993;
Sameroff & Fiese, 2000) or as a “serve and return” process.
That is, the

interactions between infant and caregiver are recognized to have
a significant
influence on the developmental course of the child. An infant
who smiles and
gets snuggled in return has received positive reinforcement and
will smile again,
inviting additional nurturing responses from her caregiver. In
such interactions,
both the child and caregiver are seen as active partners in the
exchange, with this
“dance of intimacy” viewed as mutually reinforcing to both the
infant and the
caregiver. Over time, these interactions offer comfort and
predictability for both
caregiver and child, forming the basis of a nurturing, reciprocal
relationship.
An important factor in these interactions is that the infant and
the caregiver
are active partners in and contribute to the transaction. Both the
child’s and
the adult’s personal characteristics play a role in the quality of
the interactions.
Research has found that infants have “preprogrammed” social
and emotional
TABLE 1
A TemperAmenT primer
Thomas & Chessa Program for Infant/ Toddler
Caregivers (PITC)b
Description
Easy Flexible Child is regular in biological rhythms, adaptable,

approachable, generally positive in mood of mild
intensity
Difficult Feisty Child is irregular in feeding and sleep
schedules, not
easily adaptable, withdrawing, negative, intense
Slow to warm-up Fearful Child is low in activity, withdrawing
in new
situations, slow to adapt, mild in intensity, shy
a (Chess, 1990)
b (Lally, 1993)
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abilities that invite and engage adult interaction (Kalmanson &
Seligman, 1992),
such as a preference for human faces and the ability to
recognize and turn to the
familiar voices of their parents.
A child’s unique personal characteristics also affect interactions
and the
development of relationships. For example, the child’s
temperament
(see Table 1) may affect how she engages with her caregiver. A
child
with an easy temperament may engage quickly and invite
positive
interaction on the part of her caregiver, whereas a child with a
difficult
or feisty temperament may invite less positive engagement. The
effect of temperament on development, however, is dependent

on the
characteristics of both child and adult, and is largely defined by
the
“goodness of fit” (Thomas & Chess, 1977) between the two. A
good
match supports the relationship and optimal development.
In addition to temperament, the presence of a developmental
disability
or special need can affect adult/child interactions. For example,
an infant
with Down’s syndrome may have a flat affect, resulting in
behavioral cues
that are quite subtle and therefore more difficult for the
caregiver to read.
From a transactional perspective, this can lead to reduced
engagement
from his parent1 or caregiver—a circumstance that can result in
fewer
interactions for a child who actually needs more responsive
attention to
make developmental gains. In a similar manner, the motor
delays often found in
cerebral palsy may limit a child’s ability to initiate an exchange
with or respond
to his caregiver. This also has the potential to lead to an overall
reduction in
caregiver/child interactions.
Just as infants bring characteristics to the relationship that may
enhance or hinder
the quality of the interactions, adults also bring their own
unique traits to the
exchange. Adult factors that have the potential to negatively
affect transactions

between parent and infant include such issues as mental health
status (especially
depression in the primary caregiver), substance abuse, domestic
violence, a lack
of resources and support, and the adult’s own attachment model.
The family’s culture also plays a significant role in parent/child
interactions. The
intimate work of raising babies is largely influenced by culture.
Many aspects of
infant/toddler care and interaction vary significantly between
different cultures.
Examples of practices closely tied to a family’s culture include
many that are
related to infant/toddler development and learning, such as:
• Feeding and nutrition,
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1 In this document, the term “parent” is inclusive of all who fill
the primary role of parenting, in-
cluding biological parents, grandparents or other family
members, foster, step, or legal guardians.
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• Sleep patterns and arrangements,
• Positioning of the infant or toddler,
• Use of language and the parent and child role in
communication,
• Values, goals, and priorities related to child development,
and
• The role of extended family networks.
The Development of Positive Relationships
Relationships are a critical component of a young child’s
social/emotional
development. The following sections provide an overview of
critical aspects of
development that emerge in infancy, and are dependent on
relationships.

Psychosocial Development in the First 3 Years: A Look at
Theories
An infant learns to trust others through the growing
predictability of
caregiver/child interactions and the emerging relationship
between them.
According to Erikson (1965), the development of trust is an
essential
step in healthy development. Erikson viewed psychosocial
development
as a series of crises or conflicts that a person resolves in
response
to interpersonal experiences at each stage. Erikson believed that
the
resolution of these conflicts have significant impact on the
child’s sense of
self. Two of these stages occur in the years from birth to 3 (see
Table 2),
laying the foundation for the resolution of the conflicts that
occur later.
TABLE 2
Age erikson’s psychosociAl sTAges 1 And 2
Birth to 1 year Trust vs. Mistrust
When a child experiences warm, responsive care, he will learn
that the world is
dependable and good. He learns to trust his significant
caregiver(s).
If a child experiences harsh interactions, or receives care that is
not responsive to his
needs he learns to mistrust his caregiver(s).
1 to 3 years Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt

As motor, cognitive, and language skills develop, the child
gains the capacity to make
choices and act with increasing independence. Autonomy is
nurtured when caregivers
respect a child’s emerging independence and exploration
(within reasonable limits) and
provide opportunities for this important aspect of growth during
a period of incredible
change.
A child who is forced or shamed in her attempts to exercise new
skills may emerge
from this conflict with a sense of shame or doubt, rather than
autonomy.
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Erikson describes the first psychosocial conflict as the
development of
trust or mistrust. A child who experiences warm, responsive
interactions
attuned to his own actions or needs will begin to trust his
caregiver and
will subsequently apply his expectation of predictability and
trust to later
relationships.
The reverse scenario is also possible. A child
who smiles but is ignored does not experience
a response to his behavior and subsequently
does not learn that smiling (or cooing, or other
communicative bids) will bring a comforting
exchange. This child may eventually stop
smiling to invite interactions and may learn to
mistrust his caregiver as a source of comfort. A

child who experiences unpredictable responses
or caregiver actions unrelated to his needs or
his own communicative bids—a relationship in
which the “dance of intimacy” is harsh or out of
sync—learns to mistrust others in relationships.
Erikson’s second stage is one in which the resolution of the
conflict is
the emergence of either a sense of autonomy or feelings of
shame and
doubt. The resolution at this stage is dependent on the
development of
the child’s capacities and skills across domains, in the context
of his
relationship(s) with key caregivers. A child whose physical
development
allows exploration of his environment or objects, and whose
cognitive
development allows success, stimulation, or discovery in the
process
will gain autonomy from these experiences. If a child is
restricted in his
activities or learns that exploration of space or objects is not
allowed or is
“wrong,” his resolution of this conflict can result in a sense of
shame and
doubt. Culture is an important consideration in this stage of
development,
as different cultures may place different values on the
development of
autonomy.
For each of Erikson’s psychosocial stages, the resolution of the
conflict
is dependent on the significant primary relationships in which
the child

is engaged. A key aspect of Erikson’s theory is that the
resolution that
occurs in one stage of development is carried forward to the
conflict that is
met in the next stage. As children emerge from these stages
with positive
resolution to the conflicts, they are better prepared to address
the conflict
of the next stage or to interact with others and their
environment in ways
that support and promote healthy development.
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Attachment Relationships
The emergence of attachments between infants and primary
caregivers is
also considered fundamental to a child’s development (Bowlby,
1969). A
central premise of attachment is that “virtually all infants
develop close
emotional bonds, or attachments, to those who regularly care for
them in
the early years of life” (National Research Council, 2000, p.
230), and that
these attachments have a significant impact on development.
Attachment
relationships are described as “secure” or “insecure” depending
on the
nature and consistency of interactions between the child and his
primary
caregiver(s). A secure attachment occurs when the child
perceives “the
attachment figure as available and responsive when needed”
(Cassidy,
1999, p.7) and provides a base from which the child is able to
explore his
environment and manage stress.
Awareness of the importance of attachment relationships is
critical for
parents and caregivers of infants and toddlers. According to
attachment
theory, the attachment model established with primary
caregivers during

the earliest years becomes the child’s “working model” for the
formation
of future relationships (Thompson, 1999). Thus, the nature of a
child’s
early relationships has long-lasting implications for
relationships, learning,
and development over time.
There is evidence that infants develop multiple attachments,
typically with
those who are most responsive and interactive with the infant
(Cassidy,
1999), and that attachment relationships are specific to the
caregiver
(National Research Council, 2000, p. 235). Criteria for the
development
of attachment relationships include: “1.) the provision of
physical and
emotional care; 2.) continuity or consistency in a child’s life;
and 3.)
emotional investment in the child” (Howes, 1999, p. 673).
These criteria
indicate that infants may form attachment relationships with
caregivers in
child care settings.
The awareness that child care providers may be identified as
attachment
figures heightens the importance of the relationship between the
child
and the caregiver. Kalmanson & Seligman (1992) state that
“relationships
are the organizing focus of all early development” (p. 47). If
the
relationship is nurturing and positive, the child will seek out
and respond

to the caregiver in ways that further her experience and
contribute
positively to her development. If the relationship is consistently
harsh and
unpredictable, the child may seek to avoid interactions with her
caregiver,
thus restricting opportunities to interact and learn from and
through the
relationship.
A secure
attachment
occurs when the
child perceives
“the attachment
figure as
available and
responsive when
needed”
(Cassidy, 1999,
p.7)
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Additional Theories Highlighting the Influence of
Relationships on
Development and Learning
Both Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development and
Bowlby’s
attachment theory focus primarily on the importance of
relationships in
social and emotional development, with implications for
learning in other
domains. In contrast, other theorists discuss interactions and
relationships
as the context for development and learning across domains.
Bronfenbrenner’s ecological theory identifies “interpersonal
relations”
(1979, p. 22) as a key element in the context for human
development. He
also identifies the interrelations among the child’s primary
environments
(such as home and child care) as having an important influence
on development. The idea that interrelations across settings
affect
child development supports the importance of maintaining
effective
relationships between the child care setting and the family.
In sociocultural theory, Vygotsky (1978) proposes that
development is the
result of dynamic interaction with the child’s social and cultural
context.
He believed that learning is embedded within social
interactions. A child is
guided through everyday experiences by those who are more
experienced,
such as parents, caregivers, siblings and peers. Vygotsky

emphasized
that the learning that occurs through social interaction is
transmitted and
constructed through the context of culture.
Greenspan views “emotional experience as the foundation of
intelligence”
(1997, p. 38). He describes six developmental levels of the mind
that
show the primacy of interactions and relationships in both
emotional and
cognitive development. In Greenspan’s theory, interactions with
significant
adults (parents or other primary caregivers) lay the foundation
for the
development of relationships, intentionality, purpose and
interactions. This
progression is foundational to the development of the child’s
symbolic and
emotional self. In short, Greenspan views interactions and
relationships as
the basis of emotional and cognitive development.
While these descriptions are not intended to lead to a full
understanding of
the theories, they are included as points of reference for
consultants, and to
highlight the scope of developmental theories including
relationships and
interactions as the context of child development.
The Direct and Indirect Effects of Relationships
Relationships are central to the development and learning of
infants and toddlers
both directly and indirectly. At the level of direct transmission,

children learn
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from their interactions with parents and caregivers. For
example, cognitive and
language development occur when a child hears the word
“book” from a trusted
caregiver providing appropriate language modeling. Social
learning occurs when
a child references her parent’s affect in an unknown situation. A

preverbal child
watches, practices, and internalizes the conversational skill of
turn-taking through
the responsive interaction of an engaged adult playing Peek-a-
Boo.
However, not all learning occurs through the direct engagement
of parents and
caregivers with children. Young children learn much about their
world through
exploration of their environment. This critical aspect of a
child’s experience is
grounded in relationships through the avenue of attachment
security. The security
of a child’s attachment influences his approach to the world. He
may feel safe and
secure and approach his world with curiosity and engagement,
or he may remain
anxious, fearful, or withdrawn from the opportunities his
environment presents.
At this fundamental level a young child’s attachment model—
formed through his
relationships with primary caregivers—becomes a key element
in his exploration
of his environment.
In children with secure attachments, exploration of their world
stimulates
physical, cognitive, and social/emotional development,
providing an experience
base that supports learning and development. Children with
insecure attachments
are more likely to experience a reduced sense of security in
their environments,
with less exploration and engagement with people and objects.
According to the

National Research Council and Institute of Medicine,
Young children’s relationships with their primary caregivers
have a major impact on their cognitive, linguistic, emotional,
social, and moral development. These relationships are most
growth-promoting when they are warm, nurturing,
individualized,
responsive in a contingent and reciprocal manner, and
characterized by a high level of ‘goodness of fit.’
(National Research Council, 2000, p.341)
Regardless of the theoretical lens used to view infant/toddler
development and
learning, the relationships through which the infant or toddler
interacts with the
world and the people in it play a central role in setting the
course of the child’s
development across the lifespan.
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Because of the critical impact of relationships on development
across domains,
the status of an infant’s relationships with primary caregivers
becomes an
imperative interest for all concerned with the healthy
development of children.
Whether learning occurs directly from an adult model or
through curious
exploration, relationships are fundamental to the process.
Indeed, “human
relationships, and the effects of relationships on relationships,

are the building
blocks of healthy development” (National Research Council,
2000, p. 27).
Advancements in research technology now demonstrate “the
remarkable extent
to which nurturing environments and positive interactions build
healthy brain
architecture” (Friedman, 2006). In other words, relationships
don’t just support
development; they actively shape the architecture of the brain.
Interpersonal experiences directly influence how we mentally
construct reality. This shaping process occurs throughout life,
but is most crucial during the early years of childhood.
Patterns of relationships and emotional communication
affect the development of the brain.
(Siegel, 1999)
For these reasons, relationships are the heart of development
and learning. This
makes the role of caregivers especially critical to the
development of infants and
toddlers in out-of-home care.
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Key Relationships for Infants and Toddlers
The primary relationship for infants and toddlers is the
mother/child relationship. “The security of attachment between
a mother and her child
is more influential on early psychosocial growth than are the
relationships a
child has with other caregivers at home or outside the home”
(National Research
Council, 2000, p. 235). However, when an infant or toddler
spends time with one
or more caregivers other than a parent, these relationships also
have an impact
on the child’s development. Outside the home, the most obvious
of these is the
relationship that develops between the child care provider and
the child. Less
obvious, but also critical, is the caregiver/parent relationship.
The following
sections address each of these important relationships.
Parent/Child Relationships
The parent/child relationship is the core relationship supporting
a child’s
development. “Even when young children spend most of their
waking hours in
child care, parents remain the most influential adults in their
lives” (National
Research Council, 2000, p. 226). Both mothers and fathers play
a critical role,
with the emotional quality of each relationship having a distinct
impact on
development. It is through the parent/child relationship that
infants

begin to understand their world across all developmental
domains
(Parlakian & Seibel, 2002). Effective caregivers are aware of
and
observe the quality of each child’s primary relationships.
Although it is clear that nurturing, responsive relationships are
the
pathway for healthy child development, it is worthwhile to take
a
look at the many factors that can affect the parent/child
relationship.
As mentioned previously, child characteristics (such as
temperament
and level of engagement) contribute to the “dance” between
parent
and child. In addition to child characteristics, a number of
parental
factors have an impact on the nature of the parent/child
relationship.
For example, the relative economic stress or security of the
family, parental
mental health or depression, and marital conflict can all affect a
parent’s ability to
be attuned and responsive to a baby.
In addition, research has shown that the parent’s own
attachment classification has
a strong association with the security of the infant’s attachment
(George, Kaplan,
& Main, 1996; Hesse, 1999). This suggests that the parent’s
attachment model
(primarily established during his or her own early childhood)
has a significant
influence on his or her interactions with the infant. Another

deeply embedded
influence on the parent/child relationship can occur when
unresolved conflicts in
the parent’s own early history play out in his or her current
relationship with the
child. Described as “ghosts in the nursery” (Fraiberg, Adelson,
& Shapiro, 1975),
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these influences can have a significant effect on the parent’s
understanding of and
interactions with the child.
Caregiver/Child Relationships
According to the U.S. Department of Education (Iruka &
Carver, 2006)
approximately 6 million children under the age of 3 spend part
or all of their day
in care with someone other than their parents. The U.S. Census
Bureau reports
that 65% of all mothers return to work within the first year of
their child’s life
(2005). These statistics imply that many infants and toddlers are
cared for by
someone other than their mothers at a critical period of
development. Although
the parent/child relationship will remain the primary influence
on the child’s
sense of self and security (National Research Council, 2000, p.
235), it is also
true that “infants and toddlers in child care form attachment
relationships…with
their child care providers” (Howes, 1998).
This information presents a strong argument for the importance
of the
relationships that caregivers form with the children in their
care. Social/
emotional development occurring during this period lays the
foundation for
much of the later development the child will experience, and
care providers are

in a key position to affect these psychosocial milestones. It may
be important
for caregivers to reflect on their own attachment history and
interaction style
because it is possible for adults to inadvertently repeat patterns
of caregiving
from their own childhoods—even those they did not enjoy at the
time.
Reflection can lead to awareness of what caregivers bring from
their own
history to their current relationships, supporting the ability to
consciously choose
positive, responsive interactions as the basis of their
relationships with infants and
toddlers in their care.
Because child care providers lack the familial connection with
the infant that is
inherent in a parent/child relationship, it is particularly
important for caregivers to
remain aware of the child’s contribution to the bidirectional, or
“serve and return,”
nature of early relationships. This means that the relationship is
built on a series
of interactions in which the infant “serves” an interactive bid to
the caregiver, and
the responsive caregiver “returns” in kind.
In a child care setting with caregivers responsible for multiple
children, infants
and toddlers whose temperament or initial model of attachment
leads them to seek
engagement and interaction (or who offer more “serves”) may
command more
attention from caregivers than those who are less inclined to
seek interaction.

Children whose temperaments or previous relationship
experiences have led them
to expect less from interactions with others may, by their quiet,
undemanding
nature, “serve” less and therefore receive less attention.
Caregivers should be
aware of this possibility and seek to balance their attention
among all children,
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to assure that all infants and toddlers receive the responsive
interactions that will
nurture healthy development.
Parent/Caregiver Relationships
In his seminal work on the ecology of human development,
Bronfenbrenner
(1979) identified the “interrelations between two or more
settings” (p. 209) in
which an infant participates as a critical influence on the child’s
development.
This means that, in addition to the adult/child relationships, the
relationship
between the child care provider and the parent is also important
to the
developmental outcomes of the child.

A positive caregiver/parent relationship can enable several
important processes:
Continuity across settings for the child. A natural outcome of a
positive
caregiver/parent relationship is open and ongoing
communication.
Caregivers can openly share information about the child’s day
with the
parent, and the parent can share preferences, new milestones,
“what
works at home” tips, and so on with caregivers. This level of
functional
communication supports continuity across settings for the child,
which
makes her world more predictable and consistent.
Discontinuities may
also be revealed, for example, if the parent mentions spanking a
toddler
as a discipline strategy. In an effective parent/caregiver
relationship, such
comments may open the door for additional conversations with
parents
on discipline strategies that are used in the care setting—thus
promoting
continuity of effective practices.
Caregiver entrée to the parent/child relationship. A positive
caregiver/
parent relationship allows access to the parent/child relationship
in a way
that would not be available if relations between the caregiver
and parent
were strained or distant. Caregivers with concerns about the
development of
infants and toddlers in their care are open to and respond to

parent questions
about their child’s development. Caregivers can also observe
the parent/
child relationship when the parent is on-site and may take the
opportunity of
the “teachable moments” that occur when observations reveal
parent/child
interactions that need support. If the caregiver/parent
relationship is positive
and effective, the parent will be more likely to be open to
informal parent
education such as this.
The parallel process. Although not a simple concept, the idea of
the parallel
process is captured in Pawl’s lightly tweaked version of the
Golden Rule:
“Do unto others as you would have others do unto others” (Pawl
& St. John,
1998, p. 7). This statement implies that feelings and interactions
from one
relationship can be carried forward to another relationship. As it
applies
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to work in early childhood, this concept of parallel process
means that the
relationship between caregiver and parent has bearing on the
parent/child
relationship. If the goal of early childhood professionals is for
infants and
toddlers to be nurtured through effective, healthy parent/child
relationships,
one contributor to that outcome would be for parents to also be
“held”
in nurturing, effective relationships with the providers caring
for their
children. Through effective support of parents in their role as
nurturers and
caregivers, providers—through the parallel process—contribute
to the well-
being of young children.
Strengthening families. As described by the Center for the
Study of
Social Policy (CSSP) (2007), child care programs implementing
strategies
that strengthen families have been shown to reduce child abuse

and
neglect among the families participating in their programs. In
the CSSP
Strengthening Families through Early Care and Education
approach, many
of the strategies are grounded in effective relationships between
parents and
child care providers. For example, research has shown that
strengthening
parenting through parent education, or demonstrating value and
support
for families results in a reduction in child abuse and neglect.
These
strategies are effective only within the context of a positive
parent/caregiver
relationship.
Child care consultants should be aware that it is possible for
parent/caregiver
relationships to err in the direction of extending beyond
professional interactions
and becoming inappropriately personal. The National
Association for the
Education of Young Children’s (NAEYC) Code of Ethical
Conduct, available
at http://www.naeyc.org/about/positions/ethical_conduct.asp,
provides a
professional framework for establishing close and supportive
relationships while
maintaining appropriate boundaries. Front-line caregivers with
little training or
experience may lack awareness of the distinction between being
a “friend” to
parents and maintaining a relationship that is built around
supporting the child’s
development.

Caregiver/Caregiver Relationships
Infants and toddlers are sensitive to the relationships of those
around them. This
means that the relationships between caregivers and other adults
in the child care
setting have an effect on the context of care and the children in
that environment.
An easy, responsive relationship between caregivers in a center
supports a
relaxed, emotionally safe environment. On the other hand,
tension between
caregivers in a room has a negative effect on the context of care
and can affect
a child’s sense of security and engagement. Child care
consultants observing
tension in a care room should work with center directors to
implement practices
that support healthy relationships among caregivers.
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Other Key Relationships
It is likely that additional important relationships will exist for
a child, depending
on family arrangements, values, and priorities. This
constellation of relationships
contributes to the context of the child’s development. Such
relationships may
include:
• Sibling relationships;

• Extended family relationships, depending on proximity
and frequency of
interaction;
• Grandparents, especially those playing a substantial role
in raising
grandchildren;
• Other service providers (e.g., if the infant or toddler has
special needs and
is enrolled in the Part C system, key relationships may exist
among the
child, family, and Individualized Family Service Plan team);
and
• Peer relationships within the child care setting.
A related consideration is the number of care arrangements in
which the child
participates. Many infants and toddlers experience multiple
caregivers to
accommodate the schedules of working parents. In this
situation, each setting
involves a unique and significant relationship for the child.
Caregivers working
with infants and toddlers should be aware
of all key relationships in the child/family
network, and of how those relationships
support the child’s development and
learning.
As a final note on the many configurations
of relationships surrounding an infant or
toddler, it is important to also recognize

the consultant/caregiver relationship.
The parallel process described above
also applies to this relationship. “As
the consultant respects, values, and
understands the consultee, the caregiver
in turn becomes better able to respect,
value and empathize with the experiences
of the children for whom she cares”
(Johnston & Brinamen, 2006). Reflective
self-assessment on the part of the consultant may contribute to
self-understanding
of this process (Parlakian & Seibel, 2007). The effectiveness of
the consultation
process is largely dependent on the consultant/consultee
relationship.
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WHAT THE CHILD CARE CONSULTANT SHOULD KNOW
Relationship-Based practices are those methods and approaches
used by early childhood professionals that support healthy child
development through
the context of nurturing relationships. A fundamental
consideration in such
practices is for all parties in the relationship to be open to
getting to know each
other as individuals, rather than beginning a relationship built
on assumptions and
stereotypes. Labels such as “parent,” “teacher,” “caregiver,”
and others in this
field come laden with stereotypes that can stand as barriers to
the development
of effective relationships. Seven principles define relationship-
based work
(Bertacchi, 1996):
Respect for the person. This includes acceptance of both the
strengths
and vulnerabilities of others. Across the program (e.g.,
caregivers to
parents, supervisors to staff) getting to know those with whom

one works
is critical, as respect can only be sincere through knowing and
accepting
what is known of the other.
Sensitivity to context. Relationship-Based work is built on the
principle
that the environments in which an infant, parent, or coworker
lives
and acts have an influence on, and are influenced by, each
person. This
concept encourages consideration of such influences in
interactions with
others.
Commitment to evolving growth and change. This principle
recognizes
that developing a relationship-based approach within an
organization will
require change and adaptation on the part of all within the
organization.
Mutuality of shared goals. At the level of the caregiver/parent
relationship, this principle highlights the positive outcomes that
can
occur when both partners in the relationship are mutually
invested in
shared goals. For example, if the parent is focused on potty
training, but
the caregiver does not feel the child is ready, the relationship
between
the parent and caregiver will be affected by this discrepancy.
However,
if parent and caregiver discuss and come to a mutual
compromise on
goals for the child, their shared purpose will positively support

the child’s
development.
Open communication. The process for open communication
works at
both the parent/caregiver level and throughout the organization.
Paths
of communication are open and accessible among staff,
supervisors, and
center administration.
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Commitment to reflecting on the work. This commitment
involves
setting aside adequate supervisory or reflection time so that the
front-line
staff have the opportunity to reflect on their relationships with
parents and
peers either individually or with their supervisor.
Setting standards for staff. In a relationship-based organization,
the
values and ethics of the organization are known, openly defined,
and
modeled by all within the organization.
In addition to these principles, child care programs can further
support
relationship-based practices by explicitly articulating important
program values
and policies. Routines and practices that allow caregiver
flexibility to attend to the
individual needs of children and those that welcome and
strengthen partnerships
with families will support important relationships. Policies that
affect the
relationship between the caregiver and the child or family are
also critical to this
effort. Child care programs should have well-defined policies
about these aspects
of care:
• Responsive caregiving,

• Continuity of care, and
• Assignment of a primary caregiver.
The following sections will discuss examples of good policies
related to these
concepts:
Responsive Caregiving
Responsive caregiving occurs when the caregiver observes the
infant carefully and bases his or her interactions or responses to
the infant on that child’s
cues. The three steps to the responsive process identified in the
Program for
Infant/Toddler Caregivers (Lally, 1993) are:
Watch – observe the child for verbal and nonverbal cues.
Ask – after observing the child, ask yourself what the child’s
cues mean.
Does the child want something at this point?
Adapt – base your response to the child on your observation and
interpretation of the child’s message.
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In responsive caregiving, caregiver interactions are contingent
on the child’s
actions or interactive bids and are therefore individualized.
Responsive care for
infants and toddlers “involves knowing each child and taking

cues from the child
and the group about when to expand on the child’s initiative,
when to guide, when
to teach, when to intervene—and when to watch, wait, and
applaud a child’s
efforts and eventual success” (Lally et al., 2003, p. 35).
Responsive caregivers
follow the child’s lead, rather than impose their actions on the
child without
consideration of the child’s focus. In the words of Pawl & St.
John (1998), the
principle is “Don’t just do something—stand there and pay
attention” (p. 7).
The National Research Council’s Eager to Learn (2001), a book
examining
school readiness and research on early childhood learning and
development,
identifies the quality of early childhood experiences as a key
component of later
school readiness. The authors conclude:
If there is a single critical component to quality, it rests in the
relationship between the child and the teacher/caregiver, and in
the ability of the adult to be responsive to the child. (pp. 20-
21.)
Although difficult to implement as a policy, the practice of
responsive caregiving
can be embedded as a value of the organization and supported
through staff
observation and reflection, defining responsive caregiving as a
job responsibility
on job descriptions, and subsequent evaluation on performance
reviews.

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Policies That
Promote and Affect Infant/Caregiver Relationships
Although responsive caregiving is a relationship-based practice
that lies within the skill set of the individual caregiver, there
are additional practices
that can be supported administratively through program
policies. Two such
practices include the implementation of policies that promote
continuity of care
and primary caregiver assignments.
Establishing a system of continuity of care means operating a
program so that
infants and toddlers experience as few transitions in caregivers
as possible during
their time with the program. The purpose of a continuity of care

policy is for the
infant or toddler to experience continuity over time in a child
care setting, thus
allowing the development of a longer-term relationship with the
care provider.
One practice that supports continuity of care is mixed-age
grouping. In this
practice, children ages birth to 3 are served in the same care
room (at the most
stringent staff-child ratio). In this situation, each child remains
with the same
caregiver throughout her first 3 years. Alternatively, programs
can maintain same-
age grouping but keep the caregivers with the same group of
children as they age
from the infant room to the toddler setting, and after. Because
infants and toddlers
form attachment relationships with care providers (Howes,
1998), their healthy
development is best served by minimizing the number of
relationship disruptions
they must experience.
Primary caregiving is a relationship-based practice that falls
within the concept
of continuity of care. Implementation of primary caregiving as a
program policy
requires that when an infant or toddler enters care, one
caregiver is designated as
primary for the child. This caregiver will, to the extent possible
and practical in
a group care setting, be the one to care for and respond to the
child’s needs. But
primary caregiving “does not mean that one person cares for an
infant or toddler
exclusively…” (Lally et al., 2003, p. 33); rather it means that

parents will know
who has primary responsibility for their child. Primary
caregiving assignments
support the development of the parent/caregiver relationship, as
well as providing
an optimal vehicle for communication between home and the
child care setting.
Program Challenges Related to Relationship-Based Policies
Although there is little argument that program values and
policies supporting a relationship-based approach are best
practice for infants and toddlers, the
reality is that these policies may be difficult to implement in
infant/toddler child
care. Barriers to successful implementation range from concrete
to attitudinal.
The principal challenge in the implementation of relationship-
based policies
is the very real issue of staff turnover in child care. Frequent
staff turnover
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implementing a
continuity of care policy. Some aspects of controllable turnover
may be addressed
by an organization’s taking a relationship-based approach,
because through this
approach staff members are likely to feel valued and welcomed,
and may develop
relationships that contribute to a positive work environment and
job satisfaction.
For some staff, these intangibles may serve as the reason to stay
in the field. For
many, however, the realities of long hours, demanding work,
and low wages often
tip the balance in favor of leaving. Given the reality of high
turnover, policies that
support continuity of care become even more critical, as they
can serve to reduce
unnecessary transitions for young infants and toddlers.

Although not as tangible as staff turnover, attitudinal barriers
can also offer
a significant challenge to programs implementing continuity of
care policies.
Responses such as “But, I only work with the 2’s!” or “We’ve
never worked that
way before, why should we start now?” can ultimately offer a
more significant a
challenge than staff turnover.
Finally, the fiscal implications of some relationship-based
practices may lead to
very real challenges in implementation. A primary example of
this is mixed-age
grouping in which 2-year-olds, who can typically be served in a
higher ratio than
infants, are kept at the lower infant/caregiver ratio to maintain
continuity for the
child. The availability of infant care offers a related challenge.
In most areas, the
need for infant/toddler care exceeds availability. Programs may
be forced to face a
decision between maintaining continuity for the children in care
and moving older
toddlers into larger groups to free up the much needed infant
slots.
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Outsourcing and Strategic Planning
Outsourcing is the strategy used when organizations contract
other organizations to provide a service. So, yes, outsourcing

can result in people losing their jobs. However, the reasons for
outsourcing varies, including lowering costs, improving quality,
gaining access to advanced technology or gaining access to
specialized expertise. And, outsourcing HR activities and
functions can be a part of an outsourcing strategy.
For an international organization, it may make perfect sense to
outsource HR activities. This allows an organization to rely on
specific expertise in locations where it conducts business. Think
about the variety of legal, regulatory, and compliance
environments that a global organization must abide by. It makes
sense to rely on local experts rather than manage these disparate
environments in-house.
One of the HR functions that might be outsourced includes the
financial, which would involves benefits, payroll, retirement
and pensions, etc. Additional functions include training, and
recruitment, onboarding, health and wellness programs, and
safety management and training. The myriad of activities and
know-how for managing these functions are reasons why
outsourcing HR is an attractive strategy—not just for an
international organization, but a domestic organization can also
benefit from an outsourcing strategy.
In spite of the sought-after benefits from outsourcing, the
strategy is not without its risks and limitations. Putting your
hands in another organization can be risky. What if they go
under? There is a risk that the expected gains in service may
result in poor service and customer complaints. Then, there are
security risks in outsourcing. These are just a few of the risks
inherent with the outsourcing strategy. Proper planning and
execution in the deployment of outsourcing can help avoid the
associated risks as an organization moves forward to the next
level of excellence.
Additional Materials
From your course textbook, Managing Employee Performance
and Reward (2nd ed.), read the following chapters:Performance
and reward basicsManaging for engagementStrategic alignment

Managing for results
From the South University Online Library, read the following
articles:Are You Ready to Outsource HR? Are You Ready to
Outsource Staffing? The Fine Art of Outsourcing
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Strategic Planning Process
When thinking of the best analogy for strategic planning that
organizations use to compete, we may use
chess to illustrate the methods used by executives to move their
organizations forward. Like chess,
strategies can be reactive or proactive. Strategies may be
reactive, such as when there are changes in
various environments: legal, economics, political, sociocultural,
competitive, etc. Strategies may be
proactive, such as when an organization enters new markets,
introduces new products/services, or
withdraws from competing within a specific industry. Just like
in chess, organizations make strategic moves
through a well-created and executed plan, the competition
contemplates how to react with their strategy,
and there is back and forth movement for advantage.
The strategic planning process requires thinking and planning
ahead. Good chess players do this—they
calculate their strategy depending upon how a game unfolds. If
the game is moving slowly, chess masters
focus on conceptual plans. When the game is more defensive, a

chess master will think ahead by several
moves.
You have to make strategic moves to win the game. There are
rules in the game and you can change the
rules, but that is not recommended. You start any game at the
beginning and follow a series of steps to
achieve a singular or set of results. You miss some steps and
you might lose some grounds that you did
not wish or plan to lose. The same idea applies to the strategic
planning process.
The basic rules for the strategic planning process includes the
following rules:
1. Understand your current environment (Assess)
2. Identify your resources—what is available to you to work
with? (Tools)
3. Recognize where you want or need to go (Goals)
4. Determine how you will get there (Path)
and Reward (2nd ed.), read the following
chapters:
Performance and reward basics
Managing for engagement
Strategic alignment

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From the Internet, read the following articles:
Forbes. (n.d). Five steps to a strategic plan. Retrieved from
http://www.forbes.com/sites/aileron/2011/10/25/five-steps-to-a-
strategic-plan/#4023692361af
Hitt, M.A., Ireland R.D., Hoskisson R.E. (2007). Strategic
management, competitiveness and globalization
concepts. Mason, OH: Thompson Higher Education. Retrieved
from
https://kafebisnis2010.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/strategic-
manag-concept-n-case-hitt-et-al.pdf
On Strategy. (n.d.). Essentials guide to strategic planning.
Retrieved from
http://onstrategyhq.com/resources/strategic-planning-process-
basics/
Local DiskSouth University
HRM Planning
HRM is the ongoing management of human resources in support
of an organization’s strategies and goals. It continues to evolve
and executives are now beginning to realize the impact it can
have on the bottom line. Therefore, executives are including a
place for HRM in their strategy.
Strategic HRM, then, increasingly provides direction at all
levels within an organization and all departments or divisions.
Again, the benefits and goals for this are that organizations

become better suited to meet their strategic goals. The nuts and
bolts of how this is accomplished is that HRM doesn’t only
include the management of people but also provides insight and
control over structure and design, communication, culture,
ethics, and organizational change. At many levels today, HRM
is involved with recruiting, restructuring and downsizing,
mergers and acquisitions, Corporate Social Responsibility
(CSR), etc.
Strategic HRM is the management of HR philosophies, policies,
and practices to enable the achievement of the organizational
strategy. Ideally, these philosophies, policies, and practices
form a system that attracts, develops, motivates, and trains
employees who ensure the survival and effective functioning of
the organization and its members.
As demonstrated, strategic HRM is strongly linked to the
profitability of an organization. It is obvious that an
organization achieves success through people. Therefore, the
management of people is considered a strategic resource that
requires planning. Successful organizations place a high value
on employees throughout their strategic planning. In this light,
strategic HRM planning would consider recruiting people with
skills required by the organization today and also recruiting
people for tomorrow‘s needs. This requires forward thinking
HRM.
Strategic HRM is at the heart of an organization’s
competitiveness, profitability, and relevancy. Organizational
performance is gained through HRM’s effective management of
employees that is in harmony with the organization’s strategy.
and Reward (2nd ed.), read the following chapters:Performance
and reward basicsManaging for engagementStrategic alignment
From the South University Online Library, read the following
article:Understanding Human Resource Management in the

Context of Organizations and their Environments
From the Internet, read the following articles:
Hrcouncil.ca (n.d.). HR Planning. Retrieved from
http://hrcouncil.ca/hr-toolkit/planning-strategic.cfm
Cooke, R., & Armstrong M. (1990, December). The Search for
Strategic HR. Personnel Management, 30–33.

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