Self defeating behaviour
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The document defines and discusses self-defeating behaviors. It notes that self-defeating behaviors are actions that make it less likely for a person to achieve their goals. Such behaviors are divided into counterproductive behaviors, which occur when a person's approach to achieving a goal is misguided, and trade-offs, which involve sacrificing one's health or well-being to avoid discomfort. Theories suggest self-defeating behaviors act as defense mechanisms or allow people to remain in their comfort zone by sabotaging opportunities. Ways to address self-defeating behaviors include identifying such behaviors, gaining insight into their impacts, practicing mindfulness, and building positive habits through self-reflection.
Self defeating behaviour
- 3. A self-defeating behavior is any behavior leading to a lower reward/cost ratio than is available through an alternative behavior or behaviors. Self-defeating behaviors include choosing to suffer, self-handicapping, failure to achieve potential, fear of success, learned helplessness, and procrastination. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 4. For social psychologists, a self-defeating behavior is any behavior that normally ends up with a result that is something the person doing the behavior doesn’t want to happen. If you are trying to accomplish some goal, and something you do makes it less likely that you will reach that goal, then that is a self-defeating behavior. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 5. “I am not good enough, so why bother?” “They believe I am not enough, so it must be true.” manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 6. Social psychologists have divided self-defeating behaviors into two types. 1. Counterproductive behaviors 2. Trade-offs. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 7. A counterproductive behavior happens when people try to get something they want, but the way they try to get it ends up not being a good one. Counterproductive behaviors usually happen because the person has a wrong idea either about himself or herself or about the situation the person is in. The students have an incorrect idea about their own abilities; they think they can succeed, but they can’t. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 8. The second type of self-defeating behavior is called trade-offs. One example is neglecting to take care of yourself physically. When people don’t exercise, go to the dentist, or follow the doctor’s orders, they are risking their health to either avoid some short-term pain or discomfort (such as the discomfort of exercise or the anxiety that the dentist causes). manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 9. Theories suggest that self-defeating behaviors are a kind of defense mechanism, fooling people into thinking that they are coping with stress, pressure, social demands, etc., while others suggest that self-defeating behaviors help a person to stay within their comfort zone (e.g., if someone feels a lack of self-confidence, they may sabotage a job opportunity to remain at a certain career level). manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 10. Physical/mental neglect Self-criticism Perfectionism Self-pity Procrastination Comparing yourself to others manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 11. Social withdrawal/alienation Risky sexual behaviors Refusing help Over-spending Relationship sabotage manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 12. Over/Under eating Self-injurious behaviors Drug and alcohol abuse manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 13. Start by identifying the behaviors in your life that you feel are getting in the way of reaching your goals. Insight is an integral part of changing your behavior. Get real. Find ways to stop minimizing these unhealthy behaviors and rationalizing their presence. Examine how a behavior really impacts your life. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 14. Don’t get down on yourself. Being overly critical of yourself or thinking that you are “weak” creates a worse self-concept, often leading lower self-esteem and confidence. Make it harder to act impulsively. Do you find that you over eat when you are stressed? Keep foods that you tend to binge on out of the house. Do you overspend when you are sad? Only withdraw enough cash for your weekly expenses and make access to your debit/credit cards more difficult. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com
- 15. Practice mindfulness. Focusing on the present can help you to more readily identify your emotions and the behaviors that are getting in the way of your goals. Start to self-reflect. Journaling or keeping a daily log of healthy habits can be a great way to build positive patterns of behavior. manoj.hrworld@gmail.com