Speaking the same language
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The document explores different types of friendships, highlighting the complexities of communication and tension that can arise among friends, bosom friends, and frenemies. It provides examples of dialogues that reflect the intricacies of sharing secrets, differing opinions, and social dynamics within these relationships. The writer emphasizes that the use of language and shared experiences can create both connections and conflicts among individuals.
Speaking the same language
- 1. To be a Friend or Not to Be a Friend
- 2. Share: • Words • Phrases • Secrets • Ideas The Bosom Friends May Be Keeping something from the other: • The Breakdown of their sharing of words introduces tension. • The knowledge that they don‘t share everything introduces tension (because the audience is in on it).
- 3. • Patty: ―I‘m so glad you‘re not dating her anymore!‖ • Jake: ―I‘m glad, too. She wasn‘t right.‖ • Patty: ―So not right. You need someone with more flair! Like that that Sarah girl.‖ • Jake: ―Flair, yeah, although that Sarah girl– Well, I need someone who can budget her own finances. That was a problem.‖ • Patty: ―Sarah couldn‘t budget—what?‖ • Jake: ―I know. Like you said, she wasn‘t right. Neither of them.‖ • Patty: ―Jeez. Wow. That‘s awful.‖ • Jake: ―And what made it worse was that she expected me to fix all her mistakes! She wanted a knight in shining armor to pay for everything, or some bullshit like that. I think that‘s overwhelms any flair I might like about her. ‖ • Patty: ―Why didn‘t you tell me about it earlier?‖
- 4. • Patty: ―I‘m so glad you‘re not dating her anymore!‖ • Jake: ―I‘m glad, too. She wasn‘t right.‖ • Patty: ―So not right. You need someone with more flair! Like that that Sarah girl.‖ • Jake: ―Flair, yeah, although that Sarah girl– Well, I need someone who can budget her own finances. That was a problem.‖ • Patty: ―Sarah couldn‘t budget—what?‖ • Jake: ―I know. Like you said, she wasn‘t right. Neither of them.‖ • Patty: ―Jeez. Wow. That‘s awful.‖ • Jake: ―And what made it worse was that she expected me to fix all her mistakes! She wanted a knight in shining armor to pay for everything, or some bullshit like that. I think that‘s overwhelms any Flair I might like about her. ‖ • Patty: ―Why didn‘t you tell me about it earlier?‖
- 5. New Friends don‘t have a set of previous memories to draw from, but they are building them fast. • Don‘t have a common language • Bring language from their respective families or friend groups and meld them together • Generally avoid large disagreements unless absolutely necessary, but at the same time they don‘t really know what will make the other upset.
- 6. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • Joe: ―Oh my god, just chillax, it‘s not such a big deal.‖ Sally: ―Chillax? I cannot believe you just used that word.‖ Joe: ―It‘s a great word!‖ Sally: ―It‘s ridiculous!‖ Joe: ―What would you use, if you‘re so smart?‖ Sally: ―I don‘t know, Chill out, maybe.‖ Joe: ―Oh my God, I am so sick of ‗chill out.‘‖ Sally: ―What‘s wrong with ‗Chill out‘? It‘s pretty much the same thing.‖ Joe: ―No, you don‘t understand. Everyone says it! Chill out this, and Chill out that! Come the Fuck on.‖ Sally: ―What are we going to say?‖ Joe: ―Chillax.‖ Sally: ―Ugh.‖ Joe: ―maybe…Chillubers. UberChill.‖ Sally: ―ChillUp, my friend, Chillup.‖ Joe: ―Haha! I like it. ChillUp. It sounds like a drink.‖
- 7. • Frenemies take many forms: • one person is trying to convince the other to do something by using the language of the person they‘re trying to convince. • People who used to be friends/close family/lovers but now can‘t stand each other. • People who have to interact because of business • People of different ranks socially, maybe who have to suck up to one or the other. (Servant lord, kinga prince who can save his kingdom, employee manager, people who are used to working alone but have to pool resources on a project. Frenemies: • Won‘t have the same language, so they won‘t be able to see eye to eye, but they might pretend.
- 8. • Tim: ―Oh come on, you said it yourself, you need a break.‖ • Ben: ―I guess, but I don‘t think I should take more time off work.‖ • Tim: ―Of course you should take time off work. Your boss won‘t mind! I‘ll talk to her myself! Vegas is waiting!‖ • Ben: ―I don‘t know…‖ • Tim: ―It‘ll be great. You know you‘ll have a great time. We‘ll go, we‘ll do a little gambling, we‘ll see some shows, and we‘ll be back before your boss has time to miss you.‖ • Ben: ―But what about Linda?‖ • Tim: ―Linda deserves the house to herself for a change!‖ • Ben: ―Look, I don‘t know. I don‘t have the money for it, and I really don‘t like crowds.‖ • Tim: ―We won‘t be in crowds. I promise. And I‘ll lend you money! Do you think I‘m such a bad friend? You can trust me, I promise.‖
- 9. • Choose One type of friendship to write a piece of dialogue for. • The Dialogue must have Tension. Some examples: • For instance, The Bosom Friends are keeping a secret from each other, even though they never keep secrets!tension and devolving relationship. • Even in times of tension they might share body motions or common ideals, which indicate a deeper relationship. • The First time friends find something that makes the other really mad (or even just jokingly mad)discovery and tension. They might create new words or phrases. • they know surface things about each other but may not share body movements. • Or the Frenemy is trying to convince the other of something that the one doesn‘t want to do or think. For instance, Iago hates Othello, so uses Othello‘s own language to convince him that his wife has cheated on him. • They will have opposite reactions and use opposite phrases. ―I love this film.‖ says Sam. ―The movie was fine,‖ agrees Jim. They‘re not even speaking in the same tense, let alone using the same word for ―movie/film.‖ If Jim wants something from Sam, he might start speaking in present tense, or using words Sam uses.
- 10. • To be clear: • This piece of dialogue should go in your AJ. I will check it as a Homework when I next collect your journals. • On Thursday I‘ll collect your workshop responses for Tammam, Ana, and Rebecca, like normal.