The Heroic Skill-Set

Hero Training
The Heroic Skill-Set
Use These Skills To Optimize Situations For Life Success

This Training Is Brought To You By
Shawn Fureys’
Hero Training School
An Education In Impact Management
“Transforming Ordinary Mortals Into Guardians Of The Good Life”
www.theherotrainingschool.com

About Shawn
Shawn Furey is a Hero Trainer and Situation Optimization
Strategist. He created an online hero training and hero
support program which functions as a kind of behavior
guidance system for people who might not have learned
growing up that we are all born to be heroic, that heroes
are situation technicians, and that situations can be
optimized for life success.
Shawn also applies his passion for heroism in his full-time
work as a Behavioral Health Technician at a ‘Supermax’
prison where he facilitates psychoeducational groups and
therapeutic activities with men who have been convicted
of a violent crime and have been diagnosed with a mental
health disorder.
He has a B.A. in Psychology with a double minor in
Sociology and Philosophy and is completing a M.S. in
Educational Psychology.
Shawn spoke at an international conference on Heroism
Science in Perth Australia on July 12th, 2016.

Heroic Life Management Skills
32 Skills of an Influential and Effective Change Agent

Concentration
You need to be able to focus your attention
on a single object or activity
if you’re going to be able to identify barriers and catalysts
to basic [universal] human need-satisfaction and personal goal-attainment.
For A More In-Depth Look At Concentration Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/L8xH5iIg5AM?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Focused Contemplation
You need to be able to think deeply about something specific
if you are going to be able to identify barriers and catalysts
For A More In-Depth Look At Focused Contemplation Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/bwUD0XhLIg?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Goal-Setting
Set goals related to your vision for the future
which will serve as the focal point of your efforts
to construct a better social ecosystem.
For A More In-Depth Look At Goal-Setting Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/lrSjxkZT-dE?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Situational Design
Design a plan for constructing the kind of situation
in which you can satisfy your own basic [universal] human needs
and advance progress toward your own personal goals.
For A More In-Depth Look At Situational Design Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/SjllF3HEKj0?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Critical Point Analysis
You need to be able to deconstruct the big picture view
of your actual current circumstances
and think deeply
about the way that situational variables are interacting with one another
in order to be able to identify barriers and catalysts
For A More In-Depth Look At Critical Point Analysis Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/JtS-_krQ7Z0?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Strategy Formation
Develop strategies for advancing progress toward personal goals
A good strategy is one that is going to have a constructive and catalytic
effect on your present and future situational conditions.
For A More In-Depth Look At Strategy Formation Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/cuhS4GvPVDw?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcal9

Outcome-Based Thinking
As part of the situational transformation process
remember to base your thinking and actions on desired outcomes
rather than on pre-established scripts or social roles.
For example, if your goal is to facilitate self-reliance in your daughter
then a good strategy might be to let her solve her own problems
– instead of you solving them for her.
Versus
I want to be a good mother
and a ‘good mother’ solves her daughters problems for her, right?”
(Just because that’s what your mom did with you doesn’t make it right)

Forecasting
Once you’ve begun to construct the kind of circumstances
in which need-satisfaction and goal-attainment are possible
use probability thinking (inductive logic) to predict the likely outcome
of current situational variables interacting with future events or changes.
For A More In-Depth Look At Forecasting Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/Sb3fFumYChE?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcal9

Mindfulness
As you engage with social realities
remember to keep your full attention on the task at hand
because once you’ve begun the situational transformation process
there will be a lot of push-back
from those people who don’t want the social ecosystem to change
– they’ll attempt to push your buttons and will try to distract you
so that you might end up making poor choices
and sabotage your own progress.
For A More In-Depth Look At Mindfulness Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/mT0dJ0LHqA?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Connecting Forward
Once you’ve constructed a healthy social ecosystem
remember that, as a participant, the only way to have a relationship
with others is to reach out toward them in connection
and you do that by asking them questions
and by getting to know them for who they are
– not by pretending that they are the same as you
and that they want what you want.
For A More In-Depth Look At Connecting Forward Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/uegCPvbXmhw?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPca9

Connected Knowing
As a participant in a good situation, remember that you don’t have to share the
same beliefs and values as somebody else
in order to have a good rapport with them socially
- it’s okay to think and act differently.
For A More In-Depth Look At Connected Knowing Click The Link Below
- https://youtu.be/Nj56QSaJK8U?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkP9

Vulnerability
As part of keeping a good situation a good situation
remember that the only way to be yourself truly
is to be yourself privately and publically
– and to do that requires that you put yourself at risk of social rejection.
Sometimes you’re going to meet people
who will not like you simply because you are not a clone of themselves
and you have to be okay with that in order to keep being yourself.
For A More In-Depth Look At Vulnerability Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/XYdFtTeQqek?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Boundaries
One of the ways that you can help yourself feel comfortable
around people who might be antagonistic to your own self-interests
is to set up and maintain semi-permeable boundaries.
In other words, engage with others
in ways that allows you to experience social connection
without becoming enmeshed
– without acting as if you and they are the same person
and without acting as if you are responsible
for their thoughts, feelings, and behavior, etc.
For A More In-Depth Look At Boundaries Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/pHTMI-ylHdk?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Accountability
If you or someone else violates
one of your agreed upon social and personal boundaries
it’s important that a ll parties involved can give an accurate account of true events;
especially related to the destructive impact
that ones’ behavior might have had on situational variables.
Additionally, if you are trying to shape someones’ behavior,
or habits of approach and response,
it’s important that you insist that they acknowledge
the ways in which they created their own problems.
After all, they can’t fix it if it’s not broken.
For A More In-Depth Look At Accountability Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/D9a4bjADGqw?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Motivating Forward
As a participant in a healthy social ecosystem
one of the things you can do
to keep it healthy and to keep yourself and others on the road to ‘the good life’
is to motivate one another toward flourishing life.
You do this by reinforcing those behaviors
which facilitate the cultivation and sustainability of nutrient-rich content
in the social environment
and progress toward the achievement of personal goals.
Also, it’s important to avoid reinforcing behaviors that reduce the probability of progressing
toward need-satisfaction and goal-attainment
For A More In-Depth Look At Motivating Forward Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/RMRHKa91vfM?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Emotional Intelligence
It’s important to be able to identify the way that you’re body feels
when you are experiencing an emotion and to be able to name the feeling as it arises.
Additionally, it’s important to be able to recognize the polarity
of the feeling; is it positively poled or negatively poled
(joy, peace, contentment vs sad, hurt, lonely, angry).
Feeling states clue you into the climate of your situation
– they reveal the weather in your social ecosystem
Once you know the polarity of your feelings
you can take an action-step to resolve the issue from which it arose
For A More In-Depth Look At Emotional Intelligence Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/7_YOis_4LW4?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcal9

Situational Awareness
The ability to identify five variables
that may be present in every situation
will help you focus your engineering and management efforts
in the right direction when necessary.
For A More In-Depth Look At Situational Awareness Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/JcixakFQIgo?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Situational Assessment
Having a standard of what is acceptable and what is not acceptable
will help you to be able to assess situational variables
for their conduciveness to the standard.
In other words,
by assessing your daily life circumstances
for conduciveness to need-satisfaction and goal-attainment
on a regular basis
you’ll be able to keep the social ecosystem
in a state of optimal health and functioning.
For A More In-Depth Look At Situational Assessment Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/BWoltnOpYP8?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcal9

Situational Understanding
Once you’ve obtained information
about the conduciveness of situational variables
to need-satisfaction and personal goal-attainment
you’ll be in a much better position to decide what to do next
and you’ll be able to spot barriers and catalysts,
and to create pathways to need-satisfaction and goal-attainment.
For A More In-Depth Look At Situational Understanding Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/TAPGScEBfRw?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcal9

Social Intelligence
By being aware of social norms in a given place
and of the way in which you and others are behaving
you’ll be in a much better position
to navigate social realities without incident.
For A More In-Depth Look At Social Intelligence Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/a13xMlUKcNM?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcaN9

Goal-Directed Action
By acting on purpose with your goal in mind you’ll increase your odds
of managing the impact that situational variables have
on your ability to advance progress toward personal goals.

Conflict Resolution
By being able to re-establish rules of engagement post-conflict
you’ll be able to minimize the destructive impact that situational variables
have on progress toward need-satisfaction and personal goals.
For A More In-Depth Look At Conflict Resolution Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/_y_zb6dcarY?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Stress Management
By finding socially-appropriate and strategically-effective ways
to manage stress you’ll prevent toxic energy build-up
and avoid acting out in ways that might halt progress toward personal goals.
For A More In-Depth Look At Stress Management Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/mHAisZpeFuY?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Delayed Gratification
By being able to delay gratification
you’ll be able to sustain your progress
toward need-satisfaction and personal goal-attainment
despite the impulse to give in, give up, shut down, or act out
when situational variables conspire against you
during the situational transformation process.
For A More In-Depth Look At Delayed Gratification Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/h_ebPBMbW8s?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Critical Thinking
By being able to critically evaluate the meaning of actions and events
before forming any concluding beliefs about situational variables
you’ll be able to avoid being duped into making a poor management
decision about your own daily life circumstances or about someone elses.
For A More In-Depth Look At Critical Thinking Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/-NnGCn7RiU8?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Depth Perception
By being able to see beneath the surface of a behavior
to it’s hidden meaning or message
you’ll be able to recognize patterns
between situations and individual behaviors.
In this way you’ll be able to identify
when an individuals’ behavior is out of alignment
with their typical way of approaching or responding to similar situations.
For A More In-Depth Look At Depth Perception Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/a_oDzDDXfw?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Pattern Recognition
By being able to recognize when an individuals’ behavior has occurred so often
in conjunction with similar situational conditions
that it can no longer be viewed as a fluke or coincidence
you’ll be able to recognize the scripted roles that a person might be playing.
In other words, you’ll be able to see the way in which
they are sub-consciously acting out a script
– continually recreating the same kind of oppressive social environments
in which they grew up.
For A More In-Depth Look At Pattern Recognition Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/cb_IruLXa-w?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Problem Recognition
By being able to recognize
when a patterned behavior has become a problem behavior
you’ll be in a better position to make management decisions
about how to address this individuals’ behavior.
For example, you might think your mom is perfect
and that she’d never sabotage your success in life,
but now you can’t help but have noticed
that she seems to have sabotaged your success five times
in the past two months. Coincidence, I think not.
Sometimes the people we least expect are actually the ones
who have been playing a border-bully role with us for a long time.
For A More In-Depth Look At Problem Recognition Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/dq8cY2_Aw3U?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Assertive Problem-Solving
Once you’ve identified a patterned behavior as a problem behavior
you’ll be in a position to confront that problem behavior
in a way that is both socially-appropriate and strategically-effective.
For A More In-Depth Look At Assertive Problem-Solving Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/aYvnQWHnqFQ?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Assertive Communication
By being able to communicate with others in a way that allows you to advocate
for your own needs, wants, and desires without imposing yourself on others
you’ll be able to maintain a good rapport with others even during times of social conflict.
(Remember that a good rapport with others is necessary for need-satisfaction).
For A More In-Depth Look At Assertive Communication Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/fZ0nOe7Z6Ts?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9
https://youtu.be/ry8mZTYZ8hk?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Limit-Setting
By being able to set limits on yourself and on others
regarding what is and is not okay to do
you’ll be in a much better position
to prevent and to navigate through social conflicts.
For A More In-Depth Look At Limit-Setting Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/j0n8senJwGA?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

Tolerating Discomfort
By being able to tolerate the emotional and physical discomfort
that will inevitably arise during the situational transformation process
you’ll significantly increase your odds of achieving your goal
For A More In-Depth Look At Tolerating Discomfort Click The Link Below
https://youtu.be/7OsymOKNHRs?list=PLjXtrh5ENbqSzsl7DmrFPcez4MkPcalN9

If you can maintain your motivation
for heroic life management
then you can feel good
about having joined the ranks
of all those heroic men and women
who’ve gone on before you
throughout time and space
as ‘guardians of the good life.’

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Thank-you!
Have a great day and a great life!

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