This document discusses theory as an object through the lens of psychoanalysis. It begins by anthropomorphizing theory and considering where theory might stand in terms of gender. It then uses Donald Winnicott's 1968 paper on "The Use of an Object and Relating through Identification" as a focal point. The author situates themselves and their entry into psychoanalysis through an interest in addressing women's position in society. Finally, it analyzes Winnicott's concept of using versus relating to an analyst or analytic theory, and considers when another discipline may use, relate to, or identify with a psychoanalytic theory.