Putting the NIP in maNIPulation
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The document discusses manipulation and provides strategies for dealing with manipulative people. It defines manipulation as controlling or influencing someone unfairly for one's own advantage. Some signs of a manipulative person include passive aggression, rudeness, overly friendly behavior, and gossiping. The document recommends trusting your instincts, documenting interactions, asking probing questions about motives, and pushing back against power plays to avoid being manipulated. It emphasizes being your own advocate and prioritizing self-care.
Putting the NIP in maNIPulation
- 1. Finding ways to deal with manipulative people
- 2. What is manipulation? “To control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means especially to one's own advantage.”
- 3. Have you been manipulated? Dignity and respect Doubt and censure Thank you for your opinion. What do you think about this situation? I appreciate your efforts. I’d like to ask for your input. You call that working hard? I can’t believe you are that sensitive! What’s wrong with you?
- 4. Why do people manipulate? Boredom Sociopathic personalities Insecurities Power Control events in their own lives
- 5. How can you avoid being manipulated? Trust your instincts. Talk situations over with friends. Watch out for body language. Educate yourself. Start “NIPPING” back. How do I feel when __________ happens?
- 6. NIP Back-N for NOTICE N: Stands for NOTICE How does this person react around you? Passive aggressive Rude Overly friendly Gossips Reflect on how this behavior makes you feel.
- 7. NIP Back “I” stands for Investigate and Instincts Start documenting your hunches Record dates, conversations, reactions, scenarios. Ask yourself if anyone around you sees these same things. Look and evaluate the person’s motives. Only confront the person with another person present.
- 8. NIP Back “P” stands for Probe and Push Back Probe about their motives. Questions to ask: “Are you trying to imply that I’m ________? “Why would you ask me that?” Push back against their power plays. “Tell me why you would say that.” “I feel _______when you say _________.”
- 9. Your choices Do nothing. Ignore the problem. Be your own advocate. Read about psychology. Be good to yourself. What will you do to avoid being manipulated?
- 10. Your choices Do nothing. Ignore the problem. Be your own advocate. Read about psychology. Be good to yourself. What will you do to avoid being manipulated?