child guidance and its principles
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This document outlines principles of child guidance for helping psychologically or emotionally disturbed children through counseling. It discusses 12 principles: mutual respect between parents and children; encouragement by focusing on children's strengths; taking responsibility for one's own behavior rather than attempting to control children; using natural and logical consequences rather than punishment; action being more effective than words during conflicts; withdrawing from struggles with children; withdrawing attention rather than from the child; resisting interference in children's conflicts; taking time for training children in skills and values; and recognizing that children's behavior has purpose as they try to find their place in the family.
child guidance and its principles
- 3. CHILD GUIDANCE IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY OR EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED CHILDREN, ESPECIALLY THROUGH COUNSELLING CHILD GUIDANCE
- 4. PRINCIPLES OF CHILD GUIDANCE 1. Mutual respect 2. Encouragement 3. Be responsible for your own behavior and feelings 4. Natural consequences 5. Logical consequences 6. Punishment 7. Action is more effective than words 8. Withdrawing from struggles 9. Withdraw from the struggle , not from the child 10.Resist interfering 11.Take the time for training 12.Resist doing for children what they can do for themselves 13.Children’s behavior has purpose 14.Children are keen observers of situations CHILD GUIDANCE
- 5. Mutual Respect It is the key to improving relationships between parents and children. Parents and children are not the same; adults are are more knowledgeable and experienced. However , children are equal to parents in terms of worth and dignity. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 6. Encouragement It implies faith in children as they are, not as parents would like them to be. Children misbehave only when they are discouraged and believe they cannot succeed by useful means. Children need encouragement just as plants need water. Parents can encourage children by focusing on their asserts and strengths. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 7. Be responsible for your own behavior and feelings Parents must accepts responsibility for improving the situations other than making futile attempts to make children behave. Instead of ruling children, parents can create an atmosphere in which guiding and helping children is possible. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 8. Natural consequences It allow the children to learn from the physical reality or situation rather than parental authority. The consequences of the situation can often exert the necessary pressure to stimulate useful motivations. Only in moments of real danger is it necessary to protect children from the natural consequences of their own disturbing behavior. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 9. Logical consequences Allow children to learn from the physical reality of the social world. Parents can intervene with consequences that both the parents and children can see as logically related to mis behavior and as respectful and reasonable. Through logical consequences children are offered choices and are encouraged to make responsible decision rather than being forced submit. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 10. Punishment It is outdated. Children consider punishment as license to punish other or to retaliate against their parents. Encouragement and natural and logical consequences can be more effective methods of child discipline CHILD GUIDANCE
- 11. Action is more effective than words It is in times of conflict. Children tend to become “parent- deaf” and act only when raised voices imply some impending action, and then respond only momentarily. Usually children know very well what is expected of them. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 12. Withdrawing from struggle Withdrawing from struggle with children can be effective counteraction. Parents can physically remove themselves with out it being surrender. Removal is most effective when children demand undue attention or try to involve parents in power contests CHILD GUIDANCE
- 13. Withdraw from the struggle , not from the child Although talking and interactions in moments of conflict with children are ineffective , friendly conversation and pleasant contacts at other times are essential. Have fun and play together. The les attention children get when they are disturbing, the more cooperative the relationship may become. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 14. Resist interfering Resist interfering in children’s fights. By allowing children to resolve their own conflict, they learn to get along better. Many fights are provoked to get parents involved to act as referees and judges. Parents can best help children with social skills at times when they are not fighting CHILD GUIDANCE
- 15. Take time for training Parents need to teach children useful skills and values. This training should be done when neither parents nor children are upset. Taking time for training will eventually save time; untrained children demand much of their parent’s time. CHILD GUIDANCE
- 16. Children’s behavior as purpose Their basic purpose is to find their place in the social group, such as the family. Well- adjusted children have found their way towards social acceptance by understanding the requirements of the group or social situation and making useful contributions to it. Misbehaving children are still trying, in mistaken ways, to gain social status. CHILD GUIDANCE
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