Insel10ebrup Ppt Ch04
- 1. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four
- 2. Developing Intimate Relationships Be willing to give of themselves Share their ideas, feelings, time, and needs Self-Concept and Self-Esteem Feel good about ourselves Roots of our identity and self Developed during childhood Relationships with parents and other family members Gender roles Style of attachment Formulation of friendships
- 3. Friendship Characteristics Companionship Respect Acceptance Help Trust Loyalty Reciprocity
- 4. Love, Sex, and Intimacy Most basic and profound human emotions. Encompasses opposites: Affection and anger Excitement and boredom Stability and change Bonds and freedom Love does not give us perfect happiness, but it does give our lives meaning. Positive factors that draw people together
- 5. “ The Love Triangle” (Figure 4-1)
- 6. The Pleasure and Pain of Love Intense love has confused and tormented lovers though-out history Passionate love Recognize the human emotions Two components: Physiological arousal Emotional explanation for the arousal
- 7. The Transformation of Love All relationships change over time. At first, high levels of passion and increased intimacy Reduction of romance and or passion leads to the transformation of deep love.
- 8. Challenges in Relationships Honesty and Openness Unequal or Premature commitment Unrealistic Expectations Expecting your partner to change Assuming Unsupported beliefs Competitiveness Balance of Time together and apart Jealousy Is not an element of love
- 9. Successful Relationships Realistic expectations Mutual trust Open communication Effective ways to resolve conflict Ask for and give support Agreement on religious/ethical values Equal roles Balance of individual and joint interests Take Charge Box “ Strategies For Enhancing Support in Relationships”
- 10. Ending a Relationship Reasons why? Guidelines of a breakup Fair chance Be fair and honest Be tactful and compassionate If you are the rejected person, make time for resolving your anger and pain Recognize the value of the experience
- 11. Communication Nonverbal As much as 65% of face-to-face communication is nonverbal Ability to interpret nonverbal messages Communication skills Self-disclosure Listening Feedback is a constructive response Gender differences in communication Men Establishing dominance/competitive Men talk more/listen less Women Establishing friendships Seeking advice Obtaining cues from listening and eye contact
- 12. Conflict and Conflict Resolution Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining intimate relationships. Clarify the issue. Find out what each person wants. Identify various alternatives. Decide how to negotiate. Solidify the agreements. Review and renegotiate.
- 13. Pairing and Singlehood Choosing a Partner. Similarities (to your own) Ethnic and socioeconomic background, educational level, lifestyle, physical attractiveness, and other traits. First attraction – observable characteristics Communication. Acceptance. Most important question – How much do we have in common?
- 14. Dating Different cultures have different rituals for finding a mate Centers on a mutually enjoyable activity American Culture Getting to know each other Traditional male-female dating pattern Dating of young people “Today”
- 15. Living Together Cohabitation 30 years old Half of all men and women have cohabited. Factors of acceptance Rarely continues indefinitely Advantages Liabilities
- 16. Same-Sex Partnership Gay and Lesbian Sexual orientation Homosexual relationships in relation to heterosexual relationships Traditional gender roles Societal attitudes Same-sex marriage Civil rights “Homophobia”
- 17. Singlehood Diverse group 180 million single individuals Factors that contribute to a growing number Advantages Disadvantages Enjoyment depends upon:
- 19. Marriage Benefits of Marriage Issues of marriage Realistic expectations Feels good about the personality of their mate Communication Conflict resolution Religious and ethical values Egalitarian role Good balance of individual and joint interests Role of Commitment
- 20. Separation and Divorce High rates.. Why? 50-55% chance of divorcing Process of Divorce. Emotional separation - First step Physical separation Greatest stress producing event next to the death of a spouse or family member Recovery from divorce. Remarriage.
- 21. Family Life Becoming a Parent Preparation for parenthood Own stability and readiness to be a parent Physical health Teenage parenting Over the age of 35 Nutritional habits Genetics Financial Considered educational and career plans Emotionally ready Social support Attitudes and aptitudes
- 22. Parenting Parenting styles Authoritarian Authoritative Permissive (or indulgent) Uninvolved
- 23. Parenting and the Family Life Cycle Provide a balance of firm limits and clear structure High levels of: Warmth Nurturance Respect Grow of independence
- 24. Single-parent Families Differences to a traditional family life cycle. Difficulties experienced as a single parent. Single Fatherhood. Children from single-parent families.
- 25. Stepfamilies 3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry. Should not be expected to duplicate the emotions and relationships of an intact family. Healthy stepfamilies are less cohesive and more adaptable than healthy intact families. Allow for more individual differences. More of a history they have the more of a family unit is built.
- 26. Qualities of Successful Families Commitment Appreciation Communication Time together Spiritual wellness Coping with stress and crisis
- 27. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four