Nqt b 2012
- 1. Acting-Out Cycle 1
- 2. How Can I Get Myself To React Less? FEEL THINK DO 2
- 3. How can I Get Myself To React Less? To reduce the amount we react we could try some of the following:- • Deliberately make more of a ‘gap’ between the ‘FEEL’ and the ‘DO’. • Count to ten (or less). • Be creative in ‘buying yourself’ time. • Consider more than one option. 3
- 4. How can I Get Myself To React Less? • Focus on slowing your breathing. Slow deep breaths – inhale 7, exhale 11. This should help slow heart rate. • Choose & use a personal mantra or image i.e. – I am in control of my body.... – This is just a child..... – This could go bad... – This is bad for my health... – I am the adult... – I must model a good response... 4
- 5. How can I Get Myself To React Less? • Remind yourself that this is not personal. • Move your attention to someone/something else. • Go back to your desk/shuffle papers/ look outside the classroom/focus on a ‘spot’. • Be aware of muscles – start with face, neck, shoulders etc. • Remember you are more likely to be irritable/react to minor things when ‘adrenaline besotted’. 5
- 6. How can I Get Myself To React Less? • Spot your inner dialogues that make you most reactive – the thoughts that perpetuate negative feelings. – “That Terry is a mean little blighter” – “He's always trying to take advantage of me”. – “She shows no respect for me or anyone” • “The individual with the greatest flexibility of thought and behaviour can and generally will control the outcome of any interaction” 6
- 7. How can I Get Myself To React Less? Be aware of your Inner Dialogue. Possible Possible Behaviour Feelings “Who does s/he think Anger Aggression s/he is?” “How could s/he behave Hurt Non-assertion like that in my classroom?” “This looks nasty: I’d Fear Non-assertion better go along with it” “He’s getting annoyed Calmness Assertion but I’ve seen this before”. 7
- 8. How can I Get Myself To React Less? • Keep control of your own behaviour so you can respond assertively. • Become aware of your own ‘inner dialogue’. • “Professionals who behave confidently and who give the impression that things are under control are less likely to be assaulted or to witness assaults”. • Plan for problem involvement of a second adult. 8