Quality vs quantity
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The document discusses the relationship between happiness and the quality versus quantity of actions in life, emphasizing that true happiness comes from activities that one genuinely enjoys and invests time in. It outlines steps to identify important areas in life, set achievable goals, and maintain consistent efforts to realize happiness. The main message highlights that happiness is an ongoing process linked to the quality of experiences rather than the sheer number of accomplishments.
Quality vs quantity
- 2. Introduction Have you ever encountered times when you feel like you have done so many things in your life, but somehow, you still feel unsatisfied or something is missing in your life?
- 3. Reasons why you are not satisfied or happy • First, you have been doing things that are not bringing you happiness • It does not matter how much effect you put into doing things that do not bring you happiness; they will never bring you happiness • For example, if you do not like to play football, then it does not matter how much effect you try to like football, you are not going to like football • In this case, you want to make sure you are doing things that will bring you happiness
- 4. Reasons why you are not satisfied or happy Second, you want to make sure you give things time to develop and grow before you experience happiness Most things require you to reach a certain level before you can experience enough happiness If you stop before you reach the happiness level, then you are not going to experience happiness
- 5. Happiness is an ongoing process • Happiness is something that you have to keep on pursuing • For example, if playing tennis brings you happiness, then you have to keep on playing in order to maintain that happiness • Playing tennis one time will only bring you happiness at that moment • There is no destination for happiness • Happiness is an ongoing process that requires constant actions • The more action you take, the happier you will become
- 6. “Happiness is found in doing, not merely possessing.” Napoleon Hill
- 7. Is your effect high or low? If you ever feel unsatisfied with your accomplishments, then try to think back on how many action steps did you take Did it take you a few steps or many? How much of an effect did the steps take for you to accomplish your goal?
- 8. Aim for high effect • You might have accomplished many things, but if you did not take many steps or did not have a high level of effect to accomplish them, then your happiness would not be as high compared to another person who accomplished fewer things who took many steps with a higher effect level to achieve their goals • For example, when you are working on a project, it is the hard work and the feelings that you develop through the process that determines your happiness, and not the outcome of the project • The main reason why challenging problems will bring you more happiness than simpler problems is because they require you to put more time and effect into them
- 9. “Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” Arthur Ashe
- 10. Loving someone • Another example is when you fall in love with someone • When you first met them, you would not know if you love or even will like that person or not, right? • It is only after you get to know and understand that person, then you will being to love that person • The more time you spend with that person, the more your understanding and appreciation will grow, which will then translate into love
- 11. Focus on quality, not quantity In this case, the majority of your happiness is based on quality, not quantity The wonderful thing is that whatever and whoever is already in your life, they will bring you happiness if you give them time to grow
- 12. Action Steps • 1. list down every aspect of your life (personal, private, public, health, career, relationship, etc.) • 2. For each area, write down every single thing that you would need or want to do in order to bring you happiness. For example, if your children make you happy, then list down everything you would need to do for them such as: taking them to school, feeding them, bathing them, or reading them bedtime stories. • Or your health such as: exercising, eating, sleeping, mentality, spirituality, etc.
- 13. Action Steps • 3. Look through all the areas and tasks, and only pick the top 3 tasks that are the most important to you. If you could only do 3 tasks out of everything in your life, what would they be?
- 14. Action Steps 4. For each of your top 3 tasks, what is your goal for each one? For example, if you say exercise is one of the top 3, then what is your goal for exercising in your life? Is it 3 times per week, or 1 time per week, or every day? Or if you say reading a bedtime story to your child is important, then what is your goal? Is it reading to them every day, once a week, three times a week, or whatever you set your goal to be? To make your goals even better, you want to be as specific as possible. For example, how long will your exercises be, 30 minutes, 60 minutes, or 2 hours? Or if your goal is to read to your children, is it for 30 minutes, 60 minutes, or 2 hours?
- 15. Action Steps • 5. You want to make sure you do not fail and most important keep on improving on your top 3 goals. Your 3 goals, you want to make sure you accomplish them no matter what happen. The better you accomplish your 3 goals, the happier you will become. • Your top 3 goals are like your 3 daily tasks for your job. If you do not accomplish your top 3 tasks for your job, then you will be fired. In this case, if you do not accomplish your top 3 daily goals, you will suffer a lot. • For example, if your goal is to exercise 3 times per week, you want to make sure you accomplish that goal. Furthermore, the more you improve on your exercise routine for the 3 times per week, the happier you will become.
- 16. Action Steps 6. For each of your goal, you want to research and discover the benefits that will manifest if you are able to accomplish your goals perfectly. For example, if you are able to feed your children with the best nutrition, what are the positive outcomes for your children? Or if your goal is to exercise, then what are the positive outcomes if you are able to exercise perfectly? You want to be the best you can for your top 3 goals. Even though you cannot be perfect on your top 3 goals, you still want to be the best you can with them.
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