Sample tdv outline
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This document outlines a presentation on teen dating violence for youth. It introduces House of Ruth services that help victims of domestic violence and abuse. The goal is to provide an overview of unhealthy relationships and build alliances. Key points that will be covered include why teen dating violence is discussed, common warning signs and types of abusive behaviors including physical, emotional, sexual, stalking, and social abuse. The cycle of violence and reasons why victims may stay with abusers will also be examined. The presentation will provide guidance on how to help a friend in an abusive relationship by bringing up the subject carefully, validating their feelings, discussing options for support and safety planning.
Sample tdv outline
- 1. Teen Dating Violence Outline Breathe.. 1. Introduce yourself and your position within the agency a. Gender usage. This is really important with this group! Equality b. Question format 2. House of Ruth services · Shelter: Emergency and Transitional · Counseling: Group and individual · Children’s program · Case management · Legal advocacy · CHAT: Counseling for children, teens exposed to violence/trauma · Community Education 3. The goal of this presentation: Overview of Unhealthy Relationships, Alliance Building 4. Why do we talk about Teen Dating Violence? a. 1 in 3 5. Warning Signs a. Jealousy, Possessiveness, Controlling 6. Teen Dating Violence is all about Power and Control 7. Types of abuse in a relationship. Where does it start? a. Physical abuse i. hickies ii. pushing, throwing, kicking. Not necessarily you but around you. iii. slapping, grabbing, hitting, punching, tripping, bruising, choking, shaking iv. pinching, biting v. holding, restraining, not letting you in the car, get out of the car vi. breaking bones vii. leaving you places viii. burning, especially cigarette ix. hair pulling b. Mental/Emotional/Verbal Abuse i. Unreasonable jealousy ii. Extreme moodiness iii. Silent treatment/ Withdrawal of affection iv. "I would die without you..." v. “They don’t understand our love…” vi. Manipulation vii. destruction of the victim’s personal property and possessions, or threats to do so viii. threatening to break up with them ix. yelling or screaming x. name-calling. Ex: bitch as a term of endearment xi. criticizing or diminishing the victim’s accomplishments or goals xii. criticizing the victim’s friends, family, clothes…
- 2. c. Sexual abuse i. sexual assault: unwanted sexual touching ii. rape: unwanted sexual penetration iii. sexual exploitation: forcing someone to participate in stripping, prostitution or pornography iv. sexual harassment: unwanted verbal or visual sexual attention, comments, gestures, forcing someone to look at pornography. Sexting is often child pornography, can be used for “Sextortion.” v. Yes means Yes & No Means No. Consent = Active and Enthusiastic d. Stalking/ Cyber stalking i. repeated phone calls, texts. Becoming mad that they don’t get a call back. ii. following someone iii. going through someone’s cell phone when they are not there iv. GPS v. stalking through facebook, etc. vi. suddenly showing up at school, or work vii. having their friends “spy” on them while they are not with the batterer. viii. contacting the victim’s friends, family, co-workers, or neighbors to find out about the victim e. Social abuse i. embarrassing, making fun of the victim in front of family or friends including online ii. excessive possessiveness, isolation from friends and family iii. their only friends are each other iv. rumors, lies, gossip. Turning people against victim or vice versa. 8. The Cycle of Violence a. Honeymoon b. Tension c. Explosion 9. Why victims Stay a. Fear b. Guilt c. Isolation d. School e. Social status f. Love 10. If this is a one time presentation: How to Help a Friend a) Bring up Subject b) Validate feelings, acknowledge seriousness c) Don’t buy into denial d) Respect their right to make her own decision e) Provide Options: a. Talk to a parent, counselor, etc. b. Restraining Order -can get at 12 years old without parental consent
- 3. c. Refer to resources (House of Ruth): Remind about our Hotline. f) Assess safety & make safety plan (Vary their routine- take different routes to school, classes, and home.)